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  1. #31
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    it is a crap shoot. but to get head start it should be someone you know and like/love and respect and know well...then it is very workable. no surpirses that way.

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    OOOOOOOOps I really need to check dates of threads here,LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by MeAgain View Post
    OOOOOOOOps I really need to check dates of threads here,LOL
    A lot of older posts are worth being revived!
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    This makes me sad because of Ina.

    “The United States has become a place where entertainers and professional athletes are mistaken for people of importance.” -- Robert Heinlein

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    that is not my advice ...just stuff I stole from others and it was then and continues to be timeless!!! so old post or not..!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by C'est Moi View Post
    This makes me sad because of Ina.
    It's coming up on a year since she passed on, rest peacefully dear Ina, we still think of you and miss you very much.

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    I would never want to take in a roommate but I might do it rather than have to live with one of my kids. I wouldn't want to inflict myself upon them and their mates.

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    You can be my room mate, Linda!

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    I took in two roommates (separately) when I first moved into my home. To help me with expenses. Both were less than pleasant experiences. The first lady was, well, odd. rarely left her room, even brought her food in there to eat. She often gave me less than our agreed upon (in writing) rent. We worked at the same place, and often she spread hateful and untrue rumors about me. It is not like we were kids. I was in my early 40s, she was a few years older. I kicked her out.
    The second lady was not so bad, but our personalities clashed. Not in a bad way, but enough that we simply did not get along. She moved out on her own.

    I am sure I would never do it again, say if something happened to my husband, but I would find better ways to vet the people.
    If there's a Rock and Roll heaven, you know they have a hell of a band.

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    know really well...and trust-t -It is a crap shoot. but to get head start it should be someone you know and like/love and respect and know well...then it is very workable. no surpirses that way.

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    I hate to mention the obvious- roommates get older. One minor stroke can be devastating. One becomes the care taker of the other. What if one feels able to care for himself, but can't? I thought it would be nice to have a roomie. Ya know- somebody besides a cat. But before I could do anything. I found myself on the floor after a blackout. It took a minute to go from getting a possible roomie to being in a home.

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    How does one become responsible to become a caretaker for a tenant in your house? Is that for real legally?
    I must learn to be content with being happier than I deserve - Pride and Prejudice

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    I've been searching for years for someone to share a place with. I had the perfect roommate, and we shared apartments on and off for years. Never a problem. Got along great, bills got paid and place stayed clean. We were discussing upgrading to a modest residential home instead of continuing apartment rentals, when out of the blue he suddenly died from a heart attack. In his 40s no less.

    That turned my whole world upside down, and I've been drifting ever since. Living out of a suitcase, traveling without a personal vehicle, and unable to decide where in the country I'd be happy living long term. Also unable to find a place I fit in, that is within my sorely limited budget. Or an honest reliable compatible housemate to split the costs.

    Unfortunately my journey eventually carried me to a tiny rural western town, with no public transportation, no good work opportunities, and no social activities of interest to me. And no friends to do anything with. Currently trying to get back to southeastern US, but have no family or friends to help with a safe stable place to land. I'd probably stay out west, but all my belongings are in storage back east, and I need to get that hefty bill off my back, as well as lighten my load.

    Since I'm no longer working, I've posted many ads offering to help out part time with a small business, or on a farm, in exchange for a break in bills. But I have no experience with farming or livestock, and haven't had any good offers yet. All I know is I like working outdoors, I need the exercise, and something to keep me active, because I'm stagnating and withering away here. I'm male in my 50s, still physically able, but I can no longer perform strenuous labor, due to my age and past job related injuries.

    The winter weather will certainly be an impediment, but maybe in spring I'll be able to relocate, as things warm up and more housing and outdoor work possibilities become available.

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    Ina, I found this site for the very reason you are asking about roommate/s. I am split right down the middle. Have lived alone and never been lonely until recently, and I always enjoyed my privacy and way of life. In the last year, I have dreamed of a Golden Girl situation.

    Of course, I see a a place where there is enough space to still have privacy, but when the mood strikes the common area is where roomies gather and share a meal or play a game or watch a movie. Then I think of what I could not tolerate: another person trying to change my thinking or control the whole house, or having too much company/family that comes too much and perhaps stays overnight too much.

    For me, although the suggestions were good, I am not one who needs a big social schedule with senior groups, etc. My brain works fine, but my body is wearing out...old friends don't invite me places anymore because I can't move as fast. I am just lonely for a good friend, one I can trust that is asleep down the hallway and would take time out to sit with me and talk and vice versa.

    I grew up in big D, but live elsewhere now. I was transferred to Houston by my company in the late 80's...my make up was melted off by 10 am...ha! This last relocation came at the same time as knee replacement and it prevented me from socializing here,, so I dream of leaving and finding a safe roommate. But, I do agree that it could turn out really bad and I am too old to move but one more time.

    I liked the reply that listed what to do if you do decide to get a roommate. Check them out and be extremely careful. Bravo to all those who love being alone, but it's just ok to want to hear another person's voice in the house, to go place together, etc. It's not needy, it's natural. Good luck. If I could wave a magic wand, I'd be visiting my GG buddies right now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Annie Mack View Post
    Ina, I found this site for the very reason you are asking about roommate/s. I am split right down the middle. Have lived alone and never been lonely until recently, and I always enjoyed my privacy and way of life. In the last year, I have dreamed of a Golden Girl situation.

    Of course, I see a a place where there is enough space to still have privacy, but when the mood strikes the common area is where roomies gather and share a meal or play a game or watch a movie. Then I think of what I could not tolerate: another person trying to change my thinking or control the whole house, or having too much company/family that comes too much and perhaps stays overnight too much.

    For me, although the suggestions were good, I am not one who needs a big social schedule with senior groups, etc. My brain works fine, but my body is wearing out...old friends don't invite me places anymore because I can't move as fast. I am just lonely for a good friend, one I can trust that is asleep down the hallway and would take time out to sit with me and talk and vice versa.

    I grew up in big D, but live elsewhere now. I was transferred to Houston by my company in the late 80's...my make up was melted off by 10 am...ha! This last relocation came at the same time as knee replacement and it prevented me from socializing here,, so I dream of leaving and finding a safe roommate. But, I do agree that it could turn out really bad and I am too old to move but one more time.

    I liked the reply that listed what to do if you do decide to get a roommate. Check them out and be extremely careful. Bravo to all those who love being alone, but it's just ok to want to hear another person's voice in the house, to go place together, etc. It's not needy, it's natural. Good luck. If I could wave a magic wand, I'd be visiting my GG buddies right now.
    Annie, I thought you'd like to know that Ina passed some time ago.

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