What are some illusions in life that don't match all the hype?

Sassycakes said:
I hated being on jury duty. I was on a jury in 1966 and I remember every minute of it all these years since then. The man's name and address and every minute of the trial.I would never want to serve again.
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what had he been charged with, Sassy ?
 

Sassycakes said:
I hated being on jury duty. I was on a jury in 1966 and I remember every minute of it all these years since then. The man's name and address and every minute of the trial.I would never want to serve again.
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I always made sure to get out of it.

This one lawyer said to his sidekick, "he just doesn't want to be here". And I thought, "well duh!" .

Everybody sitting out there in the jury box waiting to be interviewed feels the same way.

And I got rejected and sent back to the big waiting area
 
Nathan said:
Apologies to the OP for dragging the thread so far asunder, to answer the question:
Romantic love, and marital bless. In order to achieve either, both individuals have to buy into the same illusion, lock-stock & barrel...and stay there.
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bobcat said:
Although, many claim to have it. Do you think it's always an illusion?
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Nathan said:
Well, in order to maintain the romantic fantasy each partner has to keep the other "on a pedestal". If you're too much of an objective realist, that wouldn't be possible.
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In order to achieve both "romantic love and marital bliss", you have to "buy into" each other. It's impossible to achieve without mutual love, understanding, kindness, compromise, tolerance, honesty, trust, respect, a sense of humor, total commitment, and occasionally being willing to sacrifice. You must be deeply invested in each other and care equally about making each other happy.

My, my, that sounds like a tall order! It is. Lock, stock, and barrel are right. If that's what you really want to achieve, it's worth the effort. It takes work, but the payoff is like no other. No illusion, no fantasy, and no pedestal are involved.

Most people assume that objective reality exists in all of us with facts that are universally true and more than just a matter of opinion. However, others argue that there is no such thing as objective reality, that everything is subjective, and that anything can be questioned or legitimately disagreed with, even facts that used to have near universal agreement.

Objective reality is perceived, whether directly by us or through the calculations and assumptions we make, which is an inherently subjective process. This argument takes subjective ideas as objective and draws assumptions from them. So, there's that. 🙃😊
 
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I am disillusioned by the sizing guides for trying to order women’s clothing on line. Also disillusioned by advertisers that claim their bra is the most comfortable bra in the universe and
will fit every woman, regardless of shape/ size , as if God’s own angels produced them.
 
hollydolly said:
Top of the range expensive cars....purlease...we've had those.. he still has... what the hell difference does it make to get from A-B in a decent Ford or middle income car... compared to a Maserati, or Ferrari... ?..none... you might get there a few minutes faster.. but not in the UK with our strict speed laws, but you will find yourself paying for expensive insurance, costing much more in fuel, Much more in repairs, and parts, more in Car tax..... and all for a car you can't see yourself when you're driving it.. *pah*

If you ever fancy a P*nis extension... do yourself a favour, hire one for a week or 2, you'll soon get it out of your system, and your wallet will be much healthier for it..
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I buy nice cars, because I'm interested in different cars, their history, quality, etc.
Its a hobby that I enjoy. People are allowed to enjoy things in life without checking with acceptance of the masses.
These cars provide jobs for people to take care of their families. I would think that would count for something.
Think how boring life would be if we all drove the same car, ate the same food, wore the same clothes.
 
Much of this boils down to marketing departments or marketing firms. They are designed to make you feel inferior if you don't drive that Maserati, or if you don't have the latest designer clothes. In fact, their entire purpose in life is to get you to follow the latest trend. Early adopters are so very proud of themselves when they crow about being the first in the neighborhood to have granite countertops or a barn door on their closet. Unfortunately, most people are willing victims of the marketing teams and willingly turn over their hard-earned cash to be the first in their neighborhood to have that new... (fill in the latest trend here).
 
Rich said:
Much of this boils down to marketing departments or marketing firms. They are designed to make you feel inferior if you don't drive that Maserati, or if you don't have the latest designer clothes. In fact, their entire purpose in life is to get you to follow the latest trend. Early adopters are so very proud of themselves when they crow about being the first in the neighborhood to have granite countertops or a barn door on their closet. Unfortunately, most people are willing victims of the marketing teams and willingly turn over their hard-earned cash to be the first in their neighborhood to have that new... (fill in the latest trend here).
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Thee may be some truth to this to a limit.
Not all people fall into this category you describe.
You mentioned Early Adopters. These are people that 1) want to have things because they are curious about new things, technology, a different way of doing the same thing, much like a kid with a new toy. 2) and those you mention that want to 'keep up with the Jones'.
We all look at money differently (and how we spend it).

To some, having granite countertops or a barn door, or a Maserati, has nothing to do with 'keeping up with the Jones'. They just like, and can afford 'things'. Actually, many of these people are private people that don't care what others have.
 
Buckeye said:
As a side note, my Urologist drives a Maserati.....
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Maserati's are highly overrated as a luxury auto. There are so many that have much better quality.
I know, I know, people like to throw around 'mid-life crisis' for men that are successful and have lesser commitments from a money standpoint, and actually want to start enjoying their lives once they have taken care of everyone around them.
Mid-Life Crisis is a good 'tag line' to put on people, but in most cases totally false.
Sure, you see the fool sometimes buying something out of character for them and their lifestyle, but those are the exception rather than the rule.
I have 2 motorcycles. One, I've spent $30,000 on. Why, because I enjoy it tremendously. Its an extension of my creative side, it brings me enjoyment that many others could never relate to. I don't care who sees it, actually it is stored away 8-9 months a year. I'm proud of it, not because of the money, but the value it adds to my life.
The money? Doesn't matter to me.
See, the thing is, many people gauge others lives through their 'life lens'. What is acceptable and what isn't by their own life journey. Thats not fair at all.
 
Pepper said:
A young man's hair....
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Funny you should say that. Funny to me anyway. When I was young, late teens, early twenties girls seemed to really be into my hair. I was told by lots of different women how much they liked my hair and wished they had hair like mine. This was such a thing that on two separate occasions from 2 separate women that were cutting my hair at the time, I got asked out because they loved my hair.

The one incident that really points this out was for about a year I had a romance with woman that was the stuff novels are written about. We were in each other's arms and she asked me what do you love about me? I told her and then asked and what do you love about me? She started running her fingers through my hair and said a couple of nice things and then said, but I LOVE YOUR HAIR! Talking ceased at that point-- go figure.
 

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