Being perfect, (or trying to be)

grahamg

grahamg

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Firstly each one of us is both "perfect" in one sense, and then able to improve, (if that isn't too great a contradiction).

However, being perfect, and attempting to improve, can, I'm going to suggest, have some down sides.

Its very possible people can want to appear to be perfect, or more perfect than they really are, and thereby or therefore, mislead others.

My father used to warn about those who were like a shell, and he used to use his hands to try to show you what he meant. One thing I think he did mean was with some people, what you see on the outside is not what it going on underneath, so they are not as innocent as they pretend to be, ("Sunday saints and Monday devils",......, that kind of thing anyway).

We all hope to be happy with ourselves, and at the same time improve a little in one way or another, so nothing wrong with that, and even the most honest and decent people can admit they put on an act at times, (or "a brave face"). We like to see people we know or love succeed, and can accept them being a bit devious at times too, but ultimately we'd hope they are as good as gold when it comes to it.

I may have tied myself in knots here, (and if so then please accept my apologies), but if you think there something worth sharing then I'd be happy for you to take the thread wherever you might choose. :)
 

Being 'perfect' would be a horrible thing to be, Graham. because everyone would want a piece of you, so, aren't I lucky, I'm so imperfect that people leave me in peace. 😊
 

My goal is contentment. It's not there all the time, but I'm a lot better at it than I was 40 years ago. I don't think about perfection. I think it interferes with contentment. I bask in contentment when it's there. Come to think of it, I bask in knowing more is coming, even when it's not currently there. I avoid conflict. I walk away from toxic environments.
 
When young and being schooled I tried to achieve perfection but usually fell just a little short. What it got me to do though, was not to be afraid of effort to achieve something, so I reaped some of the rewards. Now I don't care much if it's perfect or not. Close is good enough.
 
I hope never to perfect, and I know I will get my wish. If one is perfect, what else is there to strive for? No place to go, nothing more to work on, it has to be a very lonely place to be.
 
I have always distrusted those who act perfect or project the perfectness of their life. I look at them as insecure and seeking validation thru the eyes of others.

Personally I am a perfectionist but have non perfect skills, most days end with telling myself "good enough for who it's for" (which would be me!)
 
Isn't it an expected requirement to put in your job interview when asked, "What to you consider to be your greatest weakness?"

You are suppose to say, "Well sometimes, I'm too much of a perfectionist."

So much for really getting to know a person.
 
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
When you're perfect in every way
I can't wait to look in the mirror
Cause I get better looking each day
To know me is to love me
I must be a hell of a man
Oh Lord It's hard to be humble,
But I'm doing the best that I can.
 
Pepper said:
When my son was little I told him he was not perfect but he was perfect For Me. And he was/is.
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A good message.

I can't remembering using it myself, but the praise I gave resulted in the response, "I'm not that good", (to which I would reply, "I think you are", which is nearly the same, and I meant it of course).
 
C50 said:
I have always distrusted those who act perfect or project the perfectness of their life. I look at them as insecure and seeking validation thru the eyes of others.
Personally I am a perfectionist but have non perfect skills, most days end with telling myself "good enough for who it's for" (which would be me!)
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I admire perfectionists, but am not one, (I liked your funny line you tell yourself btw). :)
 
JustDave said:
Isn't it an expected requirement to put in your job interview when asked, "What to you consider to be your greatest weakness?"
You are suppose to say, "Well sometimes, I'm too much of a perfectionist."
So much for really getting to know a person.
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Good line to use in a job interview, if you can keep a straight face saying it! :)
 
Perfection? I am a legend in my own mind. Just kidding. Once I learn how to do something I try to do the best I can at it. My father taught me to never do anything half arsed. I have lived by that my whole life an it has served me well. I have found that if the finished product satisfies me it will usually pass the audition. Of course I was young once and like most things I learned I had to learn the hard way. For me there is nothing wrong with shooting for perfection as long as I can accept the reality that is a slim chance it will be reached. I have fowled up a few things thinking If I just take it a little further I can get it perfect....not. :LOL:
 

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