Seniorinva
New Member
Hi all, new member. I'm glad I found this message board, can talk with others my own age!
I am living with my girlfriend who is from the Philippines. She has been living in the US since 2011. We met on an online dating site two years ago, she moved in 2 months later. She was living with a friend of hers and her friends daughter was moving back home so she had to leave. Her and her son. He's 19 now, going to a military college, good kid BUT. He does not help around the house unless asked. I was brought up with responsibilities, chores etc. Apparently in Asian culture the male child does not have to do much. My wife, who passed in 2015 was Vietnamese. We were married 25 years so I saw this first hand. And he does nothing but sit on the sofa with his phone and Ipad watching movies. I feel like I really don't have that much privacy. When his mom comes home from work it's the same. He will be going back to college in August but home for two weeks Thanksgiving and a month at Christmas. Then back again all summer. I'm almost 66, he's startimg his second year in which will be 9 years of study to be a doctor. So it'll be like this till I'm 75? I talked with his mom about getting a summer job and she said he can't find one. Mentioned I didn't really want to live like this till 75 and she of course got upset. Guess I'm feeling should I just suck it up or make changes. Could really use some honest feedback.
I am living with my girlfriend who is from the Philippines. She has been living in the US since 2011. We met on an online dating site two years ago, she moved in 2 months later. She was living with a friend of hers and her friends daughter was moving back home so she had to leave. Her and her son. He's 19 now, going to a military college, good kid BUT. He does not help around the house unless asked. I was brought up with responsibilities, chores etc. Apparently in Asian culture the male child does not have to do much. My wife, who passed in 2015 was Vietnamese. We were married 25 years so I saw this first hand. And he does nothing but sit on the sofa with his phone and Ipad watching movies. I feel like I really don't have that much privacy. When his mom comes home from work it's the same. He will be going back to college in August but home for two weeks Thanksgiving and a month at Christmas. Then back again all summer. I'm almost 66, he's startimg his second year in which will be 9 years of study to be a doctor. So it'll be like this till I'm 75? I talked with his mom about getting a summer job and she said he can't find one. Mentioned I didn't really want to live like this till 75 and she of course got upset. Guess I'm feeling should I just suck it up or make changes. Could really use some honest feedback.