The basic gist is this: you touch your partner how they want to be touched for 3 minutes (head scratching, skin stroking, light massage, still pressure etc.), then you let them touch you for 3 minutes how THEY want to touch you (this is what THEY want to experience by touching you, while you communicate your boundaries clearly). Then you switch and do both rounds with YOU as the partner making requests. Touch is non-******* [privates] and non-sexual, but can certainly be sensual. Throughout this process, whether you are the giver or the receiver, you may communicate what you want more of or less of, or how you would like your experience of touch to shift.
The 3 Minute Game helps couples learn how to communicate not only their boundaries but also their desires in a non-threatening, non-sexual context. Participants have the opportunity to drop into mindfulness with themselves and each other. They are able to cultivate some much needed limbic resonance, which is when the limbic part of our brain connects to our partner’s through eye contact, physical touch, laughter and breath, releasing dopamine, norepinephrine and oxytocin (all the good stuff!)
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