Did any of you plan not to have children? Reading through this thread I feel confident enough to admit, being without children was always going to be. In 1968, the year that we were married, contraception was, not exactly 100%. There was the contraceptive pill and that did wonders for my wife's erratic periods, it was also just about the most reliable form of contraception there was. At that time many a child owed it's presence to a condom failure.
By the end of 1969 the pill was starting to get a bad press. What to do? I had a vasectomy, and that was at the age of 23. Fifty-five years on this is the first time that I have openly admitted it. Back then it would be another five years before the snip, as it became known, was freely available on our NHS. My vasectomy was performed at a private clinic and cost a month's salary.
Do we dislike children? Not at all. We engage with them, have some wonderful God-children and are happy for those for whom children are a blessing. You don't have to dislike children to not want any of your own. It's a concept that many find hard to fathom.
One day, one of us will have to mourn the other, it won't be easy, but it's bridge to cross when we get there.