Do you think living alone is a big deal?

If you read some of the posts in this section, you'd think living alone was some kind of hideous disease. Well, I live alone. And for most of my life, I lived with others. It just happened that due to beak ups, and being disabled, I live alone. My brother, who was married at 19, and spent the next 40 years married, is now living alone. It happens.
But , again, if you read some of the posts, living alone is some horrible tragedy. It some kind of big deal. Do you think living alone is a big deal?
 

If you read some of the posts in this section, you'd think living alone was some kind of hideous disease. Well, I live alone. And for most of my life, I lived with others. It just happened that due to beak ups, and being disabled, I live alone. My brother, who was married at 19, and spent the next 40 years married, is now living alone. It happens.
But , again, if you read some of the posts, living alone is some horrible tragedy. It some kind of big deal. Do you think living alone is a big deal?
Yes- but in a positive way.
Obviously it was great having my kids around before they grew up and moved out on their own, but I wouldn't want to share my "living space" with anyone other than my kids/families.
 

Treacle

Member
I don't live alone at present but I have done. I have no problem with that. I am able to occupy my time and find engaging with others for long periods of time very difficult. I prefer my own company. Would always like to have a pet in my life though. My o/h is gregarious and loves to socialise with his 'mates' and will chat with anyone he encounters. Just not for me. We are all 'made' different and what suits one does not suit another. If you are content on your own enjoy it. There is no stigma as far as I am concerned and/or no horrible tragedy. I find that some people cannot understand the way I choose such a solitary life (not socialising or very little) and I've had to spend many years justifying the way that I am because people think I'm odd but |I've accepted the life style that is right for me and embrace it. With the Covid 19 lock down it was not a problem for me as I'm self isolating all the time :LOL: but of course for others who like to socialise it is difficult. Accept who you are, there are other people out there who share similar positive thoughts about living alone.
Just some thoughts ☺
 

I had a huge problem with it when my husband passed...I have gotten used to it and very much enjoy it now.
My apartment is set up for my convenience and comfort,I can decorate how I choose so just me and the kitties enjoying a peaceful,drama-free life,lol
 

mlh

I had a huge problem with it when my husband passed...I have gotten used to it and very much enjoy it now.
My apartment is set up for my convenience and comfort,I can decorate how I choose so just me and the kitties enjoying a peaceful,drama-free life,lol
hello giantsfan1954, i can completely relate to this. i too lost a spouse. i too enjoy doing what i desire without any drama. i do not have a problem with being alone. everyone else has a problem with my being alone but, i do not.
 

Ruth n Jersey

Well-known Member
I still have my hubby with me but if he should pass before me I will have no problem living alone providing I'm near one of my kids. I don't want to be a burden but would like to know they are near for emergencies.
At that time I would like a smaller home because I could never maintain the one we have.
I think it would be a big adjustment but I'm pretty sure I could handle it and I applaud those who are self sufficient and doing well on their own.
 

Rosemarie

Well-known Member
Location
England
Some people have a very narrow outlook on life and think everyone should fit into their idea of 'normal'. People who are alone by choice are viewed with suspicion by many, they think anyone who prefers solitude is weird in some way.
I have always been a loner. Even as a young child, I spent the evenings sitting in my bedroom reading, rather than downstairs with the rest of the family. I liked going for long walks by myself.
Now, at last, I live alone and it suits me perfectly.
 

Ruthanne

SF VIP
Location
Earth
I actually prefer to live by myself with my pet family, of course. I don't have to clean up after anyone or contend with someone else's habits.

It would be nice to have someone to visit with on occasion, though.

So, no, I don't see living alone as a horrible thing at all.
 

katlupe

Member
Location
NY
It is a big deal to me because I love it! These last two years I have lived alone for the first time in my life and I will never live with anyone else again. My son lives a block from me and I see him all the time. So no hardship for me. I like to say I can do what I want when I want. No cleaning up after anyone again (well, I have a small pet). My food lasts. I can cook and put leftovers in the refrigerator and they are still there for supper!
 

Bonnie

SF VIP
Location
Texas
I had a huge problem with it when my husband passed...I have gotten used to it and very much enjoy it now.
My apartment is set up for my convenience and comfort,I can decorate how I choose so just me and the kitties enjoying a peaceful,drama-free life,lol
I can relate to all of that! ... my life in a nutshell. .. LilBear (dog) and I are very happy in our solo existence in our apartment.

My younger daughter thought I really should have moved into their home when I became a widow, and it took a lot of convincing her that I needed to try life on my own ... I never lived alone in my entire life before this, always had parents, then husband.
It's been a wonderful experience living alone.
 

mlh

Some people have a very narrow outlook on life and think everyone should fit into their idea of 'normal'. People who are alone by choice are viewed with suspicion by many, they think anyone who prefers solitude is weird in some way.
I have always been a loner. Even as a young child, I spent the evenings sitting in my bedroom reading, rather than downstairs with the rest of the family. I liked going for long walks by myself.
Now, at last, I live alone and it suits me perfectly.
🤪 i am weird.
 

hellomimi

I'm an old soul
Location
City of Angels
It's a big deal to me too, @hellomimi. I miss the people I lived with because I loved them and they loved me. I loved someone having my back, and I theirs. It's the love I miss.
Very true. I'm happy to live with people that are more talkative than me. 😆 I cannot imagine working fulltime and having a pet I have to leave alone. I guess I have more love to give now that I'm single.
 

Ruthanne

SF VIP
Location
Earth
It is a big deal to me because I love it! These last two years I have lived alone for the first time in my life and I will never live with anyone else again. My son lives a block from me and I see him all the time. So no hardship for me. I like to say I can do what I want when I want. No cleaning up after anyone again (well, I have a small pet). My food lasts. I can cook and put leftovers in the refrigerator and they are still there for supper!
That's so true, we can do what we please when we please and no one will get bent out of shape about it... ;) :LOL:
 

Pecos

Senior Member
Location
South Carolina
My wife and I have both spent many of our adult years alone and it did not pose a problem for either one of us. We have been together for over 35 years now and I love living with her.

But we are well aware that at some point one of us will be called away and we are doing our best to plan for that unwelcome future. We are going to move to the West Coast to be closer to the children and we are going to move into a retirement facility where full services are provided. We also have to recognize that at some point, neither of us should be driving anymore.

I am slightly introverted and my wife is slightly extroverted. If I have to leave, I want to be sure that my lovely lady is in a safe, manageable place where there are more people around. I don't want to leave her rattling around in this big house cooking for one, struggling with yard work and home upkeep. We will have a large apartment where we can retreat to get our private quiet time. In that situation, I think that the one left behind will have the best of "being alone" and "being involved."
 

Pepper

Senior Member
Location
NYC
Just because I say I live alone, it does not mean I am alone in life. My pet is with me almost 24 hours a day, I think when I am gone for the day, he likes it.
You also said "My son lives a block from me and I see him all the time."
Nope, you're really not living alone. Don't mind me, I'm jealous! Wish I saw my son all the time. As it is I see him (and my grandson [sigh]) once or twice a week, but I'd like "all the time" better!
 

Gaer

Senior Member
So much understanding comes in one's aloneness. There is an unsatisfied discontent, yet, a tendency for complacency; both to be viligently fought.
One must always be growing, learning, studying, creating ,changing and re-inventing the self. For me, it's a time of great self-discovery. I have a feeling of expectancy. Everything can change in the blink of an eye! I must be prepared for anything!
 

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