Marie5656
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- Batavia, NY
I have been giving this a lot of thought, since Jim posted his thread about his wife's belongings. I do not want to further hijack his thread with my musings, so I will start another.
I mentioned there that when my uncle died in 1980 (he was 84) it had been about 10 years since my aunt had died. He still had all her clothes in the closets, personal items in the bathroom and the like. Her purse will still sitting on the chair where she left it, and her wallet (with cash inside) was on the dresser. Even the calendar from the year she died was still on the wall, open to the month she died, He was my dad's brother. A couple of months latter my mom passed from cancer. The week after her funeral my dad called us in and said "We are going to start packing up her things. Now" So take anything you want to keep. By the end of the month all of her clothes were gone. I think a lot had to do was he was the one having to clear my uncle's house (my dad was 15+years younger than his brother).
When Rick died, I spent the first week or so starting to get my head around what I planned to do with his things. Over the next few weeks I did pack up a lot and haul it out. Including some, but not all of his clothes. I just recently gave my cousin (also a big guy like Rick) his winter coat and a couple sweaters. To be honest, I do want to pack up his stuff, but with the work I am doing outside, and the fact the weather is nice, I can see me waiting until winter to do the bulk of the rest.
How about you? I do feel now that we cannot put a timeline on this kind of thing. We will know when it is the right time. And since I am not selling the house, or moving out, I have no timeline in that respect.
When a friend's mom died, they started almost right away packing things up, and sorting, as they needed to get the house ready for sale. And there was work to be done on the house before they could sell. But they had it cleared in about 2 months of steady work. I spent many a week end helping.
I mentioned there that when my uncle died in 1980 (he was 84) it had been about 10 years since my aunt had died. He still had all her clothes in the closets, personal items in the bathroom and the like. Her purse will still sitting on the chair where she left it, and her wallet (with cash inside) was on the dresser. Even the calendar from the year she died was still on the wall, open to the month she died, He was my dad's brother. A couple of months latter my mom passed from cancer. The week after her funeral my dad called us in and said "We are going to start packing up her things. Now" So take anything you want to keep. By the end of the month all of her clothes were gone. I think a lot had to do was he was the one having to clear my uncle's house (my dad was 15+years younger than his brother).
When Rick died, I spent the first week or so starting to get my head around what I planned to do with his things. Over the next few weeks I did pack up a lot and haul it out. Including some, but not all of his clothes. I just recently gave my cousin (also a big guy like Rick) his winter coat and a couple sweaters. To be honest, I do want to pack up his stuff, but with the work I am doing outside, and the fact the weather is nice, I can see me waiting until winter to do the bulk of the rest.
How about you? I do feel now that we cannot put a timeline on this kind of thing. We will know when it is the right time. And since I am not selling the house, or moving out, I have no timeline in that respect.
When a friend's mom died, they started almost right away packing things up, and sorting, as they needed to get the house ready for sale. And there was work to be done on the house before they could sell. But they had it cleared in about 2 months of steady work. I spent many a week end helping.