Do you ever just need someone to talk to?

GeorgiaXplant

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Georgia
Ha! Scheisst der Baer im Wald? LOL Don't we all? If there's nobody available, I talk to my kitty. Or I type it all out in a running word document that I've been keeping for years.
 

Lochkelly

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Location
Charleston, SC
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Ha! Scheisst der Baer im Wald? LOL Don't we all? If there's nobody available, I talk to my kitty. Or I type it all out in a running word document that I've been keeping for years.
Okay, I had to look up and have Google translate Scheisst der Baer im Wald!! Oh, I definitely talk to my cats and to myself! Ha!
 

Lochkelly

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Location
Charleston, SC
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Sometimes. But we have to choose the person wisely, or you can end up feeling worse. The person you talk to may use the situation to feel better about themselves by putting you down. And a wise choice is usually not family.
Definitely. What I encounter a lot is that they turn it around and put it on themselves. Then it becomes all about them.
 

Gary O'

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Location
Oregon
Never really have
However
I do consider talking to someone a privilege

Haven't had a dog in awhile, but I do recall him being a very good listener
He'd kinda close his mouth a bit with the tip of his tongue still sticking out, and look up at me, his eyebrows and ears up
I always enjoyed that
 

Olivia

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Location
Hawaii
I find myself in this situation more and more these days. I just need someone to talk to, a sounding board if you will, no judging. Sometimes I just need to get things off my chest.

Anyone else in this predicament?
Do you live alone? You restricted your profile to everyone, including members, so I can't really know what situation you are in and therefore have a hard time giving suggestions,
 

Lochkelly

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Charleston, SC
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Do you live alone? You restricted your profile to everyone, including members, so I can't really know what situation you are in and therefore have a hard time giving suggestions,
I've changed my settings now.

I don't live alone but hubby & both daughters (23 & 17) all have ADD out the wazoo. Only my son doesn't but he's 3 hours away at college. I hate dumping on him anyway. Husband is also trying to recover from a closed skull brain injury. That doesn't help. We live in a very small town with lots of adult cliques. If you didn't at least go to high school here, you don't count.
 

Liberty

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Location
Texas
So far, I'm the "sounding board" mostly...for family and friends and that's fine. Have one friend that calls up and tells me what's ailing her and then sends me an email apologizing for always
talking and telling me her troubles.

Not a problem, hey, I've been called a really good listener...happy to be of help...lol
 

DaveA

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Sometimes. But we have to choose the person wisely, or you can end up feeling worse. The person you talk to may use the situation to feel better about themselves by putting you down. And a wise choice is usually not family.
You seem to be painting with a pretty broad brush when you trash families other than from your own experience. In actuality, I rarely discuss problems or seek advice from anyone but our kids and/or their mates. They're all in their 50's and 60's now, are usually familiar with any problems that we have and at our late age, they've never failed us yet. Another benefit I find is that they provide a degree of compassion when helping us over a "bump".

We all have different experiences and live accordingly. If your particular experience (within family) has been bad, that's unfortunate and I sympathize with anyone in that situation. But to generalize about others is making an assumption that may not be true.
 

PVC

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Location
Southern AZ
Ha! Scheisst der Baer im Wald? LOL Don't we all? If there's nobody available, I talk to my kitty. Or I type it all out in a running word document that I've been keeping for years.
I have a penpal that I vent to and she vents to me. It helps! Diaries like yours helps a lot, too, just writing it down calms you and gives you perspective. It's a lot cheaper than paying a psychiatrist.
 

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