Dear Gingermeister,
I didn't want your post and appeal to go unnoticed (welcome to Terri too BTW).
I cut my teeth using fathers rights forums some fifteen years ago, and oddly enough started a my most successful thread, or the one attracting the most attention on a forum for an organisation called "Gingerbread" for UK based single parents.
I too have asked for information and advice a number of times (sometimes you get more advice than you really wanted )
So good luck, and I hope you get whatever help it is you need though I'm not sure I can help you myself as I'm a bit averse to volunteering.