How to Impress a woman

SilentSoul said:
So you would do these things in hopes of procuring a mate & not just a date?
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I think the term Mate would be to my liking. Of course there has to be first meetings called dates but the desire is a Mate and I think the Aussie term mate comes closer to a reality. A friendship of love and caring for one another. A marriage at this age seems like a nightmare of prenups.
 

Jondalar7 said:
I think the term Mate would be to my liking. Of course there has to be first meetings called dates but the desire is a Mate and I think the Aussie term mate comes closer to a reality. A friendship of love and caring for one another. A marriage at this age seems like a nightmare of prenups.
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Thinking of marriage in terms of prenups seems to a bit pointless to me. Either clutch your wallet or your wife. Just out of curiosity, has a woman ever said I will gladly be with you if you sign here on this dotted line first?
 
Gaer said:
I guess i'm old school. if a man vacuumed or did laundry or dishes, I wouldn't know what to say! I like to treat a man like a man!
i would have to find someone I could respect and treat him with all honor and esteem. I sure wouldn't expect a cook and housekeeper!
hahaha! I think my expectations might be too vivid. I should be open to whatever circumstances present themselves!
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I would think a woman might appreciate a man fixing dinner while she finished an art project and cleaned up her tools. Are you saying that finding this guy in the kitchen wearing only an apron would make it difficult for you to be held in his arms and kissed deeply.?
 

Gaer said:
I guess i'm old school. if a man vacuumed or did laundry or dishes, I wouldn't know what to say! I like to treat a man like a man!
i would have to find someone I could respect and treat him with all honor and esteem. I sure wouldn't expect a cook and housekeeper!
hahaha! I think my expectations might be too vivid. I should be open to whatever circumstances present themselves!
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I'd know what to say ("thanks") and I know what I'd like to say to men who refuse to vacuum or do laundry or dishes.
 
Jondalar7 said:
I have never been called unmanly or a more common term would be gay but I like doing unmanly things to shock people. Most people's first impression of me is that I might be a cop or a pastor. ( I find this out when I see them sneak away at a party to smoke their pot.) I am willing to do most anything for a good hearted laugh. Don't double dog dare ME!
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I love that. I love men who are willing to do things for a laugh and to shock people.
 
SilentSoul said:
Thinking of marriage in terms of prenups seems to a bit pointless to me. Either clutch your wallet or your wife. Just out of curiosity, has a woman ever said I will gladly be with you if you sign here on this dotted line first?
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I used Prenups in a broad term of combining lives. If you are in love enough to join your life to another's you should consider many things and finances is an important one. Love is blind has left many people with nothing. Do we keep your coffee pot or mine, This chair or that. My home or yours. There are thirty more years of this journey you better plan ahead.
 
Jondalar7 said:
I would think a woman might appreciate a man fixing dinner while she finished an art project and cleaned up her tools. Are you saying that finding this guy in the kitchen wearing only an apron would make it difficult for you to be held in his arms and kissed deeply.?
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My hubby is fixing lunch for me right now..I am clearing out my office and there is a really nice smell coming from the kitchen. My hero ❣️
 
Gaer said:
He wouldn't refuse. I would never ask or expect it of him. am I wrong?
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It is entertaining playing what if's. I know that any thought we might have can be taken into another reality with a kiss. The things we might say as 'I would never' can become comfortable if the kiss is right. Yes, I will go to that play is not what I thought I would say. If I came home from working all day to find her still in her robe writing on the forum I would refuse to vacuum or fix dinner. I she had been away from home for a week caring for a sick friend and I let the dishes pile up all week she would be right to expect me to have done them or start now.
I am the oldest of three, raised by a single mom. I could cook and sew for my sisters before I was ten. Some things are just done as a caring part of the home.
I better post some Bull riding pictures after saying that.
 
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Jondalar7 said:
It is entertaining playing what if's. I know that any thought we might have can be taken into another reality with a kiss. The things we might say as 'I would never' can become comfortable if the kiss is right. Yes, I will go to that play is not what I thought I would say. If I came home from working all day to find her still in her robe writing on the forum I would refuse to vacuum or fix dinner. I she had been away from home for a week caring for a sick friend and I let the dishes pile up all week she would be right to expect me to have done them or start now.
I am the oldest of three, raised by a single mom. I could cook and sew for my sisters before I was ten. Some things are just done as a caring part of the home.
I better post some Bull riding pictures after saying that.
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hahaha! Love that!
 
Jondalar7 said:
If you are in love enough to join your life to another's you should consider many things and finances is an important one. Love is blind has left many people with nothing.
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Very true.

I wouldn’t even co-habit without a legal agreement. We had that for three years and then had a pre-nup when we married. We both had children to consider.
 
Packerjohn said:
I used to buy my wife fresh flowers nearly every week. She loved flowers. I also helped her in preparing meals, cleaning up afterwards & vacuuming the floor every time she mentioned that the floors needs some cleaning. When we did our daily walk outside I always held her hand. When she spoke, I always put down what I was doing or reading & listened very attentively to what she said. I tried to show that she was the most important thing in my life because she was.
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If only more men were like you....there would be very happy wives out there!
 
