Do you share your health issues with your children?

The posters in this thread sure aren't my mother. I never had kids, so there is no one.

I had some problems with the sight in my left eye, I apparently had a bleed in the eye and the Ophthalmologist sent me for a CT of my brain. Negative for tumors on bleed there. I haven't told anyone. Mentioning it here. I have a follow up appt. later this month.
 

No, I rarely mention my health. They all have their own lives and their own problems. I certainly don't want them to feel I need them.
 
Lavinia said:
No, I rarely mention my health. They all have their own lives and their own problems. I certainly don't want them to feel I need them.
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Yes, that's ⬆️ how it is, here, too.😨
 

I do if I know I might need help from them...my sons, that is. I don't talk to my daughter about it unless she asks, and I only talk about some of my health issues with my wife. Like, right now my doctors are planning to find out if I have a brain lesion, or a lesion on my optic nerve, or a cyst or tumor under my eyeball, but I won't tell Michelle about any of that until I'm sure what's up, after all the tests and stuff.
 
C50 said:
Thanks for the responses. I guess this is one of those issues there's no simple answer to. I was kind of overwhelmed with care giving for my parents and even though I did it willingly or maybe out of obligation I must carry a bit of resentment because I find I don't want my kids to have to go thru that, so I tend to keep my issues to myself.
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I cared for my parents for about 5 years, and then just my mom for about 8...then my sister took over, and then my younger brother & his wife. I didn't want my kids to ever have to care of me, and now that I'm married, I don't want my wife to, either.

It's not that the care was overwhelming - I mean, it was, but that's not the reason. The reason is it would rob them of living their lives fully, like being 100% available to help their kids and grandkids, and in Michelle's case, finishing school and starting a new career.
 
Murrmurr said:
I cared for my parents for about 5 years, and then just my mom for about 8...then my sister took over, and then my younger brother & his wife. I didn't want my kids to ever have to care of me, and now that I'm married, I don't want my wife to, either.

It's not that the care was overwhelming - I mean, it was, but that's not the reason. The reason is it would rob them of living their lives fully, like being 100% available to help their kids and grandkids, and in Michelle's case, finishing school and starting a new career.
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Yes I am right there with your thinking. When I mentioned being "overwhelmed" with the care of my parents I didn't mean in terms emotionally, physically or financially, I meant in the ways much of my life had to be sacrificed or put on hold during those years.

What prompted this post is my son and his fiance who live across the country are visiting right now, I also have an engaged daughter who lives close to me. While they are all here together I thought about sharing some things with them, but have decided not to. Why? Because my daughter and her fiance want to move to another part of the country for her work and my son and his fiance are going to move to Germany after the first of the year, which is where his fiance is originally from. I would hate for them to reconsider their plans and adventures because of me, that would hurt my heart.
 
No health issues to discuss, but I have great repour with my children.
haha! Nothing so tedious as listening to ole lady physical problems or operations.
I'm so lucky to feel good!
 

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