Do Your Kids Scold You?

Jules

Jules

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Those young whippersnappers. What do they think they know that you should be doing. Or what you’re doing wrong.

I know that I was one of those that needed to correct my mother. Yes, some were imperative for her safety as she aged. Thinking back, I was probably sanctimonious many years earlier.

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Jules said:
Those young whippersnappers. What do they think they know that you should be doing. Or what you’re doing wrong.

I know that I was one of those that needed to correct my mother. Yes, some were imperative for her safety as she aged. Thinking back, I was probably sanctimonious many years earlier.

Have the tables turned?
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yes... too often. I let her get away with a lot.... and then once in a while I say to her '' when did you turn into the mother'' ?... that keeps her quiet for a while...
 

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My kids don't scold. They live independent lives I'm glad they do. What does happen. If they need help with something or I do we help each other right away. As an example if I need to be hospitalized the son that lives closest to us has a form set up where he works that will allow him to be off work for an extended period of time to help in any way he can. His time off won't be charged as an absence.
 
Not sure if scold is the right word, but I had to make all decisions for my mother and repeatedly restrict her from doing certain things when she had Alzheimer's. She got so mad at me, and that hurt. Fortunately, 10 minutes later, she would forget and all was okay until the next time.
 
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Agreed. I was thinking after I wrote it that it should have been something like taking control. Or a bit bossy.
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yes that's how mine is... scolding sounds like they give you a good telling off... well that doesn't happen...... but she is a Bossy Madam lol....


For example. she'll make comments about how much salt I put on my food.. she'll even take the salt shaker away..... I just get up and get it again... but she's just bossy, and concerned for my wellbeing..which is why I let her away with it most of the time without saying anything...
 
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Jules said:
Agreed. I was thinking after I wrote it that it should have been something like taking control. Or a bit bossy.
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Oh, I think you wrote it fine. It's just I have no adult child who tries to tell me what to do. But, your question reminded me of how I had to take charge in my own mother's situation. And even then, it only worked for awhile before she required more care than I was able to provide.
 
No, my daughters don't scold me--that would be silly, but they do make "suggestions." I let 'em know if a suggestion has possible possibilities for me, or "Naw, that's not for me." After a short dispute, the subject is dropped. :)
 
Jules said:
Those young whippersnappers. What do they think they know that you should be doing. Or what you’re doing wrong.

I know that I was one of those that needed to correct my mother. Yes, some were imperative for her safety as she aged. Thinking back, I was probably sanctimonious many years earlier.

Have the tables turned?
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One time my mother came out of her room and hit her hand on an item and let off an F-bomb. I looked at her and said "Mom if you were 10 years younger I could let it pass but having a 75 year old woman let off an F bomb just isn't really acceptable" and she smiled and never said that word again even though she banged in her hand, toes and arms later.
 
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One time my mother came out of her room and hit her hand on an item and let off an F-bomb. I looked at her and said "Mom if you were 10 years younger I could let it pass but having a 75 year old woman let off an F bomb just isn't really acceptable" and she smiled and never said that word again even though she banged in her hand, toes and arms later.
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LOL Given that my children frequently let loose with the F-bomb, they don't flinch when I use it.

My language took a serious turn for the worse when I went into the apparel industry. F-bombs were everywhere, and I'm talking the mid-1970s! It's far from a genteel industry.
 
Jules said:
Agreed. I was thinking after I wrote it that it should have been something like taking control. Or a bit bossy.
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Ok, if we're talking about taking control, I want to change my answer from no to yes.

My kids take over on certain things and I have absolutely no problem with that. They're never demeaning or belittling when they do it.

They recognize my weaknesses and don't hesitate to speak up if I'm doing something that's going be a problem.

90% of it is technology. LOL.
 
hollydolly said:
yes that's how mine is... scolding sounds like they give you a good telling off... well that doesn't happen...... but she is a Bossy Madam lol....


For example. she'll make comments about how much salt I put on my food.. she'll even take the salt shaker away..... I just get up and get it again... but she's just bossy, and concerned for my wellbeing..hich is why I let her away with it most of the time without saying anything...
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My daughter is exactly the same. I have sometimes stopped her but it doesn't change long-term.
 

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