Packerjohn said:
I used to buy my wife fresh flowers nearly every week. She loved flowers. I also helped her in preparing meals, cleaning up afterwards & vacuuming the floor every time she mentioned that the floors needs some cleaning. When we did our daily walk outside I always held her hand. When she spoke, I always put down what I was doing or reading & listened very attentively to what she said. I tried to show that she was the most important thing in my life because she was.
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There needs to be more men like yourself.
 
SilentSoul said:
So let me see if I understand this correctly. You are in love but in order to be together you have to sign a prenup or you don't get to be with that person?
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When we fall in love and want to get married we get a marriage license. Why? Does it mean our love is less because we want a a piece of paper?
When we are born we get a birth certificate. Why?
I once heard it said that a couple should do their prenup and divorce papers before they marry. His point was that in those two things you will be shown what is important to the one you marry. Unfortunately, divorce happens too often today. By filling out the divorce agreement while you are in love, you both know what the end will look like, should it arrive.
My divorce after 18 years of marriage was between good friends who once were lovers. Most are ugly ordeals. A little paperwork in the beginning can prevent much hurt later. It is that hurt that I would want to prevent even if the end is a death.

I think if you have a problem with a piece of paper you should not have one. If you want one you should have it.
 
There's a big difference between a marriage license and a prenup. It sounds too much like a business arrangement to me. But you are right. Those who don't want the prenup shouldn't have to have one. Good luck in your search for love. 💕
 
After I had been a pilot for a few years with Air Wisconsin, I made Captain. Having those gold wings on my chest must have been very impressive. A lot of women would stop me and want to start a conversation in airports. Some even slipped me their phone numbers. When I moved over to United, even more so.

I guess it was the uniform. Maybe what impresses a woman is the uniform?
 
What impresses me in a man is first of all is a sense of humor. I grew up with parents who were always joking with each other and they stayed happy like that for 60 years, even in bad times. And an equally important thing is someone I can talk to and be myself. Not having to be careful about what I say to him. Another thing that is impresses me is to see how he handles anger. I was married to man who had an awful temper and I hated it.

One thing that I now know that I love (but thought it didn't matter before) is someone who treats me like I am special or even beautiful. I know I am not. But in his eyes, I am. He calls me the first thing every morning to tell me good morning and says I love you. Those things come from the heart.
 
When I was young, the purpose of impressing a woman was for possible mating purposes whether I was aware of it at the time or not since it is programmed into all males. Now it's just a case of ... this me, take it or leave it.
 
katlupe said:
What impresses me in a man is first of all is a sense of humor. I grew up with parents who were always joking with each other and they stayed happy like that for 60 years, even in bad times. And an equally important thing is someone I can talk to and be myself. Not having to be careful about what I say to him. Another thing that is impresses me is to see how he handles anger. I was married to man who had an awful temper and I hated it.

One thing that I now know that I love (but thought it didn't matter before) is someone who treats me like I am special or even beautiful. I know I am not. But in his eyes, I am. He calls me the first thing every morning to tell me good morning and says I love you. Those things come from the heart.
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IMHO, any woman who is active, friendly, caring, positive, takes care of herself and has a sense of humor and adventure is both special and beautiful. I suspect a man with similar, but manly, characteristics might have a good chance of impressing such a woman but I could be wrong. I also suspect there are a good many woman who're impressed by a man's money and status.
 
officerripley said:
What would impress this ol' senior woman: you could, and would willingly, do a decent job of doing laundry (not by refusing to sort items by color & not by refusing to use anything but hot water on everything becuz your mother told you that was the way it was done); you could and would willingly balance a checkbook; you could and would willingly figure out how to pay bills (either by doing it online or by *gasp* writing out checks by hand); you could and would willingly make your own medical appointments by *gasp* picking up the phone and calling; you could and would willingly call service or repair people when needed. That enough to get started?
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Oh, I so agree! Husband writes checks out of his checkbook and I pay the majority of bills, which are paid by my credit card or auto withdrawn, out of my checkbook. (It’s all his money btw.). The other day I handed him the bill for a magazine I ordered and TOLD him, “this is the bill for the magazine I ordered. Pay it.”

The other day we got a second notice. He said, “ We got this bill again for the magazine you ordered, do you want me to pay it?” 🤬. Yes, I replied. Why didn’t you pay it the first time. He says, ”I threw it away.” WHY? “I just did”.

Anytime I ask him for an explanation of his totally stupid behavior; his answer is always “I just did”. Oh, yes, just a other day in paradise for me. 😩
 
Jondalar7 said:
It is kind of funny that we think of things as women's work and men's work. Now when it comes to physical strength, a man is built with bigger muscles than a woman and I try not to let a woman do heavy lifting as a general rule. Strength and birthing babies aside, we are all capable of all things to some degree. So how did we come up with what is women's work and what is men's work.
PS. It made me smile when you mentioned my man card. I have worn beads, Roman sandals and a sarong, Big belt buckles, leather jackets and camo. As an Army Sgt. I stood in front of my troops and said I Love you guys, Be safe out there. I have lived knowing I can match any guy at anything. I am thinking at 66 that is a lot of ego, but true still My man card is safe :) Gotta run I have cookies in the oven!
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Oatmeal raisin? Send me some!
 

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