My grandmother's 3 rules are...Like I posted: best for all.
Free thought allows not visiting, in any group or place, when free thought is possible along with free actions.
The rules are to preserve or to protect what they believe is right there, their free thought is not adversely affected by ney-sayers.
1. We respect everyone. It makes no difference who the other person is, the mayor or a bum because being respectful is about who we are.
2. We protect the dignity of others.
3. We do everything with integrity.
I have seen these rules in action. They left people up and bring out the best in people.