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    The thread on Dining Alone reminded me of my first solo trip away from home. A simple little two day trip, but I'll never forget the details. This is just one of them.



    Before I moved to Raleigh, NC, I flew down from the Cleveland airport to make some arrangements, and find an apartment. First drive alone into Cleveland. First plane flight. First hotel. I had planned the second day to find an apartment, with no transportation. Never thought of renting a car, probably too na´ve to realize cabs weren't just in NYC. Definitely didn't plan ahead. So inexperienced.

    It was July of 1970, hot and humid like only in the South. Walked a long way to an apt. rental agency at 8:30 am, but it didn't open until 9am. Didn't know yet things seemed to be on a more laid back schedule there. Walked to a cafeteria to read the newspaper ads, drink coffee, and begin to panic. Within a half hour a young man showed up, and asked what I was reading. He knew of a vacant duplex in his complex, and volunteered to drive me to check it out, and back to the cafeteria. The place was perfect. I often think of how easy he made it. Would I have ever figured out what to do?

    One of my friends used to say I was the unluckiest person he ever knew, and I remember agreeing at the time. He must have been talking about the small stuff, because I can't for the life of me remember having bad luck now. Maybe because I've never been very adventuresome. Maybe I've just been extremely lucky. Maybe it's genetic. Maybe because there was no whining and crying about the small stuff allowed in my family.

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    Call the Super.......


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    Quote Originally Posted by NancyNGA View Post
    The thread on Dining Alone reminded me of my first solo trip away from home. A simple little two day trip, but I'll never forget the details. This is just one of them.

    Before I moved to Raleigh, NC, I flew down from the Cleveland airport to make some arrangements, and find an apartment. First drive alone into Cleveland. First plane flight. First hotel. I had planned the second day to find an apartment, with no transportation. Never thought of renting a car, probably too na´ve to realize cabs weren't just in NYC. Definitely didn't plan ahead. So inexperienced.

    It was July of 1970, hot and humid like only in the South. Walked a long way to an apt. rental agency at 8:30 am, but it didn't open until 9am. Didn't know yet things seemed to be on a more laid back schedule there. Walked to a cafeteria to read the newspaper ads, drink coffee, and begin to panic. Within a half hour a young man showed up, and asked what I was reading. He knew of a vacant duplex in his complex, and volunteered to drive me to check it out, and back to the cafeteria. The place was perfect. I often think of how easy he made it. Would I have ever figured out what to do?

    One of my friends used to say I was the unluckiest person he ever knew, and I remember agreeing at the time. He must have been talking about the small stuff, because I can't for the life of me remember having bad luck now. Maybe because I've never been very adventuresome. Maybe I've just been extremely lucky. Maybe it's genetic. Maybe because there was no whining and crying about the small stuff allowed in my family.
    Nancy, I think it was that your parents raised you, and equipped you to be self confident and self reliant, so you could survive on your own.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meanderer View Post
    Call the Super.......

    That apartment really *was* perfect. It had a bedroom, indoor bathroom, and kitchen, and only cost $75/mo. Not a good time to start getting picky. Ha!

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    Nancy, your story brought back some memories. After we got married, my husband left for VietNam and after six months he got R&R in Hawaii. Me being a small town southern girl from Mississippi had never been on an airplane and the thoughts of flying across country was a bit scary. When I ended up having a lay over in LA, I was wide eyed with what I saw! Luckily I ended sitting next to the sweetest lady that was flying to meet her husband (a Major in the Air Force) and she took me under her wing and got a cab for both of us when we landed and she made sure I got to my hotel. Mike's group was delayed and would not be getting there until the next morning. She made sure I got checked into the hotel and then took me to dinner. I believe God sent that angel to look out after me. I was soo naive, I was only 20!
    The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain...​Dolly Parton

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    Quote Originally Posted by maggiemae View Post
    Nancy, your story brought back some memories. After we got married, my husband left for VietNam and after six months he got R&R in Hawaii. Me being a small town southern girl from Mississippi had never been on an airplane and the thoughts of flying across country was a bit scary. When I ended up having a lay over in LA, I was wide eyed with what I saw! Luckily I ended sitting next to the sweetest lady that was flying to meet her husband (a Major in the Air Force) and she took me under her wing and got a cab for both of us when we landed and she made sure I got to my hotel. Mike's group was delayed and would not be getting there until the next morning. She made sure I got checked into the hotel and then took me to dinner. I believe God sent that angel to look out after me. I was soo naive, I was only 20!
    What a nice story. That's a really long journey for your first solo trip! And such a nice lady. I agree it was like a guardian angel had shown up, in my case too. Things like that, being constantly on edge, wondering if you'll get through the next step, are exhausting. More than doing physical work.

    Speaking of work, I mowed both the front and back lawns last night. Finished just before dark, then fell asleep lying on the floor watching TV, and didn't wake up til *early* this morning. Back to bed. I'm all messed up today. Too much sleep.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meanderer View Post
    Nancy, I think it was that your parents raised you, and equipped you to be self confident and self reliant, so you could survive on your own.
    I'd like to think so, but I'm not so sure it was by design, more like circumstances. They were always so busy building something. I was a baby when they were building our house. I remember my mother saying they put me in a playpen, and had to come check occasionally to see if I was ok, because I was too quiet, busy entertaining myself. Maybe ended up being a little *too* independent for my own good. I'm grateful for it, whether by design or not.

