When you married did you marry for love or something else?

CallMeKate said:
Assuming that no one marries for love makes me sad to hear. :cry:
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You see? This is what I mean about no one coming forward with any other reason for marriage but for love. They get so judged so badly. It is seen as a real 'downer' mark against them. But, there is nothing really wrong about it, I believe. Not you necessarily, but those who judge so narrowly are only testifying to their narrowness and limited life experiences.

The most interesting people I've met in my life were often the least inhibited and had not lived their lives only within the confines of 'acceptability'. Rather they lived life dangerously. And, as a consequence they were very interesting to know. I don't think I am alone in this. You may have found them interesting and good companions as well. For them as potential spouses it would not have worked for me nor did love work for me as well. But, that's me.
 

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Of course, people do get married for reasons other than love. I don't think it's necessary to marry someone simply for companionship, and marrying someone for their money is like making a business deal if the monied party knows that. They might be fine with it if they love that person even if their love isn't returned, or be agreeable to being used as a bank account in exchange for other "services." Or they might've been duped into thinking they're being married because they're loved, only to discover that isn't the case.

I never thought I'd marry because I didn't have any interest in marriage. Then I fell in love with a man who convinced me otherwise. I married for love and wouldn't have married him for any other reason.
 
I've been married twice and was totally smitten both times.

When I married the first time I had no idea that marriage was so complicated, that it requires negotiations and compromises, sacrifice, absolute dedication and a lot of repair and maintenance work.

I've fallen in and out of love numerous times, so I don't think love requires all that.

A resilient marriage definitely does, so before my current wife and I married, we talked about everything we wanted and needed from each other, and what we could realistically give each other. We still didn't cover all the basis because that's probably impossible, but it's all good. (we've only been married a few years)
 

After 60 years of. marriage, can say married for love & adventure.

Adventure included learning to live on a small income.
By time first son was born , hubby got a job in the local steel mill.
There were ups & downs ,plenty of tough things that we weren't prepared for.

With 2 active boys to share our lives with.
Hunting, boating, swimming , bikes , than motorized 4 wheelers, cars,, racing, cars shows, travel.
 
For love and still love him after 34 years. However, my girlfriend had an arranged marriage. It has lasted but not without some abuse in the beginning. Her mother-in-law (from India) ruled the house as they all shared a home, all sons and wives. Her mother-in-law would tell my friend's husband to hit her and he would.

Finally, not me, but another friend (she was actually our boss at work) went to the home to speak to the husband and said she would report him to the police if he continued to hit her. He never laid a hand on her again.
 
Married for love after dating for 3 years. We wanted to share living life and growing old to together.
We were poor - living on love and buying on time... ha! I think that was a good thing as we learned to depend on each other.
ms gamboolgal was/is a wonderful mother, and as of 14-Dec-23 the prettiest Grandma I have ever seen.
We just had our 42nd Anniversary - and I am hoping for many more years with ms gamboolgal.
Like most all of us, we've seen marriages fail and marriages that were unhappy.
That's a shame...
 
I married my high school sweetheart, only boyfriend at the age of tweenty. I still think everyone thought I was pregnant, so nine years later we had a son!! We worked hard, saved money and bought our first house at 25 years old.

I loved him then, I loved him the whole time. I loved him through five years of cancer treatments. I told him there would never be another. That has not changed, I love him still. I am still angry at him, he did not go to the doctor when I begged, it cost him his life.
 
It may be strange but I know among relatives three marriages obviously for love. All couples got a divorce only a few years later. It is possible that a lot of people think they marry for love but it isn't love.
 
You could say that I married for lust. We were dance crazy when we were young, travelling to and competing in many amateur dance competitions. It came at quite an expense, so I suggested that when we were away we share a room, with two single beds of course. Her father was having none of it, "If you want to sleep with my daughter, you will marry her." To his, and everybody else's surprise, that's what we did. Our 56th anniversary will be in May.
 
We became good friends during our freshman year in college. That soon included a lust for each other. We got married over Thanksgiving of our sophomore year. That was 55 years ago. I am not sure when exactly we fell in love, but seems it was fairly quickly after we married. I still lust after her and love her dearly just as intensely as I did at 20.
 
The wife of an English lord committed suicide by jumping out of the castle window. The servant informed the lord. The lord replied: "James, please close the window. The author Julien Green, who wrote this story, then asked "Was this marriage a happy one?"
 
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My wife telling me she was pregnant made it abundantly clear it was time I asked her to marry me. I was inn a crazy place recovering from cross-country drive New York-Salt Lake City-Georgia. Many memoiries are blank without residence Perhaps even evicted by lack of substance. As true as rain I am smart, however, Raindrops keep falling on head
 
I just have to share with you something I actually heard from a high-ranking official in my office;

”I married once for love, and once for s*x, and now I just want to marry someone to keep the God-da*n house clean!”

Unfortunately, I was meeting with a Christian fundamentalist parent when the remark was audible through the wall. Co-workers gestured wildly to the official to make him aware of that fact. The official then tried to cover himself by audibly proclaiming goodbye to his subordinate as if that person had made the remark, and was leaving… 😸
 

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