Bringing a Pet to a Dinner

Jules

Jules

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When you asked someone to dinner, how would you feel if someone arrived with their dog?

Or what would you say if they called ahead and asked to bring a pet?

If the reason given was that they like their pet so just wanted to bring it along.
 

1. Depends on the dog(s) and their manners toward my dogs.

2. My brother has brought his dogs for a 3 or 4 day stay on several occasions.

3. The lady whose horse is on loan to me, has three dogs that she rescued that can’t even get along amongst themselves, so she can only bring two at a time when she comes to visit her horse. They stay tied to the trailer outside while she works with her horse. She recognizes they would never be able to come in the house with my dogs because there would be a fight.

The bottom line is the owner(s) need to know their dogs and know them well. Not just because oh my dog is so cute and I just can’t get along without it. That doesn’t fly with me - manners and good behavior is what’s required.
 
Jules said:
how would you feel if someone arrived with their dog?
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It would depend a lot on the dog and the relationship I had with the person. If I invited my daughter and she arrived with her young large uncontrolled lab, I'd be annoyed and go safely close up my cat, and probably grump at my daughter.

If it was a friend of long standing and I knew they go everywhere with their dog, I'd probably not be surprised and I'd be prepared psychologically to deal with it.

If it was a new acquaintance I'd be annoyed, but how I'd react would depend on the dog's behavior. I might not ever invite them again.

If they asked first then I'd probably be okay with it if the dog was well behaved, otherwise not okay with it.

If it was a cute puppy then I'd welcome them with joy!
 
I would welcome anything so long as it was gentle with my old, blind dog.

When my dog was younger, my brother would bring his dog, Rudy, to stay with us while he went on vacation. My dog, being a bossy little Dachshund, would walk on her hind legs to lead this scruffy terrier around by his beard.

They always had a wonderful time and my dog fell completely in love with Rudy. The only time I ever knew her to throw her head back and bay like a wolf was when Rudy was going back to his home.

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Jules said:
When you asked someone to dinner, how would you feel if someone arrived with their dog?

Or what would you say if they called ahead and asked to bring a pet?

If the reason given was that they like their pet so just wanted to bring it along.
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It would depend on the type of dinner & how that animal would behave itself in my house. I would like to think I would say yes, but there's a chance it would be no. "I'd love have you over, but it would be best if your other half stayed at home."

I love my dog & I don't have any expectations for others to feel the same about him that I do. He's still a 49# puppy at heart (2 yo) & sometimes he still wants to jump on someone to say high & that isn't allowed. I tell people to knee him if he does it since he know that means no & for those who encourage him to jump up, I tell them NO. I know the boy's limitations & I keep him in line.

People who love animals, whether they have one or not, may not want someone to bring their pet with them to the house for many reasons.
Maybe they have pets that don't like other animals in their territory or that another guest has dog allergies or is scared of all dogs. Some people just don't get it that you can't take your pet everywhere with you.

Not every dog is well-behaved even though the owner thinks it is. The one thing I don't like is a misbehaving dog, especially when the owner think the behavior is cute.

We have friends with dogs & will always ask if the can stop by with them. When they were puppies, we told them to bring them so they can be socialized, especially if we were having a bonfire party. We have a kennel they can be put up in if a break is needed.

The other day SIL, who was expected over, showed up with her barking cockroach (aka chihuahua) unexpected. This "housebroken" thing walked into the living room & took a dump without a hesitation. Then he proceeded to bark non-stop at our daughter & wouldn't listen to my SIL to be quiet.
 
Yeah, I'd be okay with a dog, but, like @MACKTEXAS, I'd tell the person it would have to go play in the backyard if it's disruptive.

But if it's a cat, that would be a definite No, sorry (not sorry). My cats might feel threatened and get all territorial and stressed-out, plus cats find weird places to hide, and I don't want to spend forever looking for a guest's cat so they can leave.
 
It depends on the dog.

Is it a yappy little high maintenance fur ball or a laid back easy going old go with the flow type of dog.

It’s not the dog’s fault that it’s owners were rude enough to just show up without clearing it first.

