think what you want but it is as true as true can be .
we all go through one of the big three at some point , illness-divorce -job loss . but we all come out very different . a lot of how you end up is based on a history of poor choices and bad decions coupled with motivation ,creativity and a desire to pull a head .
i saw it first hand with the guys i am still friendly with from when i lived in a nyc housing project .
when my career as a pro drummer was being hurt by D.J's back in the 1970's i saw the hand writing on the wall . i needed a new career path . well i thought long and hard and found one . i begged my project buddy's to go to the trade school with me .
there was no way raising my own family was ever going to be in the projects . well they declined and today they all are raising their own family's in the projects , complaining about their low paying jobs and blaming everything and everyone around them . that is a story that repeats over and over sadly .
it is no different than losing weight . very few of the obese population actually have a medical reason . for most it boils down to eat less-move more . but there are more reasons and excuses than carter had pills .
yeah ,some may be valid reasons , we all get that , but that is not the majority . i mean we even have cardio machines at our gym that can use arms only if you have leg and back issues .
those that really want to find a way will generally end up finding a way .
financially it is rarely the "event " that does someone in . it is a history of poor choices , poor prep work and bad decisions generally that leads up to the financial disaster when the event hits .
most of us want to do better but we lack the drive , motivation , control of our lives and creativity to really make it happen . in that case there are lots of excuses and none of them ever reflect those reasons i listed , you can be sure of that.