Aunt Bea

Been There

Been There

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I saw an old thread and a post from Aunt Bea. Did anyone find anything more about what have happened to her disappearance from the forum? I don’t believe she was very old, maybe only in her 60’s. We don’t even know her real first or last name, or where in New York she was living, do we?

I know people can come and go as they please, but she was usually a daily poster and then one day, she was gone. I think she was the type that would have at least written a good-bye before departing. I find this situation to be very disconcerting.

I remember the cop that posts here once wrote that people disappear everyday for one reason or another. I don’t see that with her. Maybe she received a nasty post and that sealed the deal? I knew one other person here that wrote to me after he left after getting a second or third nasty personal message. He was very intelligent and we shared some information about a subject we were both interested in, but then he showed me a post he received and after that, he never posted again or even contacted me. Do posters really do that?
 

Been There said:
I saw an old thread and a post from Aunt Bea. Did anyone find anything more about what have happened to her disappearance from the forum? I don’t believe she was very old, maybe only in her 60’s. We don’t even know her real first or last name, or where in New York she was living, do we?

I know people can come and go as they please, but she was usually a daily poster and then one day, she was gone. I think she was the type that would have at least written a good-bye before departing. I find this situation to be very disconcerting.

I remember the cop that posts here once wrote that people disappear everyday for one reason or another. I don’t see that with her. Maybe she received a nasty post and that sealed the deal? I knew one other person here that wrote to me after he left after getting a second or third nasty personal message. He was very intelligent and we shared some information about a subject we were both interested in, but then he showed me a post he received and after that, he never posted again or even contacted me. Do posters really do that?
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Really nasty posts are taken down by the moderator/administrator. So, if there was a really nasty post, or even a whole nasty thread adressed to Aunt Bea, you won't find it.
 

I do miss Aunt Bea, as well…..along with many absent members.
Hope nothing tragic has happened….it’s definitely a concern when sudden absence happens.

Now…..to address the issue of nasty posts, comments, and unkindness….
We are all adults, here, and it makes me sad when members think it’s okay to hurt with words and or attacks or an over expressed opinion.

Doesn’t take much to stop and think about what you might say, and rephrase if needed to.
Respect and kindness is a much more comfortable road to travel.
 
MickaC said:
I do miss Aunt Bea, as well…..along with many absent members.
Hope nothing tragic has happened….it’s definitely a concern when sudden absence happens.

Now…..to address the issue of nasty posts, comments, and unkindness….
We are all adults, here, and it makes me sad when members think it’s okay to hurt with words and or attacks or an over expressed opinion.

Doesn’t take much to stop and think about what you might say, and rephrase if needed to.
Respect and kindness is a much more comfortable road to travel.
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Agree with your thoughts on 'nasty' comments. As someone said nasty private messages are seen only by the 'target'. I strive to be at least tactful. Some people make that very hard, so i tend to taper off engaging with them. Civil disagreement is good for us, uncivil ones are not.
 
Devi said:
I also make great use of the Ignore function. How much nicer the forums can be without having to read a few members.
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I generally put someone on mental ignore first where don't allow myself to respond to their posts or comments. I do this because we could have got off on wrong foot, and seeing more of their posts might give me a better understanding of who they are, so while i may still disagree with them my negative feelings lessen. Also we often have some common ground even with people our most fundamental values are very at odds with, and we can sometimes learn from them, if nothing else it can help us understand our own core values better. But if someone is persistently hostile the tech ignore is useful.
 
When someone goes missing for no apparent reason, I find this to be disconcerting. However, now that I have read the post and her response, I think she may be taking a long hiatus and may return at a later date.
 
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