Choosing to spend more time alone as I grow older

I'm tempted. Sundays I go to church and eat out with some people afterward. Due to current national and world events, the meals have become tense. I don't need that, so I plan to engage less, and I did not join them yesterday. I stopped at the grocery store deli and picked up my lunch, brought it home. I missed the company in a sense, but to have some peace of mind made it a worthwhile trade-off.
 
I’m ok one on one but I don’t have any interest in attending functions or dealing with large groups of people.

I’m thankful that I live alone and don’t have to take anyone else’s needs into account.

I dread the thought of someday having to move into a supervised living arrangement and have to deal with the forced socialization.
 
as for myself, after the whole lockdown thing in 2020 i decided i liked being alone. i am surrounded by people and drama all day at work. it's nice to get home and be left alone. my ride tends to call me on my days off. he claims to check on me but i wonder if he's getting lonely or something. i usually chat but today i have the phone turned off cuz i don't feel like talking.

i spent my whole life around people all the time. it's nice to just sit here and be myself and just enjoy the peace and quiet.

and i too hate forced socialization Bea.
 
It's got pros and cons. I miss one on one company, especially with my husband. I do try to keep busy with working at the museum and going to church. I have to admit, it's nice going home to a quiet house. If I get lonesome I FB friends, text, or get on SF.
 
My Great Grandson is turning 2 and they have a party planned for him with
about 80 people saying they will be coming. I am so dreading it. I will know
maybe 5 people there.
The ex-DIL is the one who has pressured my grD into inviting about 30 of her SIDE of
the family. I see it as she has to have her back-up squad near her.
I secretly wish she had done just an immediate family thing and not this.
Seems way too much for a 2 yr old. Maybe she will learn a lesson from this.

I used to love a big gathering but the divorce of my son and ex-DIL She is my
main reason for wanting to withdraw from these types of things. This side, that side,
who you talk to and if you do what did they say?, did they talk about me?
I don't need this crap in my life.
Why am I going? My son asked me to, he has to have someone to talk to.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
What’s caving?
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Caving refers to the recreational activity of exploring caves. It involves activities such as:
  • Caving Techniques: Climbing, crawling, and sometimes rappelling to navigate through cave systems.
  • Speleology: The scientific study of caves, their formation, and the ecosystems within them.
Caving can vary from casual exploration of easy-access caves to technical spelunking in complex cave systems. This activity appeals to adventure seekers, nature enthusiasts, and researchers studying geological or biological aspects of cave environments. (Created with AI).
 
George1959 said:
Caving refers to the recreational activity of exploring caves. It involves activities such as:
  • Caving Techniques: Climbing, crawling, and sometimes rappelling to navigate through cave systems.
  • Speleology: The scientific study of caves, their formation, and the ecosystems within them.
Caving can vary from casual exploration of easy-access caves to technical spelunking in complex cave systems. This activity appeals to adventure seekers, nature enthusiasts, and researchers studying geological or biological aspects of cave environments. (Created with AI).
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Thanks. I had no idea that’s what it meant. I guess I could have looked it up but thanks for telling me. I think I would have enjoyed that when I was younger.
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George1959 said:
Caving refers to the recreational activity of exploring caves. It involves activities such as:
  • Caving Techniques: Climbing, crawling, and sometimes rappelling to navigate through cave systems.
  • Speleology: The scientific study of caves, their formation, and the ecosystems within them.
Caving can vary from casual exploration of easy-access caves to technical spelunking in complex cave systems. This activity appeals to adventure seekers, nature enthusiasts, and researchers studying geological or biological aspects of cave environments. (Created with AI).
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George1959 said:
I always was a loner. Even as a teenager I spent hours in forests alone. But at age 16 and older sometimes my friends and I did caving. Nevertheless I liked being alone most of the time.
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George1959 said:
I always was a loner. Even as a teenager I spent hours in forests alone. But at age 16 and older sometimes my friends and I did caving. Nevertheless I liked being alone most of the time.
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My husband was a caver and spelunker. His mom was a pioneer in caving. He was pretty much a loner so that might have something to do with it.
 
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