I think that I would probably shorten my guest list for future events. 😉🤭😂
 
The dog is welcomed into my home, but not for any meal at my table. I had 2 great dogs and neither one ate from the table. My second dog was a slow learner, but after almost 3 years, she got the message. She used to sit about 6 feet from the table and stare at me. When I finished, I did give her some table scraps. I never yelled, beat or kick my dogs. I just kept dragging them away, or ignoring them. I even fed them when I ate, so hopefully, they wouldn’t bother me. But then, they would eat so fast that they would burp when they were finished eating and started harassing me for food.
 
It depends on who is asking and how well the pet behaves. I'd say yes to a well-behaved dog, but no to cats.

Many years ago my friend Barbara would come over every week for “Dynasty Night.” She'd stop at the bakery and pick up dessert, and I'd make us dinner. She would occasionally bring Mrs. Pig, her sweet shaggy dog. Mrs. Pig was just one of many animals Barbara rescued over the years. She was always quiet and well-behaved, following Barbara everywhere.

Sadly, after Barbara had her for a few years, Mrs. Pig contracted Lyme disease and was very sick. Barbara couldn't leave her alone at home, so she would always bring Mrs. Pig with her. Mrs. Pig had difficulty standing and walking, so we carried her from the car, up the stairs to the porch, and inside the house. Once inside, she rested at Barbara's feet, as she always did. When Barbara got up to use the loo, Mrs. Pig struggled to stand, so I'd go to her and lift her up so she could toddle after Barbara and wait outside the loo for her.

Barbara would usually stay for a couple of hours after dinner, but because Mrs. Pig wasn't feeling well, she went home right after the show.

Mrs. Pig was a very sweet, loving, well-behaved dog and always welcome in my home. I felt sorry when she died.

On the other hand… my brother-in-law had an adorable Bichon Frise that was completely untrained. He believed that dogs should just be dogs, whatever that means. :rolleyes: I felt sorry for Jacques; he would have gotten on much better in the world if he had been properly socialized. The poor thing hadn't even been taught how to "sit."

So, when my BIL would bring Jacques with him, after peeing on my floor a few times, Jacques had to stay in his truck or outside.
 
My opinion is that it depends upon the dog and upon the owners.

If someone showed up without asking first, I’d take it as being as rude as bringing along another person that I don’t know.

We had one family member bring their dog while they stayed. It had emotional and physical problems and they would watch it very carefully. It was a lovely little dog and we got along fine. It was hard on them because moods could change quickly. They didn’t have anyone to look after him at home, which would have been their preference.

The HOA has very strict rules about the size of animals. TG, because one family member has had very poorly trained 90 lb dogs. They think that them walking all over the couch and you is adorable. Neither one of them listened to commands. They would take that dog to another family members and it was barely tolerated. Family dinners are now done in restaurants.

Friends had a lovely golden retriever. I know it would have stayed on a mat and been happy. They didn’t want to bring him along even when we asked.
 
Jules said:
When you asked someone to dinner, how would you feel if someone arrived with their dog?

Or what would you say if they called ahead and asked to bring a pet?

If the reason given was that they like their pet so just wanted to bring it along.
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Not happy about it. I have cats and this is their home. I wouldn't let them bring it in. Either they leave it in their vehicle, take it back home and come back, or just visit another day, when they are pet free.

If they called ahead and ask, I'd say no, and tell them we can visit another time when you leave your dog at home.

That reason you gave here is manipulative on their part. I'd advise them, I love my 6 cats, so how would you feel if I brought them all to your home to visit?

Everyone that knows me would not bring their pet to my house, nor would I, to theirs.
 
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Last year, for Thanksgiving at my sister's house, there were six dogs. One was "reactive", thus had to stay in the yard, but the other five rampaged through the house like a herd of thundering bison. Heaven help anyone in their way.

They were all adorable, though, and I enjoyed them.....except when they were trying to send me to the hospital with a broken hip.

The same gang will be there this year, but apparently there will be two additional dogs at the feast.

"Barking cockroach"!!! Bwhahahaha!!! I'm going to have to use that.
 
A friend turned up at our place for afternoon tea and brought her poodle dog along. When we all sat at the table my friend put
the poodle up on a chair next to her and proceeded to feed little tid-bits to it. I was disgusted but held my remarks but said
to my husband afterwards she would not be welcome again with that dog. She even put scraps on my fine China plates.
 
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