David777
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One of the issues with social dancing is there are cultural pressures especially for men dancing in public, to only do so in the context of male/female pair dancing as a kind of acceptable mating ritual. In doing so, men that rarely dance, don't associate the activity for the sake of simply enjoying the visceral feelings beyond the enjoyment of being close to women in public reserved seksual ways.
That tends to play out strongly at alcohol bars and nightclubs where close holding slow dancing styles dominate among mainstream society. There isn't really an easy way for most men to become involved with the kind of advanced more athletic styles like Bella enjoyed.
Those men that pair dance are likely tall handsome athletic and were introduced into that world before becoming adults. And if so is likely to be in major urban areas where such culture has history.
Despite that, there have always been limited regional thriving dancing cultural exceptions like during the Disco era and among ethnic groups. Square dancing and Texas two-step are American cultural examples. African Americans in particular, have always been deeply into a range of fun styles.
For decades, I've publicly freestyle danced a lot in the SFBA to counterculture rock music. Just like with those skilled swing style dancers in Bella's video, any person cannot just try and publicly dance so without looking so awkward they become embarrassed. So there is this high wall for most men to overcome without any cultural structures available to help them.
In this era with smartphones, people can easily video skilled dancers doing so in public and then in the privacy with their local friends, figure out how to do so. I dance for the incredible visceral enjoyment and not to show off. Same thing with my snow skiing. But being a public model for others is sort of an ongoing mission. And it is especially effective at outdoor street live music events.
Any gals out there, frustrated with a lack of ways or partners to socially dance with ought consider attending such outdoor events and just dance for fun without a partner.
That tends to play out strongly at alcohol bars and nightclubs where close holding slow dancing styles dominate among mainstream society. There isn't really an easy way for most men to become involved with the kind of advanced more athletic styles like Bella enjoyed.
Those men that pair dance are likely tall handsome athletic and were introduced into that world before becoming adults. And if so is likely to be in major urban areas where such culture has history.
Despite that, there have always been limited regional thriving dancing cultural exceptions like during the Disco era and among ethnic groups. Square dancing and Texas two-step are American cultural examples. African Americans in particular, have always been deeply into a range of fun styles.
For decades, I've publicly freestyle danced a lot in the SFBA to counterculture rock music. Just like with those skilled swing style dancers in Bella's video, any person cannot just try and publicly dance so without looking so awkward they become embarrassed. So there is this high wall for most men to overcome without any cultural structures available to help them.
In this era with smartphones, people can easily video skilled dancers doing so in public and then in the privacy with their local friends, figure out how to do so. I dance for the incredible visceral enjoyment and not to show off. Same thing with my snow skiing. But being a public model for others is sort of an ongoing mission. And it is especially effective at outdoor street live music events.
Any gals out there, frustrated with a lack of ways or partners to socially dance with ought consider attending such outdoor events and just dance for fun without a partner.
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, you never know when you'll find a dance partner. I have a feeling you'll get lucky sooner or later. 
That’s actually great dancing 
mind you