Where was the friendliest place you ever lived?

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if you've moved a time or 2 in your adulthood... where did you find the friendliest people ?

When I was newly married and living in Royal Navy Married Quarters..we moved all around the country approx every 12 months.. always onto Naval camps.. either gated or not as the case may be, but always amongst the fellow Naval Personnel...

Our second Quarter was down in the west country on the borders of the counties of Cornwall and Devon... (traditional holiday cities, as well as big Naval dockyard towns)

In the previous quarter which was in also a Naval port.. further up country but on the south coast ( Gosport) ..people ( the naval wives) were generally standoffish... and in the several quarters we lived in after the Cornish one, they were the same if not downright curt... but the Cornish and Devonian people were by far the most friendly.. However ironically, it was the only place where we had the house burgled, and even the washing taken off the line.. every single piece of clothing that we owned, and because were were poor, (my ex husband was only a rating at the time age 19 ) , and on very low wages, and we had a year old baby.. ..so whatever we wore got washed including all his uniforms.. and all her baby clothes..

...so, much as I remember the people of Cornwall and Devon for their friendliness above everyone else in England where we ever got to live eventually, I'll never forget the fact that out of everywhere we lived ( 17 places) ..and including our own homes after we left RN Quarters, that the Cornish were the thieves..
 

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I would have to say where I live now in Colorado which is only about 30 minutes away from the city of Denver has a bit of everything. It has neighbors who watch out for one another and are mostly quite friendly. The area is pretty clean and there are many nice places for walking.
 

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Where was the friendliest place you ever lived?
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Hard one to answer, as an adult I have lived in Utah, Wyoming, Louisiana, Florida, Ohio, Maryland, Mississippi, and Florida, that I can remember now anyway. I found friendly people in all those places.

I'd have to say Baltimore, Maryland surprised me. I was not expecting friendly there, but was pleasantly surprised. If I had to chose just one place to go back to for the memory of friends made it would probably be Baltimore.
 
Dallas is undoubtedly one of friendliest places I've ever lived. I live in a more established area, so that makes a difference.

I was at the grocery store yesterday. An elderly gentleman had his bank card declined for a small amount. The woman behind him offered to pay for his groceries. In how many major cities would you see this?

Funny, he declined the courtesy and gave the cashier a $100 bill. The woman behind him was in disbelief. :ROFLMAO: So, Dallas is also pretty unpretentious, at least where I live. I love that.
 
Central Utah, USA. OUr community is a friendly multi-ethnic mix of White Mormons, Mexicans, Native American tribes, and Meth heads. Conservative side yes, but LGBTQ also has a strong and welcome presence here. I think the thing I like most about the Utah high desert country is, when I'm out taking a walk, alongside the river, and women are approaching me from the opposite direction, I smile and tip my cowboy hat and say "G'day Ladies", and the women smile and wave back at me, and I feel like John Wayne. Silly as that sounds, it actually does mean a lot to me. Coming from a big city where everyone is terrified of strangers.

Go on, now ask me; Oyster, are black peeps also welcome in your rural Utah desert community?
Yes of course. Bobby Ray Duckworth for example.
 
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I'd say the city I grew up in as a child. I'm not very far from it now. I just remember people being friendly and kind and caring. Now there doesn't seem to be anywhere like that--nowhere. Seems none gives a flying fig about me anymore.
 
This is a small town in BC and for some reason there are a lot of retirees here. Perhaps because when we first moved here properties were cheaper than most of the other small town. Within 6 months prices started going up, so now our place is worth more than twice what we paid for it. But we are here till we die, we like the people and the town.
 
Hollydolly, interesting to hear your views on Gosport. Having lived a long time not far north in Horndean, I found the locals rather distant and uncommunicative. You almost needed a letter of introduction before saying 'Hello'. One day I was walking along and a man was working at his car by the roadside. He apologised for half blocking the pavement, and said it was no problem. We had a chat and he said that, like him, I obviously wasn't local as I actually spoke to him. He was from Manchester and agreed that the locals, while not unfriendly, had no time for strangers.

It's a different life here in Scotland - at least in this area. I have noticed that there is animosity between some villages. This probably dates back hundreds of years and concerns the ownership of a sheep or a pig. Our friends in the village find some things a tad strange. The American one still finds British humour hard to understand, but there are a number of people of different nationalities and everyone gets on fine.
 
It's funny that I consider Nashville a 'friendly place' due to the fact that I rarely meet anyone actually born and raised here.
Most people I've met in the 13 years living here, came from somewhere else to enjoy the climate or job opportunities.
Tennessee and the South are not for everyone and I understand the stigma connected to it,
but it's still (IMHO) a fairly friendly place.

