Alone with no family at all...can anyone relate?


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Veronica said:
Im just ahead of you at 75. Im an only with no kids. Ive outlived all my friends and relatives.
And the husband of 51 years passed in 2022. So its just me and the snitty kitties now.

Medical emergencies dont concern me as much as medical events. If you have an emergency you call 911 and they haul you off to the hospital. What concerns me more are events that require someone to drive me there and wait. Things like a colonoscopy or outpatient surgery. Ive been looking at options. Just in case.
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I love your tagline Veronica.
 
Veronica said:
I learned a lot after my experiences with the husband about what can be provided for aftercare.
And for home care. The hospital will assign you a social worker who will coordinate your care in the SNF and your home care afterwards. A doctor will have to sign off on any services.

So basically the big stuff is covered for us. Its the little stuff that can get tricky. Like in the past when I had to have some dental surgery where I needed a driver. My friend was still alive then so she took me. Now I would be SOL. :D


Heres some info about home care.

How Medicaid Can Make Senior Homecare More Affordable - Penn Asian Senior Services
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Great info.
 
Aunt Bea said:
I am ‘the cheese’. 😉🤭😂

It happened slowly over many years and has become my ‘normal’.

The only time it worries me is in the event of some sort of medical event or emergency but that’s what 911 is for.

“Hi-ho, the derry-o, The cheese stands alone…”
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Well, you are not alone, Cheese, as I have only one cousin left. It is my normal now too and I do not mind at all.

I am Havarti, what are you?
 
Our family is scattered now, only one son lives near me. I do have a sister who lives not too far away and would you believe she
has never invited me to her place for a cuppa? Her husband was an only child and never invites people over for a catch up. My
sister said he hates people coming over. As my father said, "He'll keep".
 
oscash said:
Our family is scattered now, only one son lives near me. I do have a sister who lives not too far away and would you believe she
has never invited me to her place for a cuppa? Her husband was an only child and never invites people over for a catch up. My
sister said he hates people coming over. As my father said, "He'll keep".
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Us introverts come on a sliding scale. Sounds like hes on the far end. Im in the middle. But Im sliding.
I can kinda commiserate with him. The older I get the more my time limit for in home sociability decreases.
I can do a couple hours. After three Im past ready for you to leave. Thing is you cant just say Ive had enuf of you.
You need to go. I would much rather go out for socializing. When Im done I can leave.
 
Veronica said:
Us introverts come on a sliding scale. Sounds like hes on the far end. Im in the middle. But Im sliding.
I can kinda commiserate with him. The older I get the more my time limit for in home sociability decreases.
I can do a couple hours. After three Im past ready for you to leave. Thing is you cant just say Ive had enuf of you.
You need to go. I would much rather go out for socializing. When Im done I can leave.
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I do go out and meet my sister for lunch or a coffee time, but he doesn't like to meet up, only if it's where he want's to go.
 
Veronica said:
Us introverts come on a sliding scale. Sounds like hes on the far end. Im in the middle. But Im sliding.
I can kinda commiserate with him. The older I get the more my time limit for in home sociability decreases.
I can do a couple hours. After three Im past ready for you to leave. Thing is you cant just say Ive had enuf of you.
You need to go. I would much rather go out for socializing. When Im done I can leave.
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I'm on the far end too
 
oscash said:
I do go out and meet my sister for lunch or a coffee time, but he doesn't like to meet up, only if it's where he want's to go.
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Thats good to hear. Its nice that shes close by.


MarciKS said:
I'm on the far end too
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Aunt Bea said:
Me too!
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People just dont understand that its not personal. Mostly Im in the middle. But I can sympathize.
I can be deceptive cause Im an extroverted introvert. I can be very chatty for a limited amount of time.
Then the light goes off and Im done.
 
Me too, I can be assertive and outgoing, but it a guise, an appearance only. I know that the small talk will be my only talking for weeks possibly. I will be silent now for days or a week. Except for business and health related stuff. People have to be interested in you in order to hear your stories or experience. If not, they don't care, I found. Brando said that everyone is acting.
 
Marv Malone said:
People have to be interested in you in order to hear your stories or experience. If not, they don't care, I found.
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So true. I've also found that if a new or fairly-new acquaintance asks you what your hobbies are and you don't answer with something really interesting like sky diving or volunteering at archaeological digs, their eyes glaze over and they move on to someone else.
 
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