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  1. #136
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    I was born in Vermont, and lived most of my life in "the North." That includes Ohio, Minnesota, New Hampshire and Maine. i lived in Florida for a few years. I made a mess of my life in Florida. Our family originally moved from New Hampshire to Minnesota in the 1970s. I followed soon after. I followed my parents to Florida for awhile. Then I deviated, and moved to Maine to get married. They resettled to Minnesota, and here I am again.



    My ex-wife and I most likely knew our marriage was a bad idea from the start. Then we decided to end the marriage on a friendly basis. I am happy about that because she deserves to be happy.

  2. #137
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    It's kind of strange being alone now and realizing I have no one other than myself to explain to or to be responsible to.

  3. #138
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    Quote Originally Posted by Camper6 View Post
    It's kind of strange being alone now and realizing I have no one other than myself to explain to or to be responsible to.
    I've been divorced 52 years and find THAT very liberating. I do whatever I want without having to debate or compromise all my choices.

  4. #139
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    Most definitely happier being single rather than married. I always have money to do things I want My ex- spouse hasn't put us deep in debt. I've paid off everything and since I've been single, I've been able to save money. I don't have to clean up after him, cook for him or wash his clothes. I worked as many hours as he, but I still was expected to do all the domestic chores . He was borderline OCD - as long as someone else did the work. I've been happier than I ever remember being in my whole life!

  5. #140
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    I miss the companionship and the sex.

  6. #141
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    I have been divorced for 25 years now and in my late 30's I could see my marriage quickly falling apart so by the age of 40 the divorce was a Godsend. There are times I do miss a man around the house, but during that time I have had my share of dates and even relationships and enjoyable sex and I still do go out on dates although not for a few years. So I certainly have enjoyed being single because I mingled all through it.

  7. #142
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    Quote Originally Posted by Twilight View Post
    I miss the companionship and the sex.
    And all the cwap and B.S. that goes with it all. Molly has the same thoughts I've done and had as I approach 81 and a date is the thing I want to eat as a nice sweet.

    Hitachi has makes a great Magic Wand and I went thru 2 even with bf's....

    They are good for massaging many parts of the body.

  8. #143
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    I was divorced at 41, no children, and am rapidly approaching my 55th birthday. I would not change a thing. I have occasional moments of feeling lonesome, most pointed at the holidays. But overall, NO desire to change my situation. I have wonderful family, good friends, amazing little dogs who share my life, and quite honestly, enjoy my own company. The biggest 'obstacle' to happiness in solo living is overcoming the expectation that you 'should' have someone. Once I decided that was a requirement I didn't want to care about, life has been so much more of what I need: Simple. Peaceful. Easy. I DO worry about the what ifs should the day come that I need help. I am still working, and putting money away with an eye to providing for that, be it Visiting Angels, or a facility. I would much rather work toward that, than work toward finding 'The One', so that I'm not alone, when after this many years in a relationship largely with myself, I've decided it's working, I'm the one, and we'll go from there

  9. #144
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    Quote Originally Posted by Falcon View Post
    Being unmarried doesn't mean you have to be alone.
    You are so correct John! We all need some alone time in our lives, so when I get lonely, I go grocery shopping ... After that... I don't want anybody around me!
    Crying babies, yelling mothers, rude cashiers... I enjoy living alone with my cat.. He follows me everywhere I go in our home... Great Kitty he is!
    I am on the computer chatting with people all over the world...I don't really get lonely!... I love my single life!

  10. #145
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    If I had known at 20 what I know now, I would never have married. I've been married and divorced 3 times - which makes me a three time loser, I guess. First time 1 1/2 years, then 19 years and the last time 6 years. All big mistakes. Due to a thoroughly dysfunctional childhood, I was primed to make very poor choices. I stayed with the second one as long as I did because I had no way of making greater than minimum wages and I had 4 children - ages 9 to 13, so I went back to school and graduated with a BSN. He manipulated me into staying 5 more years. He was always demanding a divorce when he was annoyed because I wouldn't do something he wanted me to do; he demanded a divorce one time too many.
    My youngest daughter and her son has lived with me since her divorce - the son moved out for a couple of years and moved back with his son when he and his GF split 3+ years ago.
    I've now been single for over 30 years now and have no desire to ever wed again. However, I am certainly not alone with 3 other people living here - in fact, I could use quite a bit more of alone time at this point. My daughter fell and sustained a very serious injury last spring and has been home almost 24 hours a day. (She hopes to be able to go back to work this fall). Her son works part time and goes to school part time. Someone is here almost all the time. I've always been a bit of a loner who very much enjoys her alone time and it's been pretty scarce around here lately. LOL
    As for myself, I take classes at the local Junior college (TaiChi and art) and take music lessons on both banjo and violin - to keep myself out of trouble. I was very, very fortunate to work for an employer who provided their employees with very good pensions and I got in in time to miss the later cut backs so I can live fairly well and help out my kids and for the first time in my life save money. Everything is paid for which never would have happened if I had stayed married to any of my husbands. We always lived on the financial edge of disaster. It took me a number of years to pull myself out of it.

  11. #146
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    Ahh, interesting posts. Husband passed 14 months ago. Have adjusted to being alone very well, so I think. Was still lonely, sex, companionship, etc. Prior to my husband passing, had an electrician over to fix something, after husband passed, had him come back over to do something else. At that time, he gave me his phone number and said if I wanted to get together for coffee and chat, call him, his wife had passed a year prior. Took me almost a year and I called. Our relationship couldn’t be better. Have zero intention on moving in together, life is good the way it is. I don’t ask him to do anything for me, though I know he’d be there. I feel so comfortable with him and talk about anything, as he does with me. We do talk about our deceased spouses which I like, but not a lot, just stories or comments here and there. He lives about 5 miles from me which is perfect. Perfect situation for me, alone a lot and together quite frequently. Life is good so far.

  12. #147
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    That's wonderful Debbie...sound like the perfect "companionship" situation.
    Don't get even get odd.

  13. #148
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    Quote Originally Posted by Liberty View Post
    That's wonderful Debbie...sound like the perfect "companionship" situation.
    Liberty,
    Thanks.

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