Yes and no. I've been married 3 times and had 3 partners.
Husband No1: We married at 21, moved to another part of the country for his first lecturing post straight out of Uni.
Lasted about 8ths till I found a letter in his pocket (emptying pockets before washing) from one of his students re a date and place for meeting up.
I was devasted of course, and left him to go back near my home town.
Peculiarly we still had a relationship and then a good friendship which went on for 7yrs until I met my 2nd husband. Sometimes all three of us used to go to the pub - all rather fun.
Anyway No1 moved on when my 2nd husband and I got engaged. In hindsight, No1 and I should never have married, we thought we were in love rather than realising we 'just got on too well', both immature.
He went on to marry 3 times, had no kids, and died fairly young in his early 60s.
Husband No2: lasted 12 yrs, loved him to bits - we always said we were 'each others' half'. He passed away suddenly tho'. (Need to stop there)
Husband No3: - erm not necessarily regarded him on friendly terms afterwards, just put up with him because he was my daughter's father. He was abusive and violent when drunk towards me but no threat to our daughter. We left him when my daughter was 3.
He moved away to another part of the country and when he deigned to see her or phone her, she adored him when little and used to cry buckets for him.
Fast forward through the years (she's 37 this yr), he moved back this way after his next marriage ended through violence. She saw him for what he was, didn't particularly like him but he was still her dad. She really struggled inside about her feelings and how she felt towards him and had a few therapy sessions.
At her wedding, she didn't want him to give the 'dad' speech or anything like that.
She did a lot for him throughout the latter years, as did I, plus I managed to get him into a housing assoc. care home, as I had contacts in the system. He died there earlier this year with Parkinson's and dementia.
Out of my 3 partners, the last one passed away in March (which wasn't unexpected) - bless his little cotton socks, I miss him, such a kind, gentle, witty hunk of a man.
The other 2, were way back and not good - one was arrested and shoved in the nick and later died, the other is still around somewhere but we aren't in contact, thankfully.
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To give you a chuckle, I relate my life to houses as I've moved a lot... anyway two houses after I left
No 3 husband, a house came on the market in a little Close of 14 houses. His 1st ex wife alerted me to it as she lived in the Close with her daughter (my daughter's step sister who's 10ish yrs older and my step daughter).
So we bought it and became the ex-wives next-door-but-one to each other club.
Wasn't really keen on her, too much of a 'Me, Myself, I' type person - but we went out a few times and I taught her daughter to drive whilst she 'babysat' my daughter.
I often wondered what the postman used to think delivering post to two separate houses with the same surnames ie Mrs A and Miss A in one and then the same three doors away - bugga if someone forgot to put the first name along with the surname (which never happened)
