Blowing a fuse, and why do you/we do it?

[grahamg]

I had reason to become a bit irate last night, and without going into too much detail, told a friend of mine, who I was trying to help, and in particular another friend of his who happened to be there,:"This isn't a spectator sport, or a game we're playing here",(there were some dangers inherent in the job we were attempting to do, and besides that reasonable areas for disagreement as to what to do in a bit of a crisis?).

Now my blood pressure has returned to something like normal I have to acknowledge it was my farming mate's actions I was probably as much annoyed at, as the other person who wanted to observe everything, and my mate was shouting on the phone before I got there to try to assist him. In hindsight there was less reason for anyone panicking than you knew on arrival, and my friend can be guilty of turning everything into a drama at times, (so I should have been ready for his behaviour).

"Sometimes you do have to step back and allow people to do what they do", (actually that's one of his sayings!), but somehow, when you're hot, being told only half a story, and there is someone there distracting everyone with unnecessary and dumb questions, and won't take the hint to b****r off, it can be too much, especially when it involves critical decisions you're trying to make concerning farm animals. !

 

[win231]

And I thought teasers were only seen on movie trailers.....

 

[grahamg]

And I thought teasers were only seen on movie trailers.....

Is that comment directed at me?
If so, and you require more detail, the crisis I was called in to assist with was a calving, in hot weather, where the mother was doing great, but the calf was a bit stressed, and needing assistance, (eventually given the necessary colostrum in a bottle!). So a reasonable result, but getting to that point with someone thinking their presence didnt affect the dynamics, delaying decisions with foolish question, was a wind up to me, no matter how well intentioned they might be. Enough already? .

 

[Tommy]

An interesting question, Graham. You've already identified your friend's friend's failure to "lead, follow, or get out of the way" as the immediate trigger. You also indicate that your friend's general overreaction to the situation likely colored your judgement from the outset. Assuming that you're not normally a person with a particularly quick temper, it sounds as though you were simply blindsided by the event and failed to step back, take a breath, and objectively evaluate what was really going on.

What do YOU think?

 

[grahamg]

An interesting question, Graham. You've already identified your friend's friend's failure to "lead, follow, or get out of the way" as the immediate trigger. You also indicate that your friend's general overreaction to the situation likely colored your judgement from the outset. Assuming that you're not normally a person with a particularly quick temper, it sounds as though you were simply blindsided by the event and failed to step back, take a breath, and objectively evaluate what was really going on.

What do YOU think?

I think I was tired and harassed generally, and maybe feeling a bit used at times, and this came into my response, or over reaction. However, there are certain no no's for me, and adding to awkward situations, or potentially creating danger, (cattle can become quickly dangerous, if messed with for example, when they have a new calf, e en though this one was surprisingly calm).
I do accept this, some good friends of mine have far better dip!omacy skills, and go out of their way to smooth things down, when everyone else is feeling pressure! .

 

[Gary O']

Sometimes, it's just good to vent....sometimes.....not all the time

My opine; blowing off steam, 'venting' seems to do well for me
Rids that 'pressure'

Some hold it in

I can't

Hey, I'm Irish

And if I hold it in, I tend to go around like this



Whereas, if I let it all out
I tend to look like this





Because it's done....over

Unless someone wishes to continue pressing my bottons

Then it's just me being accomodating