Facebook portrayals

PeppermintPatty said:
I don’t personal care what anyone looks like nor do I care what photo people use for their avatar. Whether they use an old photo, a fake photo or a picture of their dog, it’s matters none to me. I don’t really know why it should.
I think people are smart to protect their identity online.
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Extra points for using those kinds of photos?
 

I understand a lot of people use Fakebook to keep in touch with family and friends, but I don't. I keep in touch with people I care about through visits, phone calls, and email. It's more intimate and private.
 
well I use my picture now for my avatar. For many years I didn't, and now I am retired and no-one can connect me to my job.. or know my real name and connect me to where I live or who I'm related to I'm quite happy to put my picture here.. sometimes I'll pull one out from several years ago.. and other times like now, it's a recent one or relatively recent..
 

CallMeKate said:
I don't really pay enough attention to FB to know who's "faking it" about how good their life is (I only connect to actual friends and family)... but I *do* notice the people who use filters for their photos to remove pounds, wrinkles, and so on. When I run across them in a store or an event, it's like "WHOA!" and I have to be sure not to let it show on my face that they're 70 pounds lighter or looking 15 years younger on their "new/current" FB pic. 🤭
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Haha Kate These people are so funny
But why not let them be 40yrs younger again 😂😂😂
 
CallMeKate said:
Oh, absolutely... it just throws me when I go around a corner in a store and find out that they didn't actually find a fountain of youth after all. 🤭 Maybe I should learn how to do the filters... I don't have wrinkles, but I could slice off 15 pounds and feel better.
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Your lucky !! No wrinkles ??? I have lots of wrinkles
Yep they are my smiling lines and and I love them x they are ME …,
 
CallMeKate said:
I don't really pay enough attention to FB to know who's "faking it" about how good their life is (I only connect to actual friends and family)... but I *do* notice the people who use filters for their photos to remove pounds, wrinkles, and so on. When I run across them in a store or an event, it's like "WHOA!" and I have to be sure not to let it show on my face that they're 70 pounds lighter or looking 15 years younger on their "new/current" FB pic. 🤭
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This is how "out of it" I am! I didn't know you could use filters and stuff!
And, I didn't know there was a "Catfish" show on TV!

Rose65 is right though, isn't it odd humans try to "impress" others with all they own/ have/ are?
People only care about themselves and their own happiness anyway!

I am against people putting photos of children and grandchildren on line though. It's too dangerous.
 
hollydolly said:
Could it be that these people are not trying to impress anyone, but to keep themselves upbeat instead ?.. Couldn't it be that by posting that they feel well or they feel happy when in fact their heart is breaking or they're in pain... that they feel they are improving their own mood .

Could it be that most people feel that others don't want to hear negativity... and feel they must always appear to be positive..?. and finally.. if someone posts they're having a lovely life, when their marriage is breaking down.. and another posts she feels delighted with her new role as a mum when she's actually still in pain and exhausted... who the heck are we to decide they should be posting their personal intimate details ?
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No people don’t want to hear negativity. That’s being a Debbie Downer but I always think people don’t want to hear about how great your life is either. For instance someone might spend quite a bit of time posting pictures of where they’ve been or what they are up to thinking they are putting their best foot forward and they later discover that others thought they were nothing but a show off.

Do you just say to heck with them?

Or is this just another jealousy thing - haters will be haters?
 
PeppermintPatty said:
No people don’t want to hear negativity. That’s being a Debbie Downer but I always think people don’t want to hear about how great your life is either. For instance someone might spend quite a bit of time posting pictures of where they’ve been or what they are up to thinking they are putting their best foot forward and they later discover that others thought they were nothing but a show off.

Do you just say to heck with them?

Or is this just another jealousy thing - haters will be haters?
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I spent half my adult life probably 2/3rds of it in truth, playing down what I did for a living, where I live , what cars we owned, because people were so jealous they were hateful... I mean really nasty..so eaten up with jealousy , and I watched this as they attacked other people who had worked and saved, and got nice things, cars, homes or took nice holidays... ..it was just vile..

