Girls all hung on the telephone hours on end when young, but phones were landlines and not the same possible health worries associated with long talk cell phone. Yes, face to face is best. If I'm lonely, phone helps, but I want to visit in person. Online has pros and cons, and the cons I don't notice so much in person. What would seem helpful, and I'll try, is to clarify a person's intentions or statements. Often it seems easier to misunderstand online than in person, possibly resulting in unnecessary drama. I have a cousin in law who has a natural habit of asking a lot of questions, so when she asks if I mean blah blah and says she wasn't sure I'm always glad.
Are online conversations as 'good for us' as face to face?
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too much effort anymore.I find face to face conversations (that I seem to have daily around here with neighbors) much more involved, and requiring more effort than online ..
sometimes too much involvement....
Online conversations have their place and are more fun to me .... and the same with phone calls, that are usually to family ... . although those phone calls usually turn into text messaging conversations most of the time .. as everyone is busy.
Serenity4321
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I consider myself very social but I certainly pick and choose where and when. I love both online and in person. It is just easier in person because communication is faster and easier to express and more ground can be covered in the same amount of time.... for me anyway...
Serenity4321
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I am not following .. why can't we learn what is right and true online? Certainly, not everything is, not but I think some of it is??
Serenity4321
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For me there is a limit, but for the most part, people energize me..
Serenity4321
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Great points! And for many, the internet has been a 'God Send' and you are right as far as communications during Covid. LA has some terrific health teams..For sure UCLA and USC ..I had open heart surgery at USC hospital for a mitral valve repair; Wishing you the best with your health!!
feywon
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Perhaps his definition of 'right and true' is more narrow than ours. See to me if an overview of someone's posts/comments reveals an unkind heart, prejudices etc. ---i see that as good info to have. While i have been disappointed in some people i met online, i'm sure some feel the same about me AND i've not been fooled by anyone.
i look for the same moral consistency that i watch for in person; observe how they talk to various people.
Serenity4321
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I have to remind myself to remember there is so much more to everyone than the few comments we read online..but when there is a pattern of negativity the good is often hidden
Truth and truthfulness is not only not valued by people, it is usually not permitted, especially on internet sites, news broadcasts, doctor's offices, government agencies, corporations, etc etc etc
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My opinion - you can't build social skills without social contact. Kids born recently will have some difficulty in that regard if social media is more important to parents than kids are. For people who have already developed adequate social skills, social media is great, especially if you're lonely or alone, unable to socialize due to disability, in a remote location. And it's probably good therapy for people who don't have very good social skills.I have heard that our social skills become less effective if we do not meet people face to face.
Not sure I am explaining myself clearly, but if you understand what I am asking ...what do you think?
The only problem with mainstream online socializing is that is has now fixed it so that many people don't understand normal inflection in a person's voice in real life because they spend too much time on their phones texting. You say something to someone in a normal tone of voice and they think you're mad or yelling at them. It's frickin ridiculous.