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    Quote Originally Posted by genejr1224 View Post
    Thanks, I used the give me time as a way to get her to leave my house without any argument. I will not be answering her calls or messages. I think she understands its over. It just has to sink in.
    It's not going to sink in as long as you keep giving her hope. You know you didn't want more time, but she doesn't. You have to make a believer out of her by being firm and ignoring her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by genejr1224 View Post
    I thought about that, posting her letter and you are right. I just know she will never see this forum and I believe no one here knows her. So I used the letter to give clarification. I did not post her letter with any malice towards her.
    Gene, I didn't get the impression that you posted her message to you with the intent of violating any confidentiality. We don't know her or you and it actually helped provide additional clarification about her personality. She's in a state of panic, having lost control of the situation and having lost you. Move on, live your best life.

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    BTW Gene, to the forum.
    John

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    No need for formalities at our age. Sometimes casual works better than formal. A friend, a date, companion is better than a spouse at this point.

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    Gene, checking in with you. How are you? How are things?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Leann View Post
    Gene, checking in with you. How are you? How are things?

    Thanks for asking Leann. I am doing well. I am content with my decision to stop my relationship with Anna, Things are looking up and i feel i will be doing well. How are you doing? How are things with you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by genejr1224 View Post
    Thanks for asking Leann. I am doing well. I am content with my decision to stop my relationship with Anna, Things are looking up and i feel i will be doing well. How are you doing? How are things with you?
    Glad you're doing well, Gene. It gets easier little by little. I'm glad yo hear you're making yourself a priority.

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    It's always a good idea to read the entire OP and each and every post after that.
    Retired. Nowhere to go and plenty of time to get there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HippySenior View Post
    These forums have helped. Reading your story makes me feel less alone. How I you doing, if you dont mind me asking?
    Gene's story sounds very similar to the story you posted earlier today.

    “The United States has become a place where entertainers and professional athletes are mistaken for people of importance.” -- Robert Heinlein

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    Quote Originally Posted by C'est Moi View Post
    Gene's story sounds very similar to the story you posted earlier today.
    very similar.

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    Quote Originally Posted by C'est Moi View Post
    Good grief; I hope she doesn't start stalking you.

    And I have to say, it was disloyal of you to post her private letter to you. I'm sure that was meant for your eyes only.
    I agree. Very wrong to post her message to you on a web site.
    We are either growing or dying.

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    Aye! Private means private.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AprilSun View Post
    It's not going to sink in as long as you keep giving her hope. You know you didn't want more time, but she doesn't. You have to make a believer out of her by being firm and ignoring her.
    I agree strongly with AprilSun. Saying "give me time" says you will maybe change your mind. She's not going to leave you alone until she hears loud and clear that you are done.

    BTW, change the locks on your house so she can't just some in when she wants. If you are really done with her, BE done.

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    Gene,Hi my name is Pat,not can I relate.
    My hubby died in 2006 and I really didn't have a desire to date,I don't go to bars,don't drink at all,I have 2 left feet when it comes to dancing,pretty much an introvert with my 2 kitties,I am a Mom of 2 grown kids.
    Anyhoo,a little over 2 years ago,I was asked out by this guy,who I knew from when we both were volunteers at a nursing home,he called,asked if I wanted to have lunch at the Italian restaurant,I said sure once we were seated he wanted to know if I wanted him to sit next to me in the booth,uuh,no,he immediately started telling me about his ex and how mean she was to him after they split(this was a girlfriend,he's never been married,we ended the lunch with asking me if I wanted a relationship which I said,if we take it slowly,no promises.
    So,I friended him on facebook,he immediately sent friend requests to my kids and their spouses,red flag!
    He started phoning daily coming up with ideas for dates,wanting to go with me to doctor appointments,help around my house,accompany me to stores,wanted to be involved with stuff with my kids and grandson(red flag 2)also kept dropping hints about moving in here,not...
    It took me a couple of months to realize this

    guy is mentally retarded,he can't write legibly,he can't read,if we went to a restaurant,he would order exactly what I did,not being able to read the menu,I guess,he has a driver's license which I can't figure out how he got,has a terrible tremor in his hands.
    Around this time a year ago,I was trying to complete a difficult online transaction for my granddaughter and he was burning up my phone with calls to tell me,he had seen the ex while caroling at the nursing home and he didn't want me to hear it from someone else,I lost my shit and told him I was done.
    He didn't take it well started calling non stop,pestering my kids on Facebook to the point where I blocked him on my FB,told my kids to do the same,I also blocked his number on my cell,which I quickly learned the phone won't ring but it's possible to leave a voicemail,aargh.He also says I love you non-stop and if I ignored him,he would answer himself,he also has a junior high type drama and carries on if I even mention another man friend,he touched way to much,he insists on kissing me which I don't respond to and has grabbed the boobies every so often,junior high style.
    Sadly,I ran into him in the spring and I agreed to be friends,nothing more,well,as we well know doesn't fly,it's now back to the beginning.
    He needed to go get food and he doesn't have a car so I agreed to take him,square one,stands to close,etc.
    I am honestly considering asking my son,stepson and son in law to go have a chat with him.
    Apologies for the length,just wanted to let you know I'm pretty much in the same boat
    Have a peaceful night.
    BTW,IMHO,she's after a meal ticket.
    My creeper wants a family,he took care of his mom until she passed so has no kids,has a brother who really doesn't want anything to do with him and a sister who lives in Georgia who has a control freak husband,basically he wants to be "adopted"
    Not happening!!!!!!!!
    Good luck
    Last edited by Giantsfan1954; 12-05-2018 at 11:55 PM. Reason: spelling errors

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