Do you have any regrets? What's your biggest regret in life?

Not having more children. We had one son who married a drama queen who raises their two sons according to what she sees on Facebook and Tik tok. Way too many pics on social media. Always on camera. No interest is really being a Mom. Takes kids to day care even when she's not working. We have to beg to see them. Son seems to he afraid to piss her off. If he only had a sibling to help him out. And if we had another child to be close to all our lives would be better.
 

Wigglestein said:
Not having more children. We had one son who married a drama queen who raises their two sons according to what she sees on Facebook and Tik tok. Way too many pics on social media. Always on camera. No interest is really being a Mom. Takes kids to day care even when she's not working. We have to beg to see them. Son seems to he afraid to piss her off. If he only had a sibling to help him out. And if we had another child to be close to all our lives would be better.
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I bet her kids will turn out ok....eventually. I mean, it sounds like they're with other people more than their mother, and those people's outlooks will probably shape them the most.
 
So many things. Where to start....

I quit school at 16 to get away from bad situations I had no control over. So can I call this a "regret" or a necessity?

For much of my life I was missing important information about things that "everyone" knows. I was isolated because of my personality. Should I regret being me?

Other things too. But you get the idea. If I'd done things differently, I wouldn't be me. But I do regret not having more money. That was/is a biggie.
 
I wish I'd never gotten involved with a lady who caused a terrible rift between me and my daughter. It was totally unexpected, though. I never would have guessed the witch was pure poison until I actually got a taste of it. pplaah!

Fortunately things are all good with me and my daughter now, but yeah, that whole thing is regrettable.
 
NorthernLight said:
For much of my life I was missing important information about things that "everyone" knows. I was isolated because of my personality. Should I regret being me?

Other things too. But you get the idea. If I'd done things differently, I wouldn't be me. But I do regret not having more money. That was/is a biggie.
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This is a great response, @NorthernLight ... I try not to call things regrets either because anything that would have been different would have changed how my life turned out and I kind of like it the way it is. There are things I maybe wish I'd done differently, but not to the point of regretting the way I chose to do them.
 
Well, What I thought of as regretful, I now understand as a karmic influence I had to live out to get rid of
so I never have to experience him again. haha! "It " again. Everything that I went through was something
I had to live through. My experiences lightened my load so I'm now happier, freer, more alive, more aware.
 
Youngster said:
Mine is that I didn't travel more when I had the opportunity
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I traveled a lot for business, to much of the world. My regret is that I didn't take more time for myself to see and enjoy places when I could. Twice I did trips from the US to Europe spending less than 36 hours there... too much work, too little play.
NorthernLight said:
Should I regret being me?
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I hope not, from what I have seen of you here I think you are an interesting and kind person. We need more, not less, of those.
 
Alligatorob said:
Not putting all my money into the original Apple IPO...

This really is a hard question, there are lots of things I would change if I could, but I can't and am ok with that.
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When he got back from WWll my dad was offered a piece of the McDonald's enterprise for $500. He had to pass because he didn't have it. But he could have borrowed it, easily.
 
Murrmurr said:
When he got back from WWll my dad was offered a piece of the McDonald's enterprise for $500. He had to pass because he didn't have it. But he could have borrowed it, easily.
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My grandparents worked for 3M when they first started. They made sandpaper out of a garage. It was during the depression and the company was having a hard time of it. They offered my Grandparents stock options as part of their pay. They turned it down.
 
I don't think you can get this far in life and not have any regrets. The important thing is that you cannot change what happened in the past and focusing on the regrets serves no purpose and it only detrimental. But if you learn from your mistakes and change anything you can moving forward that is what is important. I wish I would have furthered my education, appreciated my Mom more when I had her and traveled to every state in the United States. Education is expensive and traveling is as well. And when you work full time, two jobs travel is not something you have the luxury of doing.
 
Wigglestein said:
Not having more children. We had one son who married a drama queen who raises their two sons according to what she sees on Facebook and Tik tok. Way too many pics on social media. Always on camera. No interest is really being a Mom. Takes kids to day care even when she's not working. We have to beg to see them. Son seems to he afraid to piss her off. If he only had a sibling to help him out. And if we had another child to be close to all our lives would be better.
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trouble is.. if you'd had another sibling for your son, they may have the same outlook... so don't beat yourself up about this.. this is something your son is going to have to figure out for himself.. if he doesn't want to have that woman as his wife, he'll eventually put a halt to it.. but I understand how painful for you it must be to see your son and grandchildren living a way that's alien to you..
 
I think everyone wishes they had done some things differently. For example if I hadnā€™t married my first two husbands I might have had happier marriages but then I wouldnā€™t have had my 3 sons. Two are awesome and we are very close. I am so grateful for them. One has had a lifelong drug problem and has only been a burden. Life is always a mixture of good and bad.
 
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