12 Harsh Truths You Need to Accept to Live a Happy Life

Good vid; thanks for posting. One, though, "Life is not a popularity contest" is true is you're talking of a good, meaningful life. But in a lot of work situations that I was involved in, it was totally a popularity contest; I was acquainted with co-workers who screwed up more than they did things right but because they had charisma or whatever kind of personality was favored by whoever they worked for, they kept their jobs and got promoted over others more competent.

Direct quote I heard from a supervisor: "I don't really care how good at her job she may be; I like the fact that she's always cheerful." Another direct quote, after a fellow employee had understandably burst into tears after another employee had yelled--I mean yelled at her--and she wasn't working where the public could see her and be turned off by her tears, no she worked in a back office; but even so, her boss--who had heard but hidden while she was being yelled at, came out after the yeller left and told her "You need to stop crying because you need to be a cheerleader for us." Seriously; no sympathy at all; no "Oh, geez, sorry he yelled at you; take a minute, want a glass of water?"; no, just cheer up and get back to being a cheerleader. And like I said, she wasn't a receptionist or any kind of front-office worker; she was an accountant doing heavy-duty numbers crunching in a back office.
 
Rule 1 - Life is not fair; get used to it.

Rule 2 - The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something before you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3 - You will not make $40,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice president with a car phone, until you earn both.

Rule 4 - If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss. He doesn't have tenure.

Rule 5 - Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping; they called it opportunity.

Rule 6 - If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7 - Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you are.

Rule 8 - Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life has not.

Rule 9 - Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you find yourself.

Rule 10 - Television is not real life. In real life, people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11 - Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.
 

These are good ones especially those about choices.........responsibility............ timing .......and FEAR.
far too many folks out there want to contradict these truths

Only one i would add is .......... There is no re-do button....
IMO far too many today make bad choices and then think everyone should Forget that choice and let them try again....... over and over until they get it right.
 
officerripley said:
Good vid; thanks for posting. One, though, "Life is not a popularity contest" is true is you're talking of a good, meaningful life. But in a lot of work situations that I was involved in, it was totally a popularity contest; I was acquainted with co-workers who screwed up more than they did things right but because they had charisma or whatever kind of personality was favored by whoever they worked for, they kept their jobs and got promoted over others more competent.

Direct quote I heard from a supervisor: "I don't really care how good at her job she may be; I like the fact that she's always cheerful." Another direct quote, after a fellow employee had understandably burst into tears after another employee had yelled--I mean yelled at her--and she wasn't working where the public could see her and be turned off by her tears, no she worked in a back office; but even so, her boss--who had heard but hidden while she was being yelled at, came out after the yeller left and told her "You need to stop crying because you need to be a cheerleader for us." Seriously; no sympathy at all; no "Oh, geez, sorry he yelled at you; take a minute, want a glass of water?"; no, just cheer up and get back to being a cheerleader. And like I said, she wasn't a receptionist or any kind of front-office worker; she was an accountant doing heavy-duty numbers crunching in a back office.
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@officerripley it is just horrible that so many people with no leadership abilities are put into management positions. You are certainly right about "popularity contests" and work environments. I worked for a horrible boss years ago who told me I was good at what I did but one of my co-workers was always better about "tooting her own horn" around the big boss, so she would probably jump ahead of me. I was always an "under the radar" type of guy who believed in just getting the job done rather than playing politics. When all was said and done, my co-worker and I both left this company and moved to two different ones and when I retired I was in a higher ranking position. I guess I found a boss who appreciated my abilities rather than how much I bragged. ;)
 
bowmore said:
Rule 1 - Life is not fair; get used to it.

Rule 2 - The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something before you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3 - You will not make $40,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice president with a car phone, until you earn both.

Rule 4 - If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss. He doesn't have tenure.

Rule 5 - Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping; they called it opportunity.

Rule 6 - If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7 - Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you are.

Rule 8 - Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life has not.

Rule 9 - Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you find yourself.

Rule 10 - Television is not real life. In real life, people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11 - Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.
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That list was taken from a book written by Charles Sykes in the mid '90s. Here's another one you might be interested in that he wrote a little more recently.
https://www.amazon.com/How-Right-Lost-Its-Mind/dp/1250147174
 
If it's decided you make lousy burgers, you are down to picking up trash in the parking lot, cleaning tables, and mopping floors. Oh well, whistle while you work even though life stinks. At least you don't have to smell the grill in the hot kitchen all day.
 

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