Lewkat
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Gee, Frank, if it isn't one thing it's another. I hope Bonnie will make the right choice.
sorry murr. hope all goes well.I am still coping with issues after my brain aneurysms. Its been years and I still have problems with it. Will add her to my pray list.Wow, so sorry @Murrmurr ! I hope all goes well for Bonnie. She's your little sis and always will be.
I hope everything going on around you is set to right, too, Peps.Very sorry to hear this news about Bonnie. I don't cope well lately, especially dealing with most things on my own, so I really feel for her and am hoping for the best for your sister.
Yeah, she called again today. She doesn't remember calling me yesterday, doesn't remember what the doctor told her, and she couldn't say the word cancer but she could spell it. So, very apparent cognitive issues.I hate to say this, Frank, but it doesn't sound good for Bonnie at all. Right now, pray a lot.
Definitely get to any hospital she may be in and speak to the people in Admissions or the head nurse to direct you to the right individual to name you as her medical advisor. She certainly needs someone who can shoulder some responsibility here.
That's terrible pain, I'm so sorry to hear that!I have an abscessed tooth right now (!excruciating!), and the infection has reached my airway, .......I'm on a powerful antibiotic, so a few more days.
Yes, sounds bad!That's terrible pain, I'm so sorry to hear that!
Makes me want to pull out what's left of my teeth!Yes, sounds bad!
Don't do that! But I know what you mean.Makes me want to pull out what's left of my teeth!
I was at the ER with my son, Liam, and he said "You know, Grant and I will help you if you need it."Makes me want to pull out what's left of my teeth!
Appointment made.I feel for you, Murr. It has got to be rough seeing Bonnie's decline
Get to a dentist, pronto!
I think so. I might ask her oncologist.I'm wondering about Bonnie. Could these tumors have existed for years? If so, could they be behind some of her problems?
"I would be happy to lend any assistance if Bonnie decides she would like to try."It seems to me that you are well know that the outcome is very bad. This is the point where you and the family make the decision to tell her the truth of her condition. She may very well not have a long time. You know her best, were there things she wanted to see or do in her lifetime.
Although we were told there was no hope, my husband was not inclined to believe the horrible information we were given. They told him about 8 months to a year. We went the through traditional chemo even though they said it would not work. We then went to clinical trials, and they did slow progression without the horrible side effects. He did live 5 years and was only really sick for the last 3 months. The thing that got him were a pulmonary embolism and a brain bleed when he fell in the kitchen hitting the tile floor.
I think the best thing is to tell her the truth, at the doctor so he can answer her questions on the options. It is important to let her digest the information and decide what she wants to do. She may decide to fight while doing things she has also wanted to do. Visit special places, spend time with people that mean a lot to her when she is well enough to do so.
My husband was very blessed to have a lifetime friend that was more than happy to travel with him while I could be home taking care of our son. I never said no to anything he wanted to do. For the most part, he wanted to keep working which was a big part of his identity as a man. My job was to take care of him and his medical needs.
His major clinical trial was in Scottsdale AZ, I was in charge of all travel plans, flights, hotels, car rentals and oxygen set up at the hotel. The clinical trial paid for all of this and all our meals. We were truly blessed by these people. You never know what is available until you look. I would refer you to the NIH which is where I found the trial. I would be happy to lend any assistance if Bonnie decides she would like to try.
Meesh is SO good to me. She wants to take care of me. Not like a built-in nurse or maid or whatever, but like in a bunch of little ways - make my tea for me, bring me some socks or a lap-blanket, massage my hands...that kind of stuff. That's all totally new to me. Took some getting used to, honestly.Frank, you have had so many issues lately. Thankfully you have Meesh and Grant and other family to support you.