I Will Not be Posting for a While

hearlady said:
DH has been laid to rest. I couldn't ask for our plans to be carried out any more thoughtfully. I know he would be proud of us for bringing family and friends together and sharing his life in a way that he would have wanted.
A few that were new to knowing him were able to get a better idea of who he was and wished they could have known him longer.
A loyal Friend, Husband, Father, and Grandfather. He will be so very missed. 😪
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So happy for you that you were able to give him a final gathering that would have pleased him and that you can look back on with gratitude. I feel it helps with the grieving when you feel you’ve done right by your loved one for their final send off.
 
Sorry for your loss, hearlady but very happy to know your adult children are with you and looking out for you.

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hearlady said:
There is a time to be born and a time to die. This is clear to me at this time.
We had a good last year putting aside the petty annoyances that made us bicker. Christmas was a great one. We got all the decorations down and planned ahead to make it a joy and not a burden. The family were all there. Gifts were meaningful and it felt very warm.

Since we had Christmas early we decided to go down to Myrtle Beach. The place we met and married. It seemed DH was making it for me. He took me to the places I wanted to go and enjoyed some things he never did. On the last day I insisted we do things he wanted to do and we did. It was a good day.

I was with him when he died. I think he sensed it coming on but it was sudden and I don't think he suffered.
There were strangers that came to our aid immediately and my children rallied and came to my side. Angels.
This gives me peace.
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I just saw your message, @hearlady, and am sorry for your loss! May his memory be eternal! Your children are truly angels!
I, too, lost my husband suddenly, and it took me almost a year to stop crying. I had many lengthy conversations with God. But it's been 12 years now, and although I think about my late husband, I don't grieve anymore. I am at peace. He is where he needs to be. What helped me cope was doing something in his memory, whether it was planting a tree or donating to a cause.
 
It's been three weeks of searching documents, turning in paperwork, talking to agencies and advisors. Notifying relatives and friends, planning services, then thankyou notes and keeping flowers arranged and alive. Setting up lawncare and trash pick up.
It has all kept me busy but it's winding down. I'm realizing he's not coming back . My husband of 47 years.
I went to dinner with my son and family last night. He was not by my side and I drove home alone.
I'll be OK. It will just be a new life for me. I will get used to it but definitely not like it.
I'm looking at my future and I want to go on and I will honor him every day and scold him some days when I see the amount of cleaning out I need to do. :rolleyes:
My mother was widowed at 60. I was in another country when my Dad died. I think about her everyday now.
Thank you all for being here. Funny how people are. We don't really know each other but I we come together for each other. Sometimes social media is wonderful between all the bad things we hear.
I treasure you all. 💐
 
hearlady said:
It's been three weeks of searching documents, turning in paperwork, talking to agencies and advisors. Notifying relatives and friends, planning services, then thankyou notes and keeping flowers arranged and alive. Setting up lawncare and trash pick up.
It has all kept me busy but it's winding down. I'm realizing he's not coming back . My husband of 47 years.
I went to dinner with my son and family last night. He was not by my side and I drove home alone.
I'll be OK. It will just be a new life for me. I will get used to it but definitely not like it.
I'm looking at my future and I want to go on and I will honor him every day and scold him some days when I see the amount of cleaning out I need to do. :rolleyes:
My mother was widowed at 60. I was in another country when my Dad died. I think about her everyday now.
Thank you all for being here. Funny how people are. We don't really know each other but I we come together for each other. Sometimes social media is wonderful between all the bad things we hear.
I treasure you all. 💐
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HR...you're one of the nicest people on this forum...no-one deserves to lose a loved one... but some people deserve it even less and you are one of those. 🌺
 
hearlady said:
It's been three weeks of searching documents, turning in paperwork, talking to agencies and advisors. Notifying relatives and friends, planning services, then thankyou notes and keeping flowers arranged and alive. Setting up lawncare and trash pick up.
It has all kept me busy but it's winding down. I'm realizing he's not coming back . My husband of 47 years.
I went to dinner with my son and family last night. He was not by my side and I drove home alone.
I'll be OK. It will just be a new life for me. I will get used to it but definitely not like it.
I'm looking at my future and I want to go on and I will honor him every day and scold him some days when I see the amount of cleaning out I need to do. :rolleyes:
My mother was widowed at 60. I was in another country when my Dad died. I think about her everyday now.
Thank you all for being here. Funny how people are. We don't really know each other but I we come together for each other. Sometimes social media is wonderful between all the bad things we hear.
I treasure you all. 💐
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After mine left this world I found myself being excited to tell him I saw deer or turkey on my way home. Then it would hit me. He worked away from home so there were nightly calls and I looked forward to them. Then it hit me. On holidays, there was his favorite chair but it remained empty. Over time it becomes less sharp.

Chances are you will experience the same thing after all the necessary things are done and over with. I think that's the only thing that kept me going immediately after his loss. It's been 5 years, there are still times that I see the deer or turkeys and think of him.
 
robin416 said:
After mine left this world I found myself being excited to tell him I saw deer or turkey on my way home. Then it would hit me. He worked away from home so there were nightly calls and I looked forward to them. Then it hit me. On holidays, there was his favorite chair but it remained empty. Over time it becomes less sharp.

Chances are you will experience the same thing after all the necessary things are done and over with. I think that's the only thing that kept me going immediately after his loss. It's been 5 years, there are still times that I see the deer or turkeys and think of him.
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I know it's not the same as a death, but the grief is the same ... so when my husband unceremoniously left after I discovered his affair... I felt the same. I would see or hear something and want to tell him.. I'd see his things in the house which he never took with him... all sorts of reminders.. and it broke me knowing he was never going to be coming back ..new things still come in to me regularly that I'd like to tell him... even now 4 years later .....but I'll never speak to him again..just as though he was dead...
 

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