Courtesy, Is it REALLY all that COMMON?

I think much of it depends upon the locale. Out here, in the boondocks, people still say hello, or nod to each other, and hold the door for someone else leaving or entering a store, etc. However, when we got somewhere up in the city, its rare to see any courtesy extended.
 
It's still around, at least in my small area. Now and then you run into a rude person but not too often. Courtesy should be taught by parents early on.
 

I think it is. Obviously in a larger city like where I live it isn't seen as much as a smaller town but I am surprised most times I go out examples of common courtesy. On the flip side I do see a lot more jerks but overall I think most people do exhibit some behaviours of common courtesy.
 
Perhaps I should have specified more clearly. In real life, I definitely agree that common courtesy is ‘alive & well.’
In fact, I live in a small town and most everyone smiles and waves if and when they see me. People always hold doors and are exceptionally polite so chivalry most certainly isn’t lost.


Online is a bit different. Maybe it’s because of the anonymity. People don’t necessary need to feel accountable or perhaps don’t feel the need for politeness when they know others don’t really see them.


For instance: in real life , if you asked a question because you needed help and people came to your assistance to help.
Would you not thank them?
I know I would, yet there are people who ask for help and when it’s given, can’t even be bothered to add a ‘Thanks people.’


I thought that perhaps bring courteous online isn’t considered cool or something:shrug:


There’s other forms of impoliteness I’ve seen but I guess that’s all part of communicating online that I need to adjust to.

Thank you for your responses.
 
MarkinPhx said:
I think it is. Obviously in a larger city like where I live it isn't seen as much as a smaller town but I am surprised most times I go out examples of common courtesy. On the flip side I do see a lot more jerks but overall I think most people do exhibit some behaviours of common courtesy.
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I agree. It's still alive here. I live in a medium sized town.

Now driving is another thing, but I'm beginning to think people just don't know any better, or don't think about it from anyone else's point of view.
 
Oh, online I would say that it is lacking. It has been that way for nearly 30 years now. I have been guilty before of disregarding courtesy in a heated discussion. I try to watch my behaviour these days but even as recently as a month ago I slipped. I think anomiminity is a huge part of it but I also think people can get more heated when using the written word instead of being verbal with their thoughts. Not justifying the behaviour at all though.
 
Where I live there are a lot of polite helpful people.

I am surprised though, online, just how rude and sarcastic some people are.

Also some ask for help and then say TIA. It took me awhile to figure out that means Thanks In Advance. I think, hey, why not thank them AFTER they help you as you could comment on how they helped etc. It would be nicer and more personal.
 
I honestly can't remember the last time I encountered rudeness. Maybe not all that terribly polite, but polite enough. Some people just seem to walk around unaware and consequently do things like letting a door close when there is someone behind them instead of holding it open for that person. But even that doesn't happen too often.
 
MarkinPhx said:
Oh, online I would say that it is lacking. It has been that way for nearly 30 years now. I have been guilty before of disregarding courtesy in a heated discussion. I try to watch my behaviour these days but even as recently as a month ago I slipped. I think anomiminity is a huge part of it but I also think people can get more heated when using the written word instead of being verbal with their thoughts. Not justifying the behaviour at all though.
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Ues ive gotten into a heated argument and gotten a bit testy but I always apologize afterwards. Not that it makes it that much better. :) It must be the fact that they are anonymous.
Linda said:
I am surprised though, online, just how rude and sarcastic some people are.

Also some ask for help and then say TIA. It took me awhile to figure out that means Thanks In Advance. I think, hey, why not thank them AFTER they help you as you could comment on how they helped etc. It would be nicer and more personal.
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Thats the kind of thing I’m talking about. I’ve seen members write out an entire page of very of great information for a member asking for help and never even get thanked. I mean, gratitude goes a long way.
 
NancyNGA said:
Now driving is another thing, but I'm beginning to think people just don't know any better, or don't think about it from anyone else's point of view.
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But isn’t this another form of being a bully cause you can?
Another good example of how people are more courageous when they know they are driving anonymously.
We don’t usually know who they are.
I despise tail gaters riding on my @ss. ( for lack of a better word )
 
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