High heels? At my age?

BlissfullyUnawareCanadian

BlissfullyUnawareCanadian

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I am a tall, large (2x) woman that loves to dress up. I always wear dresses but have trouble finding “sexy” or at least fancy enough heels to wear with fancier dresses. I can wear high heeled boots with my dresses in the winter, but when I’m at a fancy dinner it’s nice to have some sexy strappy shoes to go with my pretty dress.

I have rarely been able to walk in heels, and find as I get older it’s more difficult, especially with extra weight on me.

I’m also in Canada, where we don’t have as large a selection to choose from as in the States. I can likely find what I need online but shipping and returns can be a royal pain.

Have any ladies here found suitable, comfortable heels to wear with dresses?
 

Oh no. I always wished I was tall so I didn't need to wear high heels.. but that said HH give the leg a slimmer look when wearing a nice dress.. but you only need to have a little heel with a pretty shoe.. maybe an inch and a half or 2 inches would be plenty as long as the shoe is pretty. Try looking for dance sandals.. they tend to be very pretty but with smaller heels...
 
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hollydolly said:
LOL..I just said that up there ^^^^^^ :LOL:
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Ballroom shoes have one drawback, they are designed for the ballroom floor. The soles are made of a compressed composite that allows the dancers to slide easily across the ballroom floor. Step outside in those shoes and the soles won't last long and if it's wet, they won't last more than a few minutes. That's why, if you have ever seen dancers going to their dance class or other function, they carry a small pouch like bag. It contains their dance shoes.

All is not lost however. There are dance shoes that can be worn in the street, further more, if traditional high heels are a problem, you might consider the more solid Cuban heel. You can still look "sexy" in that type of heel. There are so many variations, see here: https://duckduckgo.com/?q=image+of+ladies+cuban+heel+dance+shoes&t=crhs&iax=images&ia=images
 
horseless carriage said:
Ballroom shoes have one drawback, they are designed for the ballroom floor. The soles are made of a compressed composite that allows the dancers to slide easily across the ballroom floor. Step outside in those shoes and the soles won't last long and if it's wet, they won't last more than a few minutes. That's why, if you have ever seen dancers going to their dance class or other function, they carry a small pouch like bag. It contains their dance shoes.

All is not lost however. There are dance shoes that can be worn in the street, further more, if traditional high heels are a problem, you might consider the more solid Cuban heel. You can still look "sexy" in that type of heel. There are so many variations, see here: https://duckduckgo.com/?q=image+of+ladies+cuban+heel+dance+shoes&t=crhs&iax=images&ia=images
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yes I know that.. I was actually referring to 'dance shoes' in the sense of shoes you would choose to go dancing in for fun, rather than professional 'dance shoes'... but yes a good point made for anyone who didn't realise that specialist dance shoes are not for normal wear
 
horseless carriage said:
Ballroom shoes have one drawback, they are designed for the ballroom floor. The soles are made of a compressed composite that allows the dancers to slide easily across the ballroom floor. Step outside in those shoes and the soles won't last long and if it's wet, they won't last more than a few minutes. That's why, if you have ever seen dancers going to their dance class or other function, they carry a small pouch like bag. It contains their dance shoes.

All is not lost however. There are dance shoes that can be worn in the street, further more, if traditional high heels are a problem, you might consider the more solid Cuban heel. You can still look "sexy" in that type of heel. There are so many variations, see here: https://duckduckgo.com/?q=image+of+ladies+cuban+heel+dance+shoes&t=crhs&iax=images&ia=images
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Oh some of these, especially the ones with straps and bling are very sexy, totally suitable for wearing with a formal dress. And the heels look manageable, thank you! Now to find a shoe that fits my wide, oddly shaped feet!
 
hollydolly said:
yes I know that.. I was actually referring to 'dance shoes' in the sense of shoes you would choose to go dancing in for fun, rather than professional 'dance shoes'... but yes a good point made for anyone who didn't realise that specialist dance shoes are not for normal wear
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Re-reading my post Holly, perhaps I came across a tad too assertive, A bit of a know all because I can dance. Forums are new to me, slowly but surely I am beginning to realise that how I write something is just as important as what I write. We can only communicate by the written word, all the other ways we communicate when face to face are lost. The body language, eye contact, minute nuance, none of that we can see. I will be more careful in future.
 
horseless carriage said:
Re-reading my post Holly, perhaps I came across a tad too assertive, A bit of a know all because I can dance. Forums are new to me, slowly but surely I am beginning to realise that how I write something is just as important as what I write. We can only communicate by the written word, all the other ways we communicate when face to face are lost. The body language, eye contact, minute nuance, none of that we can see. I will be more careful in future.
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Oh please don't misunderstand me, I wasn't taking you to task, but yes I agree totally, it's my mantra on here and always has been that misunderstandings and offence are easily taken because of the lack of nuance etc.. which is why I feel the use of emoticons make a huge difference in the way a post is read by the reader .. or recipient..
 
There was a time in my life when I liked to strut it and show it all off. That's when I wore high heels and hung out my boobs. Now I think, why would I want to do that? I also got rid of my dresses. I am comfortable where ever I am and what ever I'm doing. I stopped hanging it out when I was 40, and it still all looked good at that time. Women dress this way for a variety of reason. For me it is was a matter of outgrowing the need to have someone lust after me. Now, before I'm misunderstood for this, these are my thoughts about me. I am not applying them to anyone else.
 
Here are a few good shoe places to try

https://www.thebay.com/c/women/womens-shoes

https://www.canadianfootwear.com/

DSW has a large selection of low pumps and a variety of different heights of heels. Just make sure to click on the section you want. They are good with returns also.

https://www.dsw.ca/en/ca/category/w...Z1z14169Z1z141yz?b=hb_all_w_shoes_pumps_heels

I’ve got 3 pairs of boots with a bit of a heel. One pair are dress boots and then I have one pair of white low heeled pumps for summer dresses. That’s it.

It’s a rare occasion that I want to wear heels; weddings, funnels and / or special musical events etc., Besides which, when I wear them, I’m towering over my man and while he says he doesn’t mind, I think he’s merely being kind.
 
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Keesha said:
Here are a few good shoe places to try

https://www.thebay.com/c/women/womens-shoes

https://www.canadianfootwear.com/

DSW has a large selection of low pumps and a variety of different heights of heels. Just make sure to click on the section you want. They are good with returns also.

https://www.dsw.ca/en/ca/category/w...Z1z14169Z1z141yz?b=hb_all_w_shoes_pumps_heels

I’ve got 3 pairs of boots with a bit of a heel. One pair are dress boots and then I have one pair of white low heeled pumps for summer dresses. That’s it.

It’s a rare occasion that I want to wear heels; weddings, funnels and / or special musical events etc., Besides which, when I wear them, I’m towering over my man and while he says he doesn’t mind, I think he’s merely being kind.
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Oh I love a pair of dress open toed heels on that site!

https://www.dsw.ca/en/ca/product/kelly-and-katie-marnee-sandal/117881466?width=Wide

I think they will look great with my semi formal dresses!
 

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