There's a difference between being "pro or ultra pro divorce" (which I'm not) and being in favor of healthy, happy relationships (which I am). A government or culture that forces people to remain together when they're in misery does nobody any good, including and especially the offspring of that relationship.
I've yet to meet a child of an unhappy marriage that stayed together who thought it worked out well for the children. Myself included.
How would you really know when you say "I've yet to meet a child,...., etc., etc., etc.," whether you knew everything there was to know, or might need to know, in order to form a fair opinion?
To do so you'd need to violate the Canadian lawyers Goldwater statement or view that privacy in close personal relationships is necessary, to start with, but there's far more to worry anyone interested in the truth, (and the "whole truth" especially!).
Julia Tugenhat wrote a book about the way children and young people felt about their fathers, or not seeing their fathers, (succeeding in doing this despite of opposition from the authorities, or at least without their support, though she still managed to investigate about twenty cases).
Why should she be opposed is a first question, and then her findings showed just how far some of those children went to hide their true feeling about being excluded from their dads lives for whatever reason, and the only way Julia managed to discover what they really thought was when the children had enough confidence in her to know whatever they said would go no further, (certainly not back to their mothers or other family members).
Then there are the fathers rights groups like Fathers 4 Justice who routinely tell dads to falsely declare whatever the courts or court system wishes to hear, including admitting to causing abuse of some kind, just so that in doing so those in authority become satisfied, and allow them contact with their kids again in whatever circumstances demanded, (contact centres being one possibility, so similar in style to prison visits with the same level of supervision and lack of privacy). How can a legal system redeem itself if at least one party, or even whole section of the community,( i.e. the dads), routinely lie, and give false tales, and what cynicism it shows about the legal system, those who work in it, and the law in this country, on behalf of so many!
I could go on further, but I notice many folks in this argument refuse to concede any points, (like the need for privacy etc.), so I'll save my breath, and content myself that some feel so convinced they're right and know everything about me, or sufficient anyway, that I can be labelled "bitter" so easily, (proving again to me the need for a modest change in our family laws in order to try to protect decent parents from unjust accusations and assertions, of this and similar kinds!).