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    I've said it before: We are raised by other people's children, and if we choose, turn around and raise other people's parents. It seems to work.
    JIM

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meanderer View Post
    I've said it before: We are raised by other people's children, and if we choose, turn around and raise other people's parents. It seems to work.
    Been thinking about your comment, Meanderer. I believe my grandmother may have had a lot to do with things. I've probably mentioned this before. She grew up poor on a farm, had 9 sisters and one brother---the youngest. There was no, "Girls can't do that!" in her vocabulary. They say things skip a generation. Who are "they" anyway?

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    Two days ago everything was back to almost normal. Suddenly I've got another busy week coming up.

    Dentist on Wednesday---the final tooth implants. That was already planned. Time has just flown by.

    Saturday morning the downstairs AC went out, for good this time---the unit where they just opened the door and it came on two weeks ago (no charge). Bad things seem to always happen on weekends. Ever since we got the goats, weekends scare me.

    Two calls from the Dr's office. Last visit he finally talked me into having a "thing" removed from my back. It looks like an over-cooked sunnyside up bird egg, about the size of a quarter. Harmless but annoying. He already got an appointment set up for tomorrow afternoon!!! There will be stitches. This is rather exciting! A change from the usual routine.

    Reminded me when I was 18 and had a large mole taken off my back. They did things like that in the hospital back then. The county coroner was the surgeon. He was a well known elected official at that time. Almost a celebrity. They cut that thing out, put it in a specimen jar and plopped it right down in front of my nose to stare at while they did the stitches.

    I found the surgeon's picture. He was older when I met him, didn't need a haircut, and very nice. The things you can find on the internet are just amazing. Why am I posting this? I DON'T KNOW!

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    They've already set up an appointment for the colonoscopy, for Nov 1st, and I found this statement on the Dr's website:

    You must be accompanied by a friend or relative to drive you home or your procedure may be cancelled.
    Please ask them to stay with you to speak with the doctor following your procedure.
    You MAY NOT drive or go home in a taxi or bus.


    So Uber is out according to them. Why should someone be forced to bother anyone for this stuff. It could take hours, if you read their instructions. My Dr. said it's a silly rule and just don't tell them until it's too late and plead ignorance. Too risky? Maybe I could rent one of those "escorts." I think I'll just cancel it. Neither of my parents ever had one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NancyNGA View Post

    They've already set up an appointment for the colonoscopy, for Nov 1st, and I found this statement on the Dr's website:

    You must be accompanied by a friend or relative to drive you home or your procedure may be cancelled.
    Please ask them to stay with you to speak with the doctor following your procedure.
    You MAY NOT drive or go home in a taxi or bus.


    So Uber is out according to them. Why should someone be forced to bother anyone for this stuff. It could take hours, if you read their instruction. My Dr. said it's a silly rule and just don't tell them until it's too late and plead ignorance. Too risky? Maybe I could rent one of those "escorts." I think I'll just cancel it. Neither of my parents ever had one.
    Nancy,

    If you find a solution to the problem of having an escort for various procedures please let us know.

    I'm having a similar problem in my area and I'm about to see if I can rent a CNA from an agency for a day. I have searched on the internet for a solution and found that in some cities they have volunteers called surgery buddies that will accompany you. I wish they had a similar program in my area, I would be willing to volunteer a few times a year so that I could have someone available to me when I need it.

    Good luck!!!

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    Bea, I think the real solution might be to hire a lawyer to write up a one size fits all contract that you could sign and give to them, to release the doctors from all liability. Geesh!

    They have several transportation services here, mostly for people who can't afford it, but none where a person will come in and actually sit with you. I will let you know if I find anything.

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    Or.....take one of your goats in with you!
    JIM

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meanderer View Post
    Or.....take one of your goats in with you!
    Who knows? That might just work. Certainly I could claim a "friend." It would catch them off guard. They wouldn't have any talking points memorized for that. Thanks for the tip, Meanderer.

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    Fiber optics is no better than dial up ... if there is no electricity.

    Thunderstorms, power off 10 pm last night. Nothing to do but go to bed. Lights coming back on at 3:30 am wake me up, so I catch up on what's going on here, then back to bed and sleep too late. Another crazy start to a day. How can one have structure with all that? That's my excuse anyway, and I can use it all week.

    Last time I talked to my neighbor, she told me before I moved in the power used to go off a lot. What?!! I can't imagine it going off more often.

    Speaking of the neighbor...I don't know what is going on with her house. She has not been around. I suspect the son is determined to sell to the rental property guy because he *thinks* he will pay more than anyone else. I'm not so sure. Either that or he is really a procrastinator. I have set my upper limit in my mind. She said he would call me when he was ready.

    This decision would be so big, and so expensive, and voices in my head are pulling equally in both directions. I think I want circumstances to make the decision for me, so I can pretend I didn't make a wrong decision. Funny how you play mind games with yourself like that.

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