When I came to this forum 9 years ago... the first thing I noticed about the people here ( at that time it was 99 % Americans).. that they were encouraging, pleased for people who'd done well.. yet not boastful.. but genuinely happy for people who had nice homes, cars, nice things generally.. no nastiness at all... it was like a massive breath of fresh air!

Since those days certain other people who are not Americans ( or Canadians) have joined this forum ..some have stayed some are long gone .. but with some of them came their jealousies.. and from that their vindictiveness... just ridiculous that people at this age and older can be so eaten up with jealousy of another person that it poisons them ..
 
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hollydolly said:
I spent half my adult life probably 2/3rds of it in truth, playing down what I did for a living, where I live , what cars we owned, because people were so jealous they were hateful... I mean really nasty..so eaten up with jealousy , and I watched this as they attacked other people who had worked and saved, and got nice things, cars, homes or took nice holidays... ..it was just vile..

When I came to this forum 9 years ago... the first thing I noticed about the people here ( at that time it was 99 % Americans).. that they were encouraging, pleased for people who'd done well.. yet not boastful.. but genuinely happy for people who had nice homes, cars, nice things generally.. no nastiness at all... it was like a massive breath of fresh air!

Since those days certain other people who are not Americans ( or Canadians) have joined this forum ..some have stayed some are long gone .. but with some of them came their jealousies.. and from that their vindictiveness... just ridiculous that people at this age and older can be so eaten up with jealousy of another person that it poisons them ..
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That was a brutally honest answer. It’s really very sad when people have to shrink or diminish themselves due to others people’s jealousy but it DOES happen. People can get vicious when they are jealous and project their venom your way making you feel like their anger is your fault. Some people’s hate is unbelievable. I can understand why you were targeted . You are successful.

It’s really good that you got through that and stopped playing down due to others. People should be able to let their light shine snd out their best foot forward without getting attacked.

Thank you 🙏

My experience with hateful people isn’t from Facebook or this site but has been both online and offline .
 
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When I retired, I did a "cleansing" in Facebook during which I went through all my friends and Unfriended those who were only friends because of my industry. Even approaching 3 years in retirement, I still have people I don't even know from my industry sending me Friend requests. I just delete them.

Now I only have true friends on Facebook, and when my partner and I do special things like go to a concert or travel to an interesting place we post pictures because we know our friends will truly appreciate them. Not trying to impress anyone. Most of our friends have similar lives.
 
On fb you can share what you like. If you do not feel comfortable sharing your photos or personal details then don't do it. Why put down people who do? I just spent a couple of hours there tonight with Sonny while he was here. I put up two pictures, one of my bf, Sonny and one of the new cart he bought to haul a mobility chair or scooter. It started a whole conversation with our friends. Nothing bad. Fun. If you are not on it, how can you judge it?

My friend who lives in FL is a widow and she posts videos she takes every night in her yard. The wild critters who come to the water and feed pans are amazing! She has 3 separate cams set up in different areas. It is filmed in the dark all night long. You should see what her videos have on them. Raccoons, possums (one is presently pregnant), rabbits, a fox, a coyote, a big bobcat, occasional stray cats or dogs and a big fat black bear. Before doing this she was depressed and had no contact with her friends from school. I talk to her all day long now and love her videos. What is wrong with that? She is not trying to portray herself as anything other than what she is.

I think it all depends on your attitude. I do many of the things you all put down and nobody thinks I am trying to make them jealous or anything like that. I post a picture of a meal I made and they all want the recipe or want to know more about the keto lifestyle.
 
I consider what @hollydolly replied (#2) to be possible explanations. What gets me is when people do just the opposite...air their dirty laundry on Facebook! Or worse, post about their trysts knowing their spouses or spouses' relatives are on FB. And worst yet, those who post their crimes or intentions to commit crimes, even murders. Makes absolutely no sense to me.
 