I just can't spend time trying to defend where I live to those with a preconceived idea about a place.

I have been lucky, everywhere we have lived, I can find friendly people if you PROJECT the same.
 
I've moved 14 times in my life.

For me, age was more important than location.

When I was young, I had a greater interest and need to interact with people than I do now.

At this point, being close to people requires a great deal of effort with very little in the way of reward.
 
I like your views hollydolly on where you have lived and I
agree with you about Cornwall and Devon, but on the same
list, I would have to put Scotland plus Holland, there are
others, too many to name who are friendly to a lesser degree.

Where I live now is not so friendly, I could be on the moon, I
think, people here are surly, but those born here are friendly
to each other and sometimes fair to others.

Mike.
 
Need to give a shout out to the small village of Somersham, UK.
Being the only 'Yank' family in the village, our neighbors helped us so much to adapt to living there.

One neighbor owned a narrow boat and made a tea pot with his 'special' design for us and took us on some interesting journeys.

The other neighbor taught me how to make a Cod pie when I caught a large one.

The teachers at the 'playgroup' my youngest attended where the best.

We made every effort to blend the best we could and they went out of their way to be friendly.
 
As an adult, I have to say the small city I presently live in is very community orientated and the people very friendly. The places I lived in growing up was different because kids make friends. My parents always lived out in the country but in small town areas. We moved to FL in 62' and southern people are very friendly and welcoming. Then when I moved as an adult to St. Petersburg, FL (from NY) I barely knew the people next door or across the street.
 
Friendly over all or friendly to you has two different meanings. I lived in a lot of places and if I was receptive to folks, I found them to be rather friendly. I've also lived in NYC two different times in my life as well as New Jersey. Now, there isn't much difference between the two states as North Jersey is never very far from the city. South Jersey is never very far from Philadelphia. So, I'd say that we are all very proud of where we live and are happy to help folks out who come into our lives from eleswhere. I don't know how NY got such a lousy reputation for being unfriendly. Not all who live there are criminals, ditto for Jersey.

I did not find the Southern states I've lived in, with the exception of Texas, to be friendly at all. Just open your mouth with a Yankee accent, and you are dead meat.
 
By FAR, ALASKA!
If you pull over on the side of the road, within 5 minutes, you will have a dozen people opening your hood, asking if they can help; it's AMAZING!
People would knock on your door holding a huge salmon or halibut, asking if you can use it. "My freezer won't hold anymore! Want it?"
Walk into a shop and the clerks treat you like a long lost friend!
Just don't mine on another person's gold claim if you still want to live. haha!
They BREATHE aliveness , adventure, excitement. It's in the air!

Also, I've never lived in Idaho, but have traveled through there many times and they are such friendly, down-home people!
 
Just open your mouth with a Yankee accent, and you are dead meat.
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LoL. Where you from son?
I was born and raised in New Yawk. And I lived and worked 26 years all over the deep south. As a trucker and construction laborer.
It ain't as bad as that. Main thing to keep in mind is, say "Y'all" instead of "Yooz Guys". Makes you sound too Tony Soprano
 
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OysterBay said:
LoL. Where you from son?
I was born and raised in New Yawk. And I lived and worked 26 years all over the deep south. As a trucker and construction laborer.
It ain't as bad as that. Main thing to keep in mind is, say "Y'all" instead of "Yooz Guys"
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I've heard individuals from the south address unrelated younger males as 'son,' but the person you were replying to is female.
So maybe you'd call her "Onty." :oops::ROFLMAO:
 
Post-war, I would have to say that I found friendships within a specific minority circle, that is, where I grew up, in Alberta and Vancouver.

Toronto, where I've mainly resided since 1967, has to be the 'friendliest' city I've lived in. Definitely the most multicultural, which I'm sure has something to do with it.

Niagara Falls, Ontario was the least friendly city that I lived in (for 5 yrs.) I did make a few friends, but, in general, there was a lot of racism (name-calling). Our daughter was born there.
 
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Just open your mouth with a Yankee accent, and you are dead meat.
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Can be a problem, LOL.

I am a southerner, but having lived lots of places lost most of my accent. Sometimes I find myself having to explain the lack of it. Some people in Louisiana refuse to believe I'm a native son.

But most have been friendly to me anyway. Particularly after I tell the story of my ancestor who was in Pickett's charge or something similar...

Yankees on the other hand usually do detect my accent.
 
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