People That Won't Settle Down

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debodun

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I've been reading on Quora about some of the people that say they can't stand to live in one place or have the same job for more than a few months. They get "antsy" or "depressed" and can't relate to people that seem happy living in the same house and working at the same job for their whole lives.

There used to be a woman in my church that was like that, seemed every time I talked with her, she was moving. When I asked her why she moved so much, she'd just shrug.

I'm just the opposite, I will turn 71 in April and I think I moved 3 times and 2 of those times were my parents decision (one move was from an apartment to a flat in the same house). I worked 38 years for our state's health department.
 

The house that my sister-in-law lives in was bought from a couple that had been married for 55 years. In those 55 years, they had moved over 45 times. They told me that they just would get bored. They would usually move to an area that they hadn't been in before, but everything was within a 50 mile radius. The shortest time in one place was 6 weeks.

I've only lived in two house. My parents & my own.
 
I've always enjoyed most of our moves; walk around the new neighborhood and getting a lay of the land.
Back then, we always had a dog and could use that as an excuse to explore.

It used to be that you would give notice (2 weeks) and then move on. Don't burn any bridges, as they say.
At my last job, people would just not show up and because of the need in hiring, get a new job the next day.
Guess today, you just keep changing jobs till you find the one that suits you.
Hope that works out for them.

Some never find that and are always on the move.
We, as a society, have made this the new norm.

Might be why you can't find anyone that knows their Companies standards or where things are located.
 
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Changing jobs, unless the person is very unhappy or not suited to the position isnā€™t a good idea. As most people learn, sometimes too late, the longer we stick with a job that has a good retirement plan, the better off we are come retirement time. I know retirement plans are going by the wayside, but if a person finds a good job with a good pension plan, they will be rewarded later in life.

As for moving, if you have a family with kids. Itā€™s best to put down roots and teach your kids about stability. We have moved three times. On each occasion it was to a bigger home. This was because I was moving up in the company and that sometimes requires a person to also increase their social standing in their community. We never changed school districts for the kidsā€™ sake. Besides, we really liked the people here, the church and the medical facilities available.
 
Jules said:
Some people buy, renovate and sell for a good profit.
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My daughter is that person. She buys, immediately renovates..underfloor heating. new kitchen , new bathroom... etc.. then sells within 2 years.... she's done that with probably 7 houses . She's just bought her latest house a year ago, which is in a lovely village but had been owned by an elderly couple who'd had nothing done for decades.. .. she's already had the new bathroom , underfloor heating, new loft conversion.. new driveway..new roof.. and now she's having an extension built on the back.

For now she's staying, and she may stay for a few years because her job is just 5 mins drive.. and her dogs are elderly so she doesn't want to unsettle them again.. just let them live out their lives there in that beautiful area..
 
Our kids would tell you we moved a lot........we did chasing jobs. However in the past 26 years he retired, and we moved to be closer to our son, that was 17 years ago. It is the longest we have ever lived somewhere. I plan to live here till I croak! Our place is paid off and DH says "why move somewhere and have to pay rent". When we are gone our son will move in, he will be able to afford the rent and will be old enough to live in a senior mobile home park.
 
I moved a lot while my kids were growing up. After I divorced their mother I gave up on finishing college and just chased well-paying jobs and reasonable living costs. Worked out really well, but my daughter had a hard time adjusting to changing schools and leaving friends behind....then it was boyfriends, and that's when things got really crazy.

So I moved us back to Calif, but she barely even remembered living here. That's when she chopped off her long, gorgeous blond hair and dyed it black and gave me the stink-eye while pointing out my countless short-comings every single day of our lives for like 3 freaking years.

And then she enlisted in the Navy. šŸ˜­

Of course, being in the Navy meant she had to travel a lot. :p

And then she became very successful in her civilian life thanks to her Navy training and the deployments and the awards. :giggle:

And now she's married and has a daughter and a granddaughter and a business and her 4th home, and she calls me at least once a week. ;)
 
I have a close relative like that; the family joke is "she must have a little gypsy in there somewhere."

I kind of fall in the middle. I enjoy the novelty of living in a new place but glad to have a home base. That's why travel nursing worked so well for me... 3-6 months in one place then on to the next adventure!
 
I've only moved six times total since becoming an adult, and only 4 times since 1972. I 've owned three homes, and now am in an apartment for the 2nd time. Last apartment was in for 14 years. When I fix my home the way I enjoy it, it becomes a haven and place of peacefulness.
 

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