I'm on FB with no friends. I have no photo. And I use my maiden name not my real name. I just joined FB to be part of art/sewing groups. I just don't see how anyone could post their children's photos on FB. What a bunch of idiots. Do they want them to be part of some pedophile's fantasy???
 
I have a FaceBook page, My friends are my relatives or friends I know personally. I play different game son FB. I also am able to chat with my 6 sisters and my 4 kids....all at the same time....Thru all those pop-up messages...lol. We all are down home, don't use fake pics. Some complain, some are upbeat. It is great chatting with all my family. I dont post my grandchildren(minors), never post personal info, never financials....Others are able to read your posts even thru friends of friends. So E1 keeps that info to ourselves.
 
OneEyedDiva said:
I consider what @hollydolly replied (#2) to be possible explanations. What gets me is when people do just the opposite...air their dirty laundry on Facebook! Or worse, post about their trysts knowing their spouses or spouses' relatives are on FB. And worst yet, those who post their crimes or intentions to commit crimes, even murders. Makes absolutely no sense to me.
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People who do those sort of things haven't got much sense to begin with.
 
I rarely post. I agree with you OP here. I have heard from others they feel it's the same thing. When someone at work sent me a Facebook friend invite, I ended up getting more. And some I wasn't really interested in.

It can be a good way to keep in touch with someone or if I want to say something to a co-worker. I never write even in a PM anything remotely near controversial or putting anyone down. Anything that can be used.

I mainly post pictures of my cats and I haven't in ages. People may not believe it, but my cats actually are that cute. Some may not believe it but they are. They are also that bad! 😻
 
Happy Retiree said:
I'm on FB with no friends. I have no photo. And I use my maiden name not my real name. I just joined FB to be part of art/sewing groups. I just don't see how anyone could post their children's photos on FB. What a bunch of idiots. Do they want them to be part of some pedophile's fantasy???
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You never know who's looking for sure.

I use my real name but there are a lot with my name. I don't list my town, home town, high school or even state. I do think those freak neighbors I had found my facebook page through my Comcast e mail. They got my phone number also. I think they knew people who must have worked for these companies and I had noticed I had not marked that I couldn't be found with my e mail. I have since marked that. I started getting e mails with the names of facebook friends, then with weird and stupid content.
 
katlupe said:
I think it all depends on your attitude. I do many of the things you all put down and nobody thinks I am trying to make them jealous or anything like that. I post a picture of a meal I made and they all want the recipe or want to know more about the keto lifestyle.
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@katlupe , let me clarify my answer in that when I see my friends posting about mundane things, they are not restricted by mobility issues as you are. I was not being critical of you using FB, but of those who can get around, and choose to exaggerate what they have, or used to have and hope people will pay more attention to them. It happens here on this forum, too. We DO see through the facade of those few. And they know we recognize it.

I admire you and your genuine posts about your life and lifestyle. 💛
 
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PeppermintPatty said:
That was a brutally honest answer. It’s really very sad when people have to shrink or diminish themselves due to others people’s jealousy but it DOES happen. People can get vicious when they are jealous and project their venom your way making you feel like their anger is your fault. Some people’s hate is unbelievable. I can understand why you were targeted . You are successful.

It’s really good that you got through that and stopped playing down due to others. People should be able to let their light shine snd out their best foot forward without getting attacked.

Thank you 🙏

My experience with hateful people isn’t from Facebook or this site but has been both online and offline .
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there-are a lot of people on FB and other sites, that just want attention, and exaggerate a lot ,
and others can sense that in the poster …..
but if they are happy with making themselves popular, or thinking they are ,?
then good luck to them…….
they read what I post , but if they don’t like or get jealous , well that’s tough……
im just happy for people , who are happy with themselves……
 

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