Alone with no family at all...can anyone relate?

I find that lonely persons are lonely by choice - there are many groups to join ; churches offer a great repose - loneliness is a state of mind???????
 
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I find that lonely persons are lonely by choice - there are many groups to join ; churches offer a great repose - loneliness is a state of mind???????
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I don't think that's always the case. I think that sometimes the area where one lives can cause loneliness. For example, if you were an outdoorsy type who only enjoyed hiking or something but had to live in a big city. Or as in my case the opposite: I live out in the boonies and wished I lived in the city with a million bookshops and busses so I could actually go places.

Also, there are a lot of churches here but I'm an atheist so have no desire to go to them; I'd rather be around a bunch of sciencey types who'd also enjoy talking about sociology, archaeology, just about any science. (Someone once told me that I was the type of person who'd be a lot happier living in or near a big city. I told her "Don't I know it.")
 
TeePee said:
That's a good idea hiring someone through an agency. I bet it could be done. The only problem is that it would probably cost an arm and a leg.
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I just used my smartphone and put in AI mode and ask regarding options for someone to go with you if you need surgery and you need them to stay. It will give you agencies that you can contact but it will cost you money.
 
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Well I'm trying to decide now whether to move into 55 plus community and pay rent or to stay in an apartment all by myself. I'm only 63 but maybe it beats living alone or will the people at the 55 plus facility be 80 and 90 years old?
 
Atory said:
Well I'm trying to decide now whether to move into 55 plus community and pay rent or to stay in an apartment all by myself. I'm only 63 but maybe it beats living alone or will the people at the 55 plus facility be 80 and 90 years old?
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I haven't done it but I've sure considered it. a 55+ is not an assisted living. I'm in my early 60s and I'd do it in a minute if you can! Life circumstances I have not been able to yet though.

I first found out about such running into people our age, one guy was against it and his wife talked him into it, then he loved it! It is more about no kids, not the noise, usually a fair amount of activities (if you want them), and no by 80, 90 they are only still there if they can manage on their own still. You are going to have people that manage pretty well imo around our age from 55 to a very active 70 for instance... Maybe older if in great shape. My mom is in early 80s and she could certainly do it.

You very likely won't have the same noisy neighbors. I'd love to find time to get into one and find one. I have a few things playing in right now that I can't. Just an example is I work and don't want to be too far from work. Things like that.

If you can, I'd suggest doing it. Anyone I've talked to once they moved into and got used to like such very well. Very active younger people 55 to 65 etc. It just ensure less children, less noise, but you can still have grandchildren visit and stay, just not living there, etc.
 
I believe in God, in a higher power. Nothing else makes sense to me.

However, I've seen so much hypocrisy in churches that I don't look for one or attend. Are there some good ones out there? Maybe. I'm just not going to go looking for them or finding out at this point in life, maybe only to find out they aren't so.

I can go back to my childhood church. Many a good person in it but the ones with the clout in it.... Uhm not so much.
 
AutumnGal said:
I haven't done it but I've sure considered it. a 55+ is not an assisted living. I'm in my early 60s and I'd do it in a minute if you can! Life circumstances I have not been able to yet though.

I first found out about such running into people our age, one guy was against it and his wife talked him into it, then he loved it! It is more about no kids, not the noise, usually a fair amount of activities (if you want them), and no by 80, 90 they are only still there if they can manage on their own still. You are going to have people that manage pretty well imo around our age from 55 to a very active 70 for instance... Maybe older if in great shape. My mom is in early 80s and she could certainly do it.

You very likely won't have the same noisy neighbors. I'd love to find time to get into one and find one. I have a few things playing in right now that I can't. Just an example is I work and don't want to be too far from work. Things like that.

If you can, I'd suggest doing it. Anyone I've talked to once they moved into and got used to like such very well. Very active younger people 55 to 65 etc. It just ensure less children, less noise, but you can still have grandchildren visit and stay, just not living there, etc.
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This sounds wonderful.
 
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