Do you like to feel equal to others?

Pecos said:
I take college degrees with a big grain of salt.
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I went to college to educate myself out of the limited mind set of my family and background. It was hugely liberating for me. I discovered there that I was actually worth something, and was not just some guy's toy or someone some guy had the right to put down. What I'm saying is as I see it the real reason for a college education is for the education, not the degree, although I have a bachelor's degree and would have had a masters if what my brother did had not thrown my degree program for a loop.
 
hellomimi said:
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If I start comparing myself to others, it will either make me arrogant or lose my self esteem. All that I aspire for, each day when I wake up is to be a better version of myself.
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You set a high standard for yourself, (maybe it would be a good thing if everyone tried to be your "equal", in that respect at least, as I'm sure I don't follow your path right now, so I of course feel inferior there!). .

Can I chuck this thought in here, to maybe stir up the thread, and renew interest in it(?):

"What if men, in general, are inferior to women?". :eek: .

It is known men's "Y" chromosome is a much shorter molecule than an "X" chromosome, and is thought of as a kind of dummy chromosome, confering the sex determination obviously, but at the same time making men more susceptible to some diseases, (Multiple sclerosis being one).

If you accept the premis men are generally inferior to women, then framing laws or public policies aiming to treat men and women as equals, may mean women are unfairly prejudiced(?). At risk of derailing the thread, or boring you all a little with my parental rights arguments for a second, if women/mothers are generally responsible parents, why deny them the legal rights they might deserve simply because granting them equally to men might mean more reckless or hapless men might abuse the legal right?

Anyway, there it is, I'm just throwing ideas up in the air, to see where they fall. :unsure: ! .
 
grahamg said:
You set a high standard for yourself, (maybe it would be a good thing if everyone tried to be your "equal", in that respect at least, as I'm sure I don't follow your path right now, so I of course feel inferior there!). .
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Yes, I set a high standard for myself although my goal is not perfection, more of fine tuning myself.

Don't feel inferior to anyone not knowing where they've been through and where their path leads. Clear your own path, enjoy the journey to your destiny.
 
When I was a student, I got all sorts of jobs in the summer. Through family connections, I got a job with the local rural district council (as was) and I ended up doing all sorts of jobs from lifting bins (emptying trashcans) to cutting grass in country graveyards and other municipal sites. At Christmas, I got a job as a temporary postman, delivering to various parts of the town.

The jobs and the people I worked with provided a great education in human nature. Some of the council employees were very skilled and intelligent. One man I remember, was often consulted by farmers and horse owners. It turned out that in his younger years, the was head groom for a titled family, and was an expert in all aspects of working with horses.

Being a 'postie' was a real eye opener. Most people in the less salubrious areas (I came to the conclusion) needed someone to feel superior to. If, they didn't receive a letter they were expecting, it was my fault. If I delivered a letter to the address on the envelope, but it was wrongly addressed, it was because I was a stupid illiterate who should have known that the address was wrong. Actually, the nicest people were the professional ones - doctors, business men etc.. They understood that they needed postmen, refuse collectors, road sweepers etc.. to keep things going, and they regarded their work as essential (even if they wouldn't like to do it themselves).

I try never to confuse the person with the job they are doing. I have on occasions discovered that my taxi driver had a doctorate in physics, or the 'rustic' character I was chatting to at the bar, was a multi-millionaire.
 
Sticking with the theme I've tried to introduce above, concerning female superiority, here is something else to consider when calling for equality all over the show:

https://www.cnbc.com/2011/01/20/if-you-want-to-be-boss-lady-act-like-a-woman-think-like-a-man.html

"So whatā€™s a badass babe to do? Be slightly manipulative of course! Okay, not exactly, but sort of.

According to the study ā€œOne promising solution may be found in individualsā€™ abilities to accurately assess social situations and to project situationally appropriate responses, known as self-monitoring.ā€

Thatā€™s right ladies, learn how to ā€œprojectā€ yourself in a way that doesnā€™t make all the mens uncomfortable.

