Motto and vow of introverts

Marv Malone said:
My motto is when in doubt----don't reach out.
In person, email, phone, or online. Misanthropic yes, but
You won't be disappointed when someone doesn't answer or respond to you
whenever. No letdowns, wasted time. Alone and indifferent. Exceptions permitted.
You might not want to reach out even if you're not in doubt.
Spontaneous talk is alright.
Extraverts, ignore this.
Agree....
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Better alone as in bad company.
 
CallMeKate said:
I thought I was alone with my feelings about this. I've purposely let old friendships go because every single time I tried to be friendly or "reach out" (man, I dislike that phrase! 🥴) it was "we need to have a girls night!" or "we should get the old gang together" etc. etc. I got tired of making excuses because I'm totally not interested in a full social schedule. (Or even an empty one!) 🤷‍♀️
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and most likely the "event" will never happen because so and so can't make it or "sorry I been so busy on and on"
 
I fluctuate betwee introvert and extrovert. Introvert seems to be winning these days. Its a lot easier to reach out when there are friends and acquaintances in abundance. I no longer have a good friend and precious little family {A niece in another state who I haven;t seen for years}. There are several people who check on me and I am thankful for that.

I recently checked on a senior center thinking that might provide some socializing. They said they welcome active seniors. My mind is active but my body not so much. Not sure I qualify.

I would like to start a sketch group here but the area I need requires some overhall and I haven't felt up to it. Maybe I can set it up a little at a time.
 
I like to be alone, always have since a kid. I'm perfectly nice if someone comes for something but do not encourage idle conversion. I never go visit anyone in this building as I am concerned something might attach to me, be it a insect, object or an unwanted thought.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
I've tried too. Some few I talk to now and then but others expected me to initiate every call. Did that for awhile but finally stopped. When friendship becomes a one way street, I'm done.
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That's me in a nutshell except I have a weakness. My weakness is if someone ignores me and I shut them out, if they come around and wish to communicate with me again, I break down and will let them back in my life because I don't want to do them like they did me. I know how it feels. I'm always on my guard with them after that, because they've lost my trust plus they're likely to do it again. I think they call that fair weather friends.
 
So yeah, introverts avoid reaching out not for fear of people, but for fear of losing themselves in the effort … and possibly their left sock. One friendly wave could trigger a whole year of awkward grocery-store nods, three accidental group texts, and an unexpected potluck invitation. Yep, replying ‘K’ might summon a minor apocalypse ... so to speak. Basically signing up for social peril. Shoot
 
MarciKS said:
I rarely reach out because no one cares enough to respond. I just get ignored so there's no point.
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I know you don't personally know us on SF, but if you ever want to express your feelings and need some human interaction, there's always someone on here that would be glad to exchange views with you. I'm sure there's probably someone on here that's been through similar situations as you and that might help them out also.
 
TeePee said:
I know you don't personally know us on SF, but if you ever want to express your feelings and need some human interaction, there's always someone on here that would be glad to exchange views with you. I'm sure there's probably someone on here that's been through similar situations as you and that might help them out also.
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I don't know. I do talk to some people on here. Not always an easy task. I appreciate the thought though. 🤗
 
Marv Malone said:
Beyond chitchat I have little in common with others, young or old, a different situation, that Id rather not explain to anyone. My interests are not theirs, never were. So be it. Saw a shirt that reads -- there's a 99% chance that I don't care
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Chitchat is all I want nowadays. Don’t trust anyone with anything more. Made a huge mistake with a group of women in a craft group.
 
TeePee said:
I know you don't personally know us on SF, but if you ever want to express your feelings and need some human interaction, there's always someone on here that would be glad to exchange views with you. I'm sure there's probably someone on here that's been through similar situations as you and that might help them out also.
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:) Yes. I find this forum to be a valuable learning tool. And sometimes I can even feel useful by posting something that I believe to be true. Mostly I just have fun.
I believe most members here are good honest sincere people. Not all of course.
 
Babs2u said:
I recently checked on a senior center thinking that might provide some socializing. They said they welcome active seniors. My mind is active but my body not so much. Not sure I qualify.

I would like to start a sketch group here but the area I need requires some overhall and I haven't felt up to it. Maybe I can set it up a little at a time.
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I would have asked, 'Do you mean that if I'm not perfectly mobile and physically active, I will not be welcome?'
Because maybe she was just careless in her phrasing. Maybe she should have said that physically independent seniors are welcome because the center isn't equipped to serve those who are not.
I'd love to attend your sketch group.
 
Those of you who are like me,OP, do you not reach out because you don't want to, or because
of your situation where you live, lack of resources, or things beyond your control? I mean, is it your free
choice? For me, it is both free choice and hardly any friends, no family, but there is plenty to do. I have
lost much of my interest in what I used to enjoy, so I am bored with going places alone. Always alone.
Online chat is no substitute imo.
 
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