When you apologize but they reject it

[Disgustedman]

Needless to say So I got into an altercation with another. I then later apologized, but they refused. So now any suggestions?

Or just ignore it and accept he'll hold a grudge?

 

[Nemo2]

 

[NorthernLight]

Yes, you did what you could. Move on.

Sometimes it's sad and difficult. My daughter got mad at me. I know the situation, but I don't understand her thinking. I apologized, but she stayed mad. Over the years I've considered trying to explain, or something. But I've decided not to.

 

[Georgiagranny]

Ignore it. You apologized. If he holds a grudge it hurts him, not you.

 

[hearlady]

I agree with all the above.

 

[Muskrat]

I don’t know….myself I would consider the value of the relationship. I have a relatively small circle of family and friends…if I somehow offended one of them I would try and try again. On the other hand….if it is someone I have very little true relationship with I would give it my best shot and move on.

 

[John cycling]

Cross him off your friends list and move on.

 

[Disgustedman]

I don’t know….myself I would consider the value of the relationship. I have a relatively small circle of family and friends…if I somehow offended one of them I would try and try again. On the other hand….if it is someone I have very little true relationship with I would give it my best shot and move on.

Yes, very little relationship. Just an unfortunate time.

 

[katlupe]

I think you just have to give up eventually. I had a very close friend for 35 years and she got mad at me and nothing I could say or do would make her forgive me. I now figure it was for the best.

 

[BC Flash]

My Take; The other is inflexible, moody and high maintenance. Do you need someone like this in your life??

 

[Tish]

You did what you could, time to let it go.

To err is human to forgive is divine.

 

[Trish]

To be honest, I am not sure if I would have room in my life for someone who holds a grudge. All you could do was apologise, if that's not good enough, probably best to move on

 

[dobielvr]

Same here. I've apologized, they/him/her haven't.
The ball is now in their court. But, I'm not sticking around waiting...

 

[Nathan]

Needless to say So I got into an altercation with another. I then later apologized, but they refused. So now any suggestions?

Or just ignore it and accept he'll hold a grudge?

I've noticed that there are people who expect an apology, but then won't accept one given. Such people are broken inside, and cannot be anybody else's problem. You can't allow someone control, for that is their goal.

 

[Gary O']

When you apologize but they reject it​

Needless to say So I got into an altercation with another. I then later apologized, but they refused. So now any suggestions?

Or just ignore it and accept he'll hold a grudge?

Depends on the content of the altercation
Sometimes things said can be hard to forgive

Or your 'apology' might come off as not so apologetic

I'm rather fond of my little poster creation I made in another life;




But, as a rule, forgiveness is pretty wonderful for both parties

Less baggage to haul around

 

[Gaer]

The best thing to do is:
Continue to behave toward him with love and tolerance.
Any negative situation should be treated with indifference.
If a response is warrented, respond with forgiveness.
A strong mind, full of love and joy will not be upset by
wrong behavior. A weak mind will take this insult upon himself
and let it influence the atmosphere around him.
Love and enjoy life; rise above it and don't think about it
again and again. Don't attend to it.

 

[Wren]

There are two sides to every story Disgustedman, in my view, it depends what you were apologising for, I hope the issue is resolved but sadly, some things are unforgivable .....

 

[Mr. Ed]

Who did you apologize for? If you expected something in return perhaps your heart wasn't in it

 

[Disgustedman]

Who did you apologize for? If you expected something in return perhaps your heart wasn't in it

Apologizing for what I said.

But he refused my apology. So, I'm done with it. Thanks for everyones advice.

 

[Gaer]

There are two sides to every story Disgustedman, in my view, it depends what you were apologising for, I hope the issue is resolved but sadly, some things are unforgivable .....

I give high respect to your opinions, Wren. I don't know though that some things are not forgivable.
I think everything is forgivable; maybe not from the perspective from this lowly Earth, but from a higher view.
Not only forgiven, but send blessings to them with your thought because no one needs growth
of the soul more than they. To forgive eliminates disharmony and discord in the atmosphere.
Don't ya think?

 

[DebraMae]

Some things are inexcusable. We forgive for ourselves. Sometimes we have to forgive something that is inexcusable and will never be forgotten. You do not have to have this person in your life, just forgive them so you can move on.

 

[chic]

Everyone is you pushed out. Revise it. Tell yourself they did forgive you and move on. See what happens.

 

[Chet]

Some people just want you to kiss their butt. They probably weren't much of a friend to begin with.

 

[Right Now]

If you were at fault, but later apologized, you did the best you could.

I find that if I am at fault, I address the problem right away, head on, contact the person and try to work through the issue.
If it festers, goes a long period of time before apologizing, you probably won't be able to maintain the relationship. I have found this to be true, and let it go. It's disappointing, but sometimes for the best long term.

 

[dobielvr]

Some things are inexcusable. We forgive for ourselves. Sometimes we have to forgive something that is inexcusable and will never be forgotten. You do not have to have this person in your life, just forgive them so you can move on.

Yes, exactly.