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My kidd brother took his life 17 years ago and sil passed from alzheimers three.
Over the course of many years dad took lots of 35mm photos and my brother had them. I never married,have no children and no family. I made a request to my nephew to let me have the slides. I should have left well enough alone. My nephews wife sent me a lot of slides,a projector and the screen. Among the items also was a small old wooden box that dad had containing some wwii memorbilia.
I may have analyzed over this to much but I have a feeling that this is a way of saying here is all that is left of your brother and family memories, now leave us to our own life.
They are late 30s-early 40s and I guess they do have the right to their own means. And I would not have been close to my uncle either so I guess I can accept this. My brother left them a house worth a considerable sum and they have jobs that pay quite well.
 

deaver said:
My kidd brother took his life 17 years ago and sil passed from alzheimers three.
Over the course of many years dad took lots of 35mm photos and my brother had them. I never married,have no children and no family. I made a request to my nephew to let me have the slides. I should have left well enough alone. My nephews wife sent me a lot of slides,a projector and the screen. Among the items also was a small old wooden box that dad had containing some wwii memorbilia.
I may have analyzed over this to much but I have a feeling that this is a way of saying here is all that is left of your brother and family memories, now leave us to our own life.
They are late 30s-early 40s and I guess they do have the right to their own means. And I would not have been close to my uncle either so I guess I can accept this. My brother left them a house worth a considerable sum and they have jobs that pay quite well.
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It could well be.. but it could also simply be that they have no use for those items and see them as your right!... Remember too that where the slides are concerned if your nephew and his wife wanted them, they may well have had digital copies made..
 
deaver said:
I made a request to my nephew to let me have the slides. I should have left well enough alone. My nephews wife sent me a lot of slides,a projector and the screen. Among the items also was a small old wooden box that dad had containing some wwii memorbilia.
I may have analyzed over this to much but I have a feeling that this is a way of saying here is all that is left of your brother and family memories, now leave us to our own life.
They are late 30s-early 40s
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I find it impressive that they responded with what you asked for and more. I think they probably were aiming to be extra kind and giving.

It is sad of course how generations pass and descendants aren't that interested in memorabilia. I don't know what the correct balance should be between looking forward/moving on, and looking backward/remembering. When I sold my house in the spring this year, I threw away lots and lots of things my great-grandparents & grandparents & parents had kept. Some I should probably regret throwing away, but others like all the good attendance certificates of my father when he was in elementary school were for sure TOO MUCH. :D
 
I don't know the dynamics of your family of course but I'm glad you got the items you requested. I'm not surprised they would have no real interest in them.

My stepfather has slides. I'm not sure what I would do with them. There is really no one to give them to except his nephew who has a site with uploaded pictures.
 
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" I made a request to my nephew to let me have the slides."

You got what you asked for

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"My brother left them a house worth a considerable sum and they have jobs that pay quite well."

Makes sense doesn't it to leave it to his son. Hopefully the house has no mortgage or liens against it.
 
I don't think they meant to slight you. Young people are not as sentimental. They were thoughtful though.
If they don't have copies I'd make them because as they get older they will appreciate them more.
 
If they are only in their 30s /40s Deaver they are perhaps overjoyed that someone who would appreciate the items as family history and would be going in good hands.
The WW2 memorabilia is worth looking into because if your brother is the one it belonged to it would be good if you found out more about his service record. There are probably none left alive now who might have helped you but if you have photos of him you could always follow them up through his old unit.
I had someone come to me recently aged 75 at the time asking me about the Yanks that were stationed around Leicestershire in the UK around 1944 before the big D-Day landing because she had found out through DNA that she had a cousin in the states.
I gave her a pointer and she has come back to me saying that she had traced her father through it and he belonged to the 505 unit attached to the 82 Airborne although it was too late to get to know him. She has also found out that she had half brothers and sisters and has been to the States to meet them. Fascinating stuff and history.

Did you send a Thank you message for them. ?
 
OP did you ever consider things from their perspective? All those slides are their family memories as well, why do you have more right to them? And what in the world does them having good jobs and inheriting a home have to do with anything?

I think they answered your request with generosity. What you should do is thank them, maybe go thru and keep a few things but return the rest as part of the family history to be handed on to future generations.
 
20 years ago I gave my son all the slides I took in the 70s and early 80s, along with projector, etc. He has probably ditched it all by now, which is 100% okay with me. Saved me the trouble.

My grandsons are both late 20s, and would have zero interest in any of them, or any other items we think are so important. Antiques? Shrug...
 
Well, I helped raise my sisters kids from infancy to GTA. (He turned his life around) and now I don't hear from them. But about them from their mother. I guess if we're not helping them in some way, we're not going to be part of the scene.
 

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