When betrayed after a long relation, who do you talk to?

Johanna

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Hi,
I lived with my husband nearly 31 years. Then I found out he had taken spy pictures and movies of me during several years. I was chocked and we divorced early this year. I van not get it out of my mind. I feel I have noone to talk to. I can not bring it up with my kids, I dont want them to judge and be involved in my problems. I dont want to talk to our local pastor either because he knows us both. Who do I talk to! I need to get it out!

Please pm if you care to listen

Thank you
Johanna
 

Maybe, but I think it cost a lotta of money and I dont have that
That's the problem for many people.

I suspect you don't have friends who you can talk to otherwise you wouldn't be asking here.

In the Uk there are several Charity organisations where you can talk... I don't know about the USA unfortunately...

try googling Domestic abuse..free chat ...
 
Do not feel ashamed Johanna, under no circumstaces must you feel ashamed,. (((hugs))))You did nothing wrong, and the qualified people you will talk to will tell you the same thing. Good luck, I'm sure you'll find something in Sweden.. do google..
Thank you, I understand that intelectually but not emotionally. It is very private moments documented without I knew
 
Thank you, I understand that intelectually but not emotionally. It is very private moments documented without I knew
I completely understand Johanna, I've been through some horrible things in my life too..different to yours but where one feels the guilt of another person's actions, and you have to know that ,you cannot feel guilty over another person's actions, you have to learn this, hard as it might be for you, it's True, you've suffered enough without making yourself feel pain too for things that were not your fault...
 
Please talk to someone who can help you. What you describe is soul-crushing. Also heartbreaking. You should not go through this alone. The shame you feel about it, that can also be helped. I know there are some things that I am ashamed of (also betrayals) because I feel like it badly reflects on me. I also know this is not true, just as it is not true of you You didn't cause this betrayal and nothing you did led to it happening. A therapist can help with this, too. From what I have experienced, they are not in the judging business. You are an innocent victim who will survive this.
 
Please talk to someone who can help you. What you describe is soul-crushing. Also heartbreaking. You should not go through this alone. The shame you feel about it, that can also be helped. I know there are some things that I am ashamed of (also betrayals) because I feel like it badly reflects on me. I also know this is not true, just as it is not true of you You didn't cause this betrayal and nothing you did led to it happening. A therapist can help with this, too. From what I have experienced, they are not in the judging business. You are an innocent victim who will survive this.
Thank you
 
This may help Johanna

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Maybe, but I think it cost a lotta of money and I dont have that
The world is getting crazier and crazier. Years ago everyone had family and neighbours to talk to. Today you are suppose to see a therapist and pay them big money. Then they schedule you for many appointments so that they can figure out your problem! Hmmmmmmmmm! I'm 75 and have never been to one and I sure as hack don't intend to start going to see one. Guess, I'm one of those lucky guys.
 
The world is getting crazier and crazier. Years ago everyone had family and neighbours to talk to. Today you are suppose to see a therapist and pay them big money. Then they schedule you for many appointments so that they can figure out your problem! Hmmmmmmmmm! I'm 75 and have never been to one and I sure as hack don't intend to start going to see one. Guess, I'm one of those lucky guys.
You are right. People cared about each other in another way. Nowerdays you have to rely on society or have a big wallet
 
I at least saved the pictures and movies to my dropbox before deleting them on his pc. I think of them as evidens if he starts arguing about money. But I dont know if I have tge guts to use it if nessesary.
You need to stand up for YOU! You owe him nothing after what he has done to you! This is your life now and you need to stand strong. You will not regret it. Baby steps will lead to a lifelong walk of confidence and self respect.
 

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