In other words, make sure your male counterparts are too distracted by your feminine wiles and busy basking in your womanly charm that they arenā€™t privy to the fact youā€™re gunning for their corner office with that sweet view.

In short, I think Margaret Thatcher said it best, ā€œBeing powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you arenā€™t.ā€" šŸ’ƒ šŸ™‡ā€ā™€ļøšŸ‘‘.
 
katlupe said:
I never think about it. I treat everyone with respect and am usually friendly to everyone I come in contact with. But no, I never feel beneath anyone and don't feel that I am better than anyone regardless of where they are in life at the moment. In a second it could change.
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You sound like a good communicator, and luckily not overburdened with self doubt. šŸ’ā€ā™€ļø.
 
grahamg said:
but do you wake up each day telling yourself you are "equal", or maybe "special" instead?
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Well it's certainly human nature to always be judging and comparing oneself and others. We are all special and unique, I'm not preoccupied with others accomplishments, and don't believe that such is the measure of the person. How a person treats their fellow humans is the important "yardstick", in my opinion.
 
hellomimi said:
It mentioned color your nails dark red but failed to mention one very important item in a woman's wardrobe...LBD the little black dress...sexy women's secret weapon *wink* *wink*
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I think I saw a woman attending a funeral locally dressed in a LBD this week, (not sure how the vicar kept his concentration during the service. :rolleyes: !).
 
grahamg said:
You sound like a good communicator, and luckily not overburdened with self doubt. šŸ’ā€ā™€ļø.
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I think it took years of living to get that way. My mother was like that and when I was younger of course, I disagreed with everything she said. But when I got older, I think I sort of evolved to that way of thinking.
 
"Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight." (Romans 12:16)

I generally don't think in terms of being a "better" or "worse" person than others. I do sometimes judge the decisions people have made but not the person himself/herself. In point of fact, I often seek out people who have knowledge or skills that are superior to my own regardless of their station in life - it's a great way to learn.
 
Tommy said:
"Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight." (Romans 12:16)

I generally don't think in terms of being a "better" or "worse" person than others. I do sometimes judge the decisions people have made but not the person himself/herself. In point of fact, I often seek out people who have knowledge or skills that are superior to my own regardless of their station in life - it's a great way to learn.
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There are unfortunately many situations today where being judged by others is intrinsic to the process being undertaken, so unavoidable, (it is hard to argue someone whose marriage has failed and partner has left them for another, has not been judged, and most likely "harshly judged" too!).

I like your idea of seeking out those with knowledge or skills that are superior to your own as a way of learning.

Here is a link to another form of judgment made about people, and their positivity or negativity, or by others about our behaviour, (perhaps connecting more to the post just above yours?),:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/sapient-nature/201303/dealing-negative-people

Quote:
"The final elementā€”of being matureā€”involves understanding that the most reliable way to steer the negative person towards positivity is to manifest the positivity yourself. For instance, blaming the negative person for making you feel negative is not going to help; indeed, it would be particularly ironic if you advised the negative person to ā€œstop blaming others for your negativityā€ if you are blaming them for bringing your mood down!

But, how exactly do you manifest positive attitudes that you want the negative person to exhibit without crossing over into being preachy or judgmental?

The trick is to act, as far as possible, like a person who is fully secure. That is, act like someone who is respected and loved by others, and in control of the important aspects of their life. This means: do not let the otherā€™s negativity curtail your natural inclination to pursue your dreams, take healthy risks, and trust others. However, do not take such actions to spite the negative person or to prove a point; rather, tap into the space of authenticity from which it seems natural to behave in a spontaneous, positive, and trusting manner. Then, when the negative person makes the skeptical or cynical commentā€”as he or she inevitably willā€”take the time to explain why you chose to act as you did."
 

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