Are you choosing to live alone?

Initially the choice was made for me 4 years ago when my O/H chose to lie . deceive and cheat on me.... now I choose to remain alone... I couldn't go through all that nonsense again ......it's sad because I miss his company...

If I met someone, then we'd either have to live in seperate houses, or have a huge house so we each had a wing to ourselves.....
 
Is there anyone here choosing to live alone, because they were put off the idea of nursing homes..or retirement homes... after seeing a family member in them ?
 
Not where I have been living for decades in this urban area. As someone deeply into this science and technology era with a strong personality that believes successful opposite gender compatibility would require a woman with many similar activities and interests, my life is much too unique and complex to expect there are women out there so. Such could work out if I was in some spectacular natural rural area away from all the negative elements of modern culture and society, however I am much too urban oriented so don't see circumstance where that might change, especially at this senior age.

The other way to look at the question would be with other males. That would not even work out with any of my brothers or long time friends. As long as I am financially able to live independently, will choose to do so. What I could do in either case is live NEAR others like in a duplex. Just not within the same rooms where one needs to compromise ways of day to day living.
 
hollydolly said:
Is there anyone here choosing to live alone, because they were put off the idea of nursing homes..or retirement homes... after seeing a family member in them ?
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Not so much this ^^^^^ as the fact that one of my jobs very early in life was on the receivables end for a company that owned nine nursing homes - publicly rated from a POS to people who wanted their elders to live there.

Not even having physical contact, I ā€œsawā€ a lot I didnā€™t want to see.

Then thereā€™s the compatibility aspect with other residents. My chosen lifestyle renders me barely compatible with this forum, much less daily physical contact with people who want to share recipes, knitting patterns, gardening, and the like.

Itā€™s a good thing I was born a loner and donā€™t mind having my horses and all sorts of wildlife for company, because I would not last long in a residential retirement facility.

If at all possible, I want to take my last breaths on this hill and let someone find me with my hands clasped in prayer as I am one of ā€those peopleā€ who has a very strong faith, in spite of how my opinionated self comes across on this forum.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I live alone. I'm not lonely and I'm not thrilled with the idea of sharing my home with someone else. I've done that, and that period of my life is over. I'm not a hermit, I would love to have lots of friends and buddies- I just don't want to live with them.
I chose to live alone?
Are you choosing to live alone?
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After several years of verbal/emotional abuse from family, I learned to escape into my mind and live there instead. It's OK to lie to myself, at least I can't hurt myself that badly.

I did do roommates in the earlier years, but found out that trusting others is not smart nor wise. Often they wanted to have parties, I wanted it quiet.
 
I choose to live alone and enjoy it.

I need privacy and solitude to recharge my batteries and would not function well surrounded by other people or by being forced to live in a structured environment.

I dread the thought of needing some form of assisted living and the forced socialization that goes along with it.

My hope is that someday my neighbors will report a foul odor coming from my apartment and that will be the end of it.
 
Imogene said:
Not so much this ^^^^^ as the fact that one of my jobs very early in life was on the receivables end for a company that owned nine nursing homes - publicly rated from a POS to people who wanted their elders to live there.

Not even having physical contact, I ā€œsawā€ a lot I didnā€™t want to see.

Then thereā€™s the compatibility aspect with other residents. My chosen lifestyle renders me barely compatible with this forum, much less daily physical contact with people who want to share recipes, knitting patterns, gardening, and the like.

Itā€™s a good thing I was born a loner and donā€™t mind having my horses and all sorts of wildlife for company, because I would not last long in a residential retirement facility.

If at all possible, I want to take my last breaths on this hill and let someone find me with my hands clasped in prayer as I am one of ā€those peopleā€ who has a very strong faith, in spite of how my opinionated self comes across on this forum.
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I started my life off in various foster & children's homes... I often think residential homes will just be the adult version of those... so I feel I've kinda experienced it already.... and I don't want it...
 
I lived alone after my wife of 30 years passed away. Well, life is funny, because a year later I met a widow through a grief recovery chat room. That was 19 years ago.
We got married in Santorini over a year later.
 
I have taken care of people since I was taught to babysit, wash diapers and do daily housework as a young teen. I lived my life belonging to groups that saved people and animals or catered to them. When I divorced my hb in 07 I was free to live my way and I have. I would still do my life the same, but it sure is nice not to be on call 24/7. Being alone suits me just fine.
 
hollydolly said:
I started my life off in various foster & children's homes... I often think residential homes will just be the adult version of those... so I feel I've kinda experienced it already.... and I don't want it...
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The worst of the various 'schools' I was sent to, became a residential home later, then a couple of years ago (now empty and derelict) it burned down. A fitting end I thought.
 

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