I opened my door and...

dusty said:
there she was again today. I was going to the mail room and when I opened my door to go out, there she was, just standing there. I jumped a mile because I didn't expect to see her and I immediately went back into my apartment and locked the door. The police were called and came. They talked with her for over an hour and then left.

I won't do a restaining order as she lives here and an order wouldn't work. I'll be viligent and careful.
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I must have missed a previous discussion because I'm not entirely sure what this is about. I assume you're being harassed by a neighbor? What have the Police advised? If you're not feeling safe in your home then I'd follow all professional advice. Something like a Restraining Order may well make no difference to her actions, but it does increase the repercussions of her ignoring it. Perhaps consequences is the only way to win.
 

VaughanJB said:
I must have missed a previous discussion because I'm not entirely sure what this is about. I assume you're being harassed by a neighbor?
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Much more than that. The neighbor knew things about Dusty and her son going back years that no one could have known. Claimed to have some creepy similarities, even dads at Pearl Harbor... same birthday... well, lot's of stuff. Dossier level. It's not all in this thread, but the first one from last weekend. @VaughanJB
 
CallMeKate said:
Much more than that. The neighbor knew things about Dusty and her son going back years that no one could have known. Claimed to have some creepy similarities, even dads at Pearl Harbor... same birthday... well, lot's of stuff. Dossier level. It's not all in this thread, but the first one from last weekend. @VaughanJB
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Yikes, thanks for the details.

Well, this sounds very weird.

I'd definitely be doing everything under the law that is possible, because the only other certain way to end it is to move home yourself.
 

Dusty, when you were with your ex and you were investigated and watched continually, do you think this is where she might have managed to get some detailed history of you that she shouldn’t have kept. Then she started digging more, for some unknown reason.

Are you managing to sleep. Keep your door reinforced all the time and always have your cellphone handy.
 
Jazzy1 said:
Sounds very much like BPD: A person wanting to be another person can be a symptom of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), which involves a desperate fear of abandonment and a fragile sense of self. They may "latch onto" others to regulate their emotions and avoid feeling incomplete, sometimes leading to "chameleon-like" behavior and idealizing or devaluing relationships.
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yes but that doesn't explain how this woman knew so much about Dusty, her background, her relatives...etc... from a completely different other place... where Dusty lived previously ...and further to that this woman has only lived in Dusty apartment block for a short time...
 
Jules said:
Dusty, when you were with your ex and you were investigated and watched continually, do you think this is where she might have managed to get some detailed history of you that she shouldn’t have kept. Then she started digging more, for some unknown reason.

Are you managing to sleep. Keep your door reinforced all the time and always have your cellphone handy.
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When I was with the ex I only saw men agents. Unless she was assigned to watch my ex, I don't see how she would get the info. I am sleeping but awaken quickly if there is a noise. Thanks for asking.
 
My ex was invited to join the Secret Service right after his tour in Nam, he got out in 1972. He agreed. They put him in their 'school' and taught him who knows what. He was at Quantico. When he was in Nam he was a dust off medic, did swift water rescue and other things I was never told about till much later.

He was also married when I married him but I did not know. (After the divorce I started to dig into some things and I actually got a copy of a deed to a house he and his wife had bought in 1983 (while he and I were married) in Sandstone VA with her signing her name and 'his wife' after that) The agency was always around, he was always flying off for 2 weeks at a time for work and I was a stay at home, volunteering. I knew there was something and when I asked he told me to stop asking so many questions and everything would be fine.



There are so many things in the same vein I could relate but I won't because I just don't want to remember.
 
Given what you wrote in your post number 58, my uneducated guess is that there is a strong connection between your past and this woman who is knocking at your door and seems to know everything about you. That would be the only way she would know things about you that the average person wouldn’t know.

The next thing to question is, why is she so interested. Does she think you have money that she’s entitled to or, in her mind, is there’s some act of revenge that she feels she needs to wrongly enact?
 
CallMeKate said:
Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID):
Also known as multiple personality disorder, people with DID experience distinct personalities (alters) with different behaviors, memories, and thought patterns. This can manifest as wanting to be or taking on the identity of another person.
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This is extremely rare. It gained popularity as a diagnosis after the book Sybil was published. Sybil was later discredited and the number of people who had DID diminished accordingly.
 
Well first of all this woman was on my door for several hours knocking and scratching. I have lived her 6 yrs and never had this hppen before. If she was an identify thief she has all she needs to know, so why come to me and tell me?? And as for my bank, nothing has happened there so she doesn't want my money. Do't ask me what her game is, I only know that she scared me shitless.

As for Pearl Harbor, yes I mention it because my father was berthed right next to the arizona and that attack changed him forever. I was not born yet, but he named me after the Enola Gay...do you know what that was?? I didn't ike that much. He came back a dangerous man carrying a gun everywhere and a knife he had at Pearl. I was scared of him as were my brothers. Yet my Navel Commander brother went to Pearl every year to pay homage...he lives in Kentucky, or did.

I have sought none of these people in my life out. I guess I just got lucky.
 
dusty said:
When I was with the ex I only saw men agents. Unless she was assigned to watch my ex, I don't see how she would get the info. I am sleeping but awaken quickly if there is a noise. Thanks for asking.
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The genealogical-search sites have a lot of information to offer someone like Brenda.

EDIT: But I see by your next post (#58) that Brenda's connection to you can just as easily be your ex-husband as your father.
 
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@dusty when you say that she was at your door for several hours knocking and scratching, do you mean after the police spoke to her? Did you call the police or the buildings manager? You really should consider getting a ring bell or a CCTV camera to record any activity outside your front door. The very presence of a camera might deter her but, if not, at least you would have proof.

I am sure you have considered the possibility that this could be connected to your ex-husband? Have you thought about doing any research into your ex-husband's wife, her family etc? If she was or is in some way connected to your ex and/or his first wife, then that might well be how she learnt so much about you. If she had enough details to start off with and knew where to look, she could have built up a very detailed file on you and your son. Is your ex-husband also your son's father?
 
I didn't find out about the first wife until 8 yrs ago and just stumbled upon it. I know nothing about her except for her first name and can't find out more. I showed y ex's signature to my son and he recognized it instantly. He and I discussed it at great lenght.
I don't know what else to say.
 
dusty said:
I have had my fingerprints taken by the FBI because I was a medic on a rescue squad in Virginia, but everyone did. I have been watched by the Secret Service since I married my ex in 1978 as he was an agent. Two guys in a car---lol---always in front of the house on odd days for the entire time we were married and even when he was out of town for the job. After we divorced they still watched me the same way and once went to the manager of my former apt to talk about me. I know this because one of the residents in my building had gone to pay his rent and he overheard the conversation and told me.

I do have caller ID but nothing suspicious there.
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Dusty, that sounds pretty creepy. I do remember once when we had a mysterious car checked out because they (2 men) were often parked across the street in our residential neighborhood. Turns out they were investigating a neighbor, I think in a divorce case.

Could someone have stolen or copied the files from the Secret Service?
 

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