Do you accept or resist old age?

Trish said:
Good for you @Rose65 we should all do what makes us happy.

Having said that, it is disappointing that you then go on to be negative about those who you perceive to be resisting what you have accepted. I have noticed this before, not by you particularly but by other posters who, when talking about their own approach to life, give shade to others (usually women) who have chosen a different path.

I am not sure why "behaving young" should be ridiculous or why it would preclude anyone from having wisdom.

Personally, I neither accept nor resist, I do as I choose and like to see others enjoy the same freedom of choice without judgment. Actually, if I am honest, I love seeing older people enjoying life and not giving a damn how many birthdays have passed. :)
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I agree, Trish. I neither accept nor resist. I enjoy life. I've had more than my share of bumps in the road; however, I've gained GREAT wisdom along the way. Thus far, I have no regrets. I do not feel any of my years were wasted because I've learned a lot of valuable lessons on my journey, and I have more lessons to learn. Eat, dance, drink, pray, and play!!
 
jujube said:
Are you talking about my 12-year-old Inner Child or my 76-year-old Outer Hag?

One wants the rocking chair and the other wants the roller coaster.

One is impatient with the other's limitations and one wants to beat the other one senseless with her cane.

It's a constant battle....
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I can relate. My mind and body are in a constant battle. My mind thinks it's 25, my body says, Check your birth certificate when in doubt. 🤣🤣
 
Rose65 said:
I accept.
There is a real liberation in doing so, accepting that time has taken it's toll on the body and things are deteriorating physically.

I believe there is a season for all things, for each phase of life. For me I want a quiet life now and to do the things I need for myself. It's not a giving up but acceptance and being realistic. Embracing the next natural path.

I see those who resist old age and time. Some are blessed with exceptional good health and genes. Yet there can be a ridiculous aspect to carrying on behaving as if young. Today's world does focus upon and celebrate youth to an excess - why? Old age has great value to impart, experience to be shared and listened to.

Surely there comes a time for wisdom and preparation for one's eternity. To reflect on what is next in our existence?
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Rose, these are very wise words.
I also accept the process of aging. Perhaps for the reason that I've had problems with my health since my early 40s.
 
Accept. There is no point in not accepting the reality of aging. I accept that I will have limitation in things I did before but I can spin this into doing things I can still do. Keep on learning, also in engaging in activities that interest you. None of us has come this far without gaining knowledge and experience so that is a plus.
 
I do what I can to stay active and well. I want to be as healthy as I can for as long as I can. But I know people that did everything right and had a much better diet, etc., than me and still became ill and died. Life is definitely unpredictable and beyond our control.

I have been depressed since the kid’s dad died three weeks ago. He took really good care of himself and didn’t even know he was sick till about a month before he died. I really admired how he handled finding out he was going to die shortly before he did. He said that he had a great life and he was ready to go. He said that he certainly didn’t want to live the way he was being in pain, not being able to eat and jog 3 miles. He was doing all that up until about six weeks before he died.I have lost eight other friends all between the ages of 59–71. None of them had any bad habits.

In some ways, getting older is all about loss. You start to lose your physical abilities, some people lose their mental abilities, and you lose much of your family and friends. When people close to you die it really makes you realize that your own time on earth is getting short. When you’re young, most people never think about that.

Most days I enjoy life very much and look forward to whatever I’m going to do that day. I especially love taking a long walk with my dog every day. I also really enjoy getting together with my family and friends which I do on a regular basis. I still do some part-time consulting work and I enjoy that too.
 
There comes a point in your middle 70's when it seems like everything changes. You are no longer able to do the things you did and you realize that pushing on is no longer wise. Then your friends pass away and the links you had to them are gone. Which makes the whole situation even worse. All I can say is that you are not alone in this. I relate because I am there. I relate because I understand. I have no answers other then we need to find ways to coupe. We need to re-evalute. Accept what is and move forward. That's it! we have become our parents. Consider your blessings in life, reach out where you can and know that God has your back.
 
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