Do you have any regrets?

Paulina

Paulina

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I do. I wish I wasn't so scared to have a baby early on. It was a mutual decision at the time since my family was just pure evil. Turns out his family was too (with the exception of my husband's dad). We were too scared to chance it. When we did finally have our son, he was severely Autistic.

That was many, many thanks to my husband's mother. After much, much research and SIL along with nieces or nephews for whom are extremely Autistic. I wish I had a crystal ball as the evil MIL never shared her personal experience with her very own sister being Autistic as well. I'm sorry for going on. Thanks for letting me spill my guts. Most all of you are wonderful! Anyways, do you have any regrets?
 

How appropriate a question at this point in my life.
Yes. just recently l started wishing l did have children even though all l could ever do was think about how unsafe and cruel the world is and l could never do that to a child. And never have a child without the love of a father.
 

Olivia said:
How appropriate a question at this point in my life.
Yes. just recently l started wishing l did have children even though all l could ever do was think about how unsafe and cruel the world is and l could never do that to a child. And never have a child without the love of a father.
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OMG. Nevertheless, you are a truly kindhearted woman.
 
The one thing I regret is, I never learned to swim. My father was a champion swimmer for 4 years in his boarding school. He taught my 2 sisters to swim, but I was 'Un swimmable". I was terrified of the water because I remember my mother telling us she was so afraid of the water, she never learned to swim also. It stuck in my mind. Thank goodness my husband taught our 2 boys to swim, and they still swim almost every day
in the Summer.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
I regret not being as good to my wife as she was to me.
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if I wish anything for my ex husband it's that he should think himself very fortunate that he was married to me... without me he would be dead today.. but he's a selfish S-O-B... so I suspect none of that will pass through his mind... so I doubly regret.. doing all I did for him... and treating him better than he ever deserved


I can say all these things now freely, now that the divorce is done and finished at long last!
 
hollydolly said:
if I wish anything for my ex husband it's that he should thik himself very fortunate that he was married to me... without me would be dead today.. but he's a selfish S-O-B... so I suspect none f that will pass through his mind... so I doubly regret.. doing all I did for him... and treating bettet than he ever deserved


I can say all these things now freely, now that the divorce is done and finished at long last!
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Well I hope I wasn't that bad.
 
hollydolly said:
I hope so too... :)
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There is an old saying - I forget the exact words and won't waste my time looking it up - but something like "marriage is a 50/50 proposition." I haven't found that to be very accurate. From relationships I've observed, and from my own, one party generally gives more than the other. My wife was very calm and versatile, and would often just let me have my way rather than insisting it go as she wantedd .. . . . . except for some things. On those, I had to give in, and I did. So, no - I do not accept responsibility for being the kind of husband you seem to have endured.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
There is an old saying - I forget the exact words and won't waste my time looking it up - but something like "marriage is a 50/50 proposition." I haven't found that to be very accurate. From relationships I've observed, and from my own, one party generally gives more than the other. My wife was very calm and versatile, and would often just let me have my way rather than insisting it go as she wantedd .. . . . . except for some things. On those, I had to give in, and I did. So, no - I do not accept responsibility for being the kind of husband you seem to have endured.
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...and no-one has said you should ...
 

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