Do you live with someone who has hearing issues?

Ronni

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Ron’s hearing is compromised from having worked on the railroad for years before it was regulated. He has actual damage, and can’t function normally without hearing aids

But even WITH hearing aids, he still struggles. If his back is to me, he can’t hear me when I speak. I have to remember to get his attention so he’ll turn round before I launch into whatever I say.

He doesn’t realize he’s doing it most of the time, but he relies on lip reading to a degree to understand what people are saying. If they speak fast or are covering their mouths he has trouble.

If we’re talking between us, he will bop his head in a certain way and that movement tells me to repeat what I said.

If we’re with the others and he didn’t understand what they said to him, he’ll look at me so I can repeat it.

I attribute some of the disagreements we’ve had (we don’t have many) to his inability to hear so that what I actually said is misunderstood by him.

He’s tried many different hearing aids, from the most expensive, hearing tested custom fitted ones, to less expensive over the counter models. He ultimately stopped buying the custom aids worth many thousands of dollars because the over the counter ones did the same job for thousands less.

It’s frustrating at times. I’m patient, but sometimes especially when he’s misunderstood something I’ve said, or I’ve repeated the same thing 4 times, I get edgy. But so does he, because it’s even more frustrating for him.

Do any of you deal with this, either as the hearing partner or the hearing-compromised one?
 

Hubby just got his second set of hearing aids. The first time it was only for one ear, now it's for both.

I understand what your going through, but it's gotten better with the new ones. Before he had the new one, I would watch how he was hearing what people said & wouldn't hesitate to explain his hearing problem so they didn't think he was being rude.

Now my MIL had nerve damage in her "good" ear & was completely deaf in the other. The deafness came from ear infections as a kid & the nerve damage while working for GM making car brakes components. Before, we had to yell & get her attention before we spoke. She finally, I think, got tired of it when her friends were doing the same thing. We still had to talk her into getting hearing aids & it made a great difference.

I've been told that for nerve issues, there isn't anything that works other the cochlear implant. Our one friend who wears a hearing aid needs the implant, but he is fighting the insurance company to have it done.
 
I believe my husband's has decreased. He plays his music louder than normal, TV too. Only answers me if I speaker louder than I usually do.
He says that I speak too softly is all. In the car he will turn up the radio to what seems loud to me but then he will begin talking to me
and I can't make out what he is saying so turn it down and he gives me that look.
I have mentioned a hearing test to him a few times and he brushes it off. If I have to repeat something to him at times he does get
frustrated and will yell his answer back and I always say "When you can talk calmly we'll discuss this again" instead of mentioning he is not hearing me clearly. I have a feeling he's afraid he needs aids and he hates to even put ear pods in his ears, says they hurt.
 

I believe my husband's has decreased. He plays his music louder than normal, TV too. Only answers me if I speaker louder than I usually do.
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I can relate to this. I actually get headaches if we’re having a long conversation, because I have to intentionally raise my own speaking volume, and it gets to be a strain after a while.

I will sometimes forget, and speak to others at that same volume because I’m so used to doing it. My daughter will laugh at me and say, “mom, you’re yelling again.” Or “ did you forget you’re not speaking to Ron?” 🤣
 
My husband has had hearing issues for years,due to working in an extremely noisy auto body shop for 40+ years. I worked there as well,in the office for 34 years.The office really wasn`t any quieter so I have slight issues too,but I didn`t work full time or for quite as many years as he did.

So yes,I can relate to what you`re saying. I`m always asking him questions from the next room and am lucky if he answers me-let alone even hears me. So now he`s made up a new rule "If you can`t see my face,don`t ask me anything."Works for us lol.
 
My husband has had hearing issues for years,due to working in an extremely noisy auto body shop for 40+ years. I worked there as well,in the office for 34 years.The office really wasn`t any quieter so I have slight issues too,but I didn`t work full time or for quite as many years as he did.

So yes,I can relate to what you`re saying. I`m always asking him questions from the next room and am lucky if he answers me-let alone even hears me. So now he`s made up a new rule "If you can`t see my face,don`t ask me anything."Works for us lol.
Great rule, I have to try that!(y)
 

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