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helenbacque

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Something that causes that feeling of ‘something’s not right’. Reading about U. S. steel being taken over by Nippon Steel gave me such a feeling. The word nippon was such a word for me. At first I didn’t know why but quickly associated it with Japan. It was widely used in association with the horrors of Pearl Harbor, WW II, etc. One would think the passage of so much time and changes in circumstance would erase the word association, but not so.

Nippon Steel is Japanese owned but the article emphasized that the name remains U. S. Steel and all American aspects remain the same. And yes, I know that world politics have changed over the past 85 years but some memories are very powerful.

And isn’t memory a strange thing. Some days I can’t remember what I had for dinner last night but a single word can bring back ancient happenings.
 

Hearing an ambulance siren makes me very anxious. My husband was sick with cancer and there were so many times I had to call for help. After he died, my Mom came to live with me, she also had accidents, falls, so more sirens.

I feel like I have PTSD and certain things set me off. I also have a hard time with going into hospitals and nursing/rehab facilities. Just to many bad memories.

I always think when I hear a siren, something terrible has happened to someone. Is there another family that is going through the terrible time?
 
Blessed said:
Hearing an ambulance siren makes me very anxious. My husband was sick with cancer and there were so many times I had to call for help. After he died, my Mom came to live with me, she also had accidents, falls, so more sirens.
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Me too. My husband died of a heart attack on the tennis court in the finals of a tournament at the age of 47 and I also felt much anxiety every time I heard an ambulance after that. My sister said I was overreacting so I tried to hide it because I realized some people just don't get it. Eventually my anxiety went away. But I'm sharing this with you so you understand that it's normal for you to feel this way.
 
Lara said:
Me too. My husband died of a heart attack on the tennis court in the finals of a tournament at the age of 47 and I also felt much anxiety every time I heard an ambulance after that. My sister said I was overreacting so I tried to hide it because I realized some people just don't get it. Eventually my anxiety went away. But I'm sharing this with you so you understand that it's normal for you to feel this way.
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Thank you for that!! I would say for what I had been through it was common sense that it would upset me. I know it is normal for me but so often now it is about my son and his family.

This part makes no sense is that they leave 20 to 30 minutes away. I would not hear a siren that would go to them in an emergency. I still get upset. I can't find mental peace about this. People who have not been through these experiences have no idea. I got lots of apologies after they went through the same thing. Our question is why others could at least understand the horror of the whole thing, we had no power, we could not stop what was happening, the fear and anxiety was overwhelmng.

I have always treated people with true kindness, love and respect. I know that many say "Just get over it". Well it is easier for them just to get over it but because they have not lived it, yet. I would never discount others so how can they look at us and tell me that.
 
Lara said:
Me too. My husband died of a heart attack on the tennis court in the finals of a tournament at the age of 47 and I also felt much anxiety every time I heard an ambulance after that. My sister said I was overreacting so I tried to hide it because I realized some people just don't get it. Eventually my anxiety went away. But I'm sharing this with you so you understand that it's normal for you to feel this way.
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I'm so sorry. And for your sister to state you were overreacting is beyond unsupportive. I'm sorry she said such a insensitive and cruel thing. You are right, some people don't get it.
 
The world is causing more fear. Anxiety is tough to overcome but what causes it is what we're holding onto. Our views of what is normal, what we expect, what we want to happen, is tightly being held onto by us but also being pulled out of our hands which causes us even more pain and anxiety. We must ask ourselves what we need to let go of in order to reduce our anxiety so we can experience the positives in our world.

We must each find our own paths to peace and stay focused on that. For me, as most here know, it's my faith, so I lay all my burdens at the feet of my Savior and trust in Him because I believe He cares for me (1 Peter 5:6-7). The weight on my shoulders is lifted.

But for others there are other helpful paths to choose. Our thoughts are repetitive and negative...so we must find their trigger, trace that trigger back to it's root, and reduce that activity in our life. What we think is causing our anxiety is often different than the root from where it started so we have to change the way we look at things....looking beyond...letting go of negative thoughts and clinging to the positive ones.

When my husband died I was left with 4 small children ages 1,2,4, and 6 to raise alone (never remarried...no time to date). I was a mom and he was the provider. I knew nothing about his business nor finances, etc. I had no choice but to grieve for a time and then then jump in with everything I had in me to tackle life. I made mistakes. I made successes. Several big hearted people in my church helped me too. A support system is crucial. We made it. And we all still love each other.
 
Lara said:
When my husband died I was left with 4 small children ages 1,2,4, and 6 to raise alone (never remarried...no time to date). I was a mom and he was the provider. I knew nothing about his business nor finances, etc. I had no choice but to grieve for a time and then then jump in with everything I had in me to tackle life. I made mistakes. I made successes. Several big hearted people in my church helped me too. A support system is crucial. We made it. And we all still love each other.
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So sorry for your loss but I'm glad your kids have you for a mother, they're lucky in that respect!
 
Lara said:
The world is causing more fear.
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Can I, respectfully, question this assessment? The internet is magnifying fear, for sure. But then, fear is a great way to control people. To get them to follow tropes. If you're someone who loves gossip, and reacts to it, then the net of today is for you. You can also be convinced you're right, and party of the masses, through simple manipulation. But none of that makes it right, or productive.

There is no alternative media. There are very few free thinkers. The definition of "corrupt politician" is truer of one side or the other. We've lost sight of ourselves because we want to believe we're part of the majority. The so called "silent majority" are the loudest there is.

You just have to understand the nature of the net, that it is DESIGNED to pander to the lowest common denominator, to suck you in, and then you can move forward. Outrage is the norm. Conflict is the norm. They, they being those in control of content, your vote, and your ideas, want you hyped to the max. It only really works for them that way. Yet in reality, there are clear skies.

You've just got to avoid swirling around the drain hole.
 
Yes, for the longest time after my husband died, the sound of a siren would send me into tears. I'd have to pull over and get calm before I could go on. All I could remember was the sound of the fire truck, two police cars, the rescue squad and the ambulance screaming down the street while I was trying to keep him alive.

It slowly went away.
 

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