Conversations with friends on the phone

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Victor

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If you regularly converse with good friends on the phone, do you take turns calling
each other every so often? Say, you call someone, do you wait until he/she calls you?
Or do you repeat calling, even when he/she does not call?
When a friend does not call around the usual interval, what does that mean?
They are busy? I doubt it. Likely they just don't want to talk.
(Leaving messages in voice mail is another issue. Friends call back,
businesses not so much.)
 

Most of my friends keep in touch via text, maybe a call once or twice a month...calls are made by either or. Not sure why I even bother with a landline anymore. The only calls we get on that is usually from telemarketers.
 

I very rarely call anyone.

Over the years I've had so many folks give me the bum's rush to get me off the phone because they were busy or I was calling at an inconvenient time that I just don't bother.

I always thank people that do take the time to call me and ask them to keep in touch when it is convenient for them.
 
I don't spend much time on the phone. Typically if I call a friend or they call me, it's to arrange to meet for lunch or a visit. I don't keep tabs on "who calls who" so I have no idea (and couldn't care less) about the calling "interval."
 
James said:
Most of my friends keep in touch via text, maybe a call once or twice a month...calls are made by either or. Not sure why I even bother with a landline anymore. The only calls we get on that is usually from telemarketers.
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We did away with our landline 5 years ago. We have a free landline through Comcast as part of a Triple Play bundle, but we don't even have a phone hooked up to it and I couldn't tell you the number.
 
Between wife and I, I am definitely the "talker" when it comes to the phone and most other things. However, if we are out for the evening and she has a drink, it will definitely make her "open up" and talk, but other than that, not nearly as much as me. Generally her girlfriend in California calls us. I'm the one that generally initiates the call to her sister, but her sister will call us (when she seems bored). Whenever we call or someone calls us, we always put it on speakerphone.

Neither of us have friends men or women friends, other than my wife's one girlfriend. We do absolutely everything together, except when she is at work. Anyway, hopefully we will be able to make some friends when we move back to where we really belong........Colorado or Wyoming. We've tried making friends here, but nobody is interested in what we are interested in or they are too young and/or not married.

And, BTW, I do 99% of Business calling. Only calls my wife takes at work on her cell is mine.
 
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For many years I had regular phone chats with several friends and relatives. That's slacked off considerably. Now people text or email (usually text). I kind of miss the phone talks.

I never really kept score. If I want to talk to someone, I call them. If I have to leave a message and it's nothing important, they call back within a day or so. I don't like it when people start off by telling me how busy they've been and rattle off all the things they've had to do or should be doing. :rolleyes:

I know quite a few people who screen their calls and don't answer their phone at all - you have to leave a message. I answer my phone unless I'm in the bathroom, cooking, or otherwise occupied/indisposed.
 
I'm not a big phone talker..I was in my younger years.
I mostly talk to my mother on the phone now and she only hears about half of what I say, gets a little frustrating at times, I have to reminder to put her hearing aids in.
I guess with Facebook and keeping up with the kids and grand kids is how we talk now, private messages work for me. My mom doesn't do chat.
I leave my answering machine on and if I can talk I pick up if not I call back when I can.
 
i have a friend when she calls me i take the time to talk but when i call her she has to watch a perry mason rerun.if i leave a message on her answering machine she calls either when i am eating or in bed
 
I have a close church friend,Peter who is like family to me, as was his late wife,Rose who died 2 yrs ago.. Rose&I would call each other twice/wk,if I didn't hear from her,I would call and vice versa.They didn't have a computer,their only child lives out of state. I am now one of Peter's local emergency contacts,talk to him 3 times/wk,keep him updated on what's going on at church.He gave up driving a yr ago.
I talk to my brother every Sun,once in awhile he'll send me an email,prefer talking to him
I have caller ID with my phone,if I don't recognize the # I don't pick up.
 
Lately I talk on the phone once and a while...My brother calls me and I return his calls, maybe once a week...Even though sometimes he will text....
I do all my sister in law since she has lost husband in November....She loves when I call her, being she lives alone....
I call my friend in town and she in turn call me....Sometimes we don't like to text...I like to hear the voice....
I also talk to my very best cousin on the phone, every once and a while...She lives up North and we don't see each other often.. So we like to hear each other's voice....
Other wise we do text sometimes, sending pictures of our grandkids....
My nephew and niece text and so does my son, even though he is 2 blocks away....LOL.....(He did come today to the house after work cause it is snowing, he wanted to check up on us.....♥
 
It's tough, Seeker, if you can't hear....Just be patient....I know the feeling....Yes it can be annoying, it's good you can tell her to put her hearing aids on....
 
Aunt Bea said:
I very rarely call anyone.

Over the years I've had so many folks give me the bum's rush to get me off the phone because they were busy or I was calling at an inconvenient time that I just don't bother.

I always thank people that do take the time to call me and ask them to keep in touch when it is convenient for them.
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Ditto ...i almost always use texting now... for that very reason...
 
peppermint said:
It's tough, Seeker, if you can't hear....Just be patient....I know the feeling....Yes it can be annoying, it's good you can tell her to put her hearing aids on....
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Oh I am very patient..since she lives alone she rarely puts them in, when I visit one of the first things I do is remind her to put them in. :love_heart:
 
I have a friend who likes talking on the phone. She'll call me once in a while and it'll be at least an hour conversation. She has a good phone voice and is the calmest person I know, so it's very relaxing. :) I don't often initiate a phone call.
 
What frustrates me is when I call a friend or relative and we're talking away, then it's "oh, let me put you on hold and take this call....I'll be right back". Then I sit there for what seems forever, wondering if I'm still on hold or if we've been disconnected.

Usually the call that the other person "has" to take isn't that important. I understand when you're waiting for a call from the doctor's office or the plumber or the delivery person, you need to take it right away. But when it's just a routine call from your daughter or your mother or your husband and you talk to them multiple times a day already, can't you finish the call you're on and then call the other person back? I have one relative who's particularly bad about that. I seldom get an uninterrupted conversation with this person.
 
Mostly communicate with the kids and grandkids by texting, occasionally email although the grandkids don't use it much.

Occasionally we all talk by phone.

With nearby friends, phone calls are usually brief, making arrangements to meet for lunch or something. Most of our real conversations take place face to face. I don't think the phone plays as big a part in real conversations as it used to. Although young people seem to walk around with them glued to their faces all the time.
 
Come to think about it, after reading some replies here, I do the “half and half” with BIL and SIL......both talk on cell phone and text.

Actually, I never thought I’d do texting, but I sure was wrong.
 
I have one friend that lives out of town and since we both have a phone plan we do have conversations of an hour or more.

Does anyone else have a friend that does this? I call her, we are talking for a time but I get the impression that someone is listening in. Suddenly her husband pipes in after listening for a time in silence. I don't know why this bothers me but it does